Josh Harris, Lori Alexander and Troubling Ideas About Purity

Josh Harris, Lori Alexander and Troubling Ideas About Purity October 26, 2018
Josh Harris screen cap from the YouTube video TedTalks ‘Strong Enough to be Wrong’

It’s interesting that The Transformed Wife author Lori Alexander is attemping yet again to go viral. She’s repackaging her post on being a tattoo-free, debt-free, uneducated, sexually naive, stay at home daughter virgin once more.  I think it’s safe to say that she’s been triggered into doing so because of Josh Harris, author of “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”

Last week news broke via that he reexamined much of his book and was pulling it off the shelves. He’s soon to release a documentary on his journey of self-examination. Good for him because the book is filled with rape culture ideas. Purity culture is rape culture.

Harris spoke over two years ago about his suspicions that his book had hurt people.

While Harris still preaches no sex before marriage it’s interesting that he is able to see how his theology at 21 could be harmful to others and apologize. It’s rare in the world of Evangelical Christianity to publicly admit faults.

We’ve talked many times here about the dangers of believing the purity culture/rape culture duality that insists on modesty. Modesty harms women by making them responsible for the sexual behavior of men. It hurts men because it reduces them to toddlers/beasts, unable to control their biological urges and wants.

What does Ms. Alexander do when Josh said he was rethinking his ideas? She doubles down on the toxic. Here’s a meme she shared on Facebook:

Here’s the thing. If an author says that they’ve rethought their original conclusions it might benefit you to reread the book and see if he might have a point instead of coming out with your cyber arms flailing and demanding that others still follow that theology.

Nice that Harris can admit he was wrong. We all know that Lori Alexander cannot do that. It’s too hard, it requires critical thinking skills and the humility to realize you are not flawless. None of which Lori excels at.

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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping ithe plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. You can read more about the author here.

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