Good Patriarchs Aren’t Honored and Respected Because of Abuse

Good Patriarchs Aren’t Honored and Respected Because of Abuse February 20, 2019

Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies is upset today. She’s upset that women in general and random folks have zero respect or honor for her self-proclaimed ‘Good Christian Patriarchs’

Nancy goes to claim that it’s a heathen plot. By her favorite targets, feminists, socialists and humanists because everyone just knows that Patriarchs are good men slandered by others. *insert eye roll here*

See what I mean?

Nancy Campbell misses that in order to be esteemed, honored and treated with respect you have to behave in an honorable fashion. Seems like there is a great deal of that missing in the same self-spouting patriarchs Nancy is championing here.

For every good Quiverfull man, living peacefully with a loving wife and children, humbly and following after the words and heart of Jesus there are a dozen Quiverfull demented petty tin-plated dictator men yammering on about how ‘Godly’ they are while abusing someone else.

Maybe not their wives and children, though many times the main targets of such angry and hateful men seems to be the closest.  How many times have we seen or heard of someone like poor deceased Carri Chmielewski saying how happy their marriage is, while exhibiting symptoms that they are either being abused or controlled behind closed doors? Too many times. The ranks of victims who are abused by their husbands and fathers is a large one that puts lie to Nancy’s claims.

I don’t know if her husband abused her, but I do now that after Carri got away from her husband Mark she told many and posted online about the abuse she suffered. I was sorry to hear that, but it was a good reminder that no matter how happy someone claims to be that if you are seeing red flags it’s likely abuse is happening. It’s Evangelical Quiverfull’s dirty little secret, the abuse by men of their wives and children.

Even if that good patriarch is treating their wives and children well you just know that they are dumping on and abusing someone else. How many patriarchs have we seen that have to be constantly negatively picking on others? The gay population and Doug Wilson, Steven Anderson and a huge cast of other good patriarchs scared almost pants-less by the gays.

I missed that part in the Bible where Jesus ordered his followers to behave like their stuff doesn’t stink, like they are better than everyone else and to pick up giant stones to toss.

If, if they really followed the words of Jesus you’d see a much different church. You’d see a place where everyone is accepted and no one worried about anyone else’s sexuality. It would be their own business between them and God. No one would judge people for the wrong clothing, or lack of money. Lovingly approaching the abusers to let them know it must stop.  A true brother and sisterhood instead of a hateful little club filled with hypocrites.

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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here.
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