Are Stay At Home Mothers ‘Subtle Whores’?

Are Stay At Home Mothers ‘Subtle Whores’? February 8, 2019

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Lori Alexander is on her Facebook, Chatroom and her The Transformed Wife site claiming that she’s being called a ‘subtle whore’.  Funny, because Lori herself is the one that coined the phrase ‘subtle whoring’ when she kept bringing in up in her anti abortion post featuring the silliest of songs “I’ve Never Been To Me”.

This is not a phrase in common usage, not even among the more dirty mouthed QF female cultural enforcers, except to toss out in nasty comments against anyone disagreeing with them. Not even among real life sex workers. That seems to be the point it gets used the most, by Evangelical women.

Today Lori is using it to support her idea that stay at home mothers are the best. claiming that someone called her that. She’s posted a highly edited version of the comment. If she was actually called this disgusting phrase it’s only because she herself has used it against others. This is why using derogatory terms towards other women is never a good idea.

This all follows Lori asking what a submissive wife looks like and getting answers that surely do not line up with her other claims.

And the article features none of the positives she’s listed above, or anything encouraging. It’s merely another nasty rant against women who think that the women themselves should decide to stay home or work. Calling them nasty names of course.

Here’s what Lori Alexander is missing. Two different things.

First, having the freedom to chose to be a stay at home mom is wonderful. It takes nothing away from working moms, just like being a working mother does not denigrate stay at home mothers. Why not just support each other instead of tear each other down?  This is what feminism fought for, the right to determine your role. Lori is fighting a war that is manipulated purposely to divide women, not unite them. Jesus never addressed the issue of women working outside of the home because women have always worked in one way or another.

Second, Lori is being accused of subtle whoring because of a recent comment she put up, that I believe her quoted nasty comment might be from. Lori was bragging about all the freebies she gets living her life as a stay at home wife. Free rent, free money, free food, well you get the drift. That does not sound at all like a wife, it sounds like a possible gold digger. I’m not saying she’s a gold digger, but she’s not.. well never mind..

I am a stay at home wife too, but I have worked. I don’t know about you but what I do in my home is not get ‘free rent’, I put in sweat equity with my own labor as an equal, as a wife. The house is half mine too. My name is on the title as much as his is. I am a fully equal partner to my retired husband. As it should be. Free rent my flipflops~

Are stay at home mothers subtle whores? Not from what I’ve seen. These disgraceful words and terminology should never be applied to mothers, stay at home or working.

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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.

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