On Monday one of the most amusing and clueless things ever happened. Married for what, like three years tops, Jill Duggar Dillard decided to write a blog post about marriage titled ‘More Than Sex.’ Much of the post does deal with either sex or making your man want sex.
Still shaking my head and laughing over the very thought. Just what little I’ve seen on social media about the Dillard’s marriage does not scream ‘Good Marriage!’ It looks more like obsessed 12 year old girl with her first crush. How many times has Jill posted selfies of her and her husband Derick where it looks like she’s desperate for his attention, any attention really.
Jill is posting frequently promoting clothing lines and all sorts of things for sale mixed with photos of fawning over Derick and the unfortunately-styled food she makes.
But her sex advice is pretty funny, about like what I’d expect from a deluded adolescent girl. Here’s what Jill says about sex. Spelling choices are Jill’s, not mine:
-Have sex often! You both need this time together regularly (3-4 times a week is a good start. lol). And when you may not be able to actually have intercourse for a period of time or for health issues, find other ways to have fun and be intimate. Let your spouse know that you’re aways available. Guard against fulfilling sexual desires alone. Be open with your spouse about your desires and change things up to keep it exciting! (Philippians 2:3-4; 1 Corinthians 7:5) If you’re struggling with sex with your spouse, GET HELP! See a doctor and/or licensed counselor and don’t be afraid to get second opinions!
I am guessing mastur-you-know-what is extra verboten.
Jill’s ‘advice’ here holds elements of the ridiculous. No one, I repeat, no one can tell a couple how many times a week is right and proper. It varies wildly from person to person, and that’s okay. After nearly 33 years of marriage 4 times a weeks seems just a tad obsessive. Sometimes sex isn’t important at all. All marriages go through cycles due to life and circumstances. There is no right or wrong answer here.
Much of the article is complaining that people said she and Derick couldn’t possibly know each other well after a short time. I agree with that. But I am not sure you can ever really know someone extremely well you are not married to. Dated my husband for years and there were still surprises after marriage, mostly having to do with toenail grooming and clothing left over from the 1960s and 70s. Hello Nehru jacket and pink leisure suit!
Much of the other parts of the list are so silly, all about making yourself into the smiling, pretty, compliant, sweet-smelling doormat/domestic slave Mister requires. The lists of someone without much knowledge or life experiences.
At the same time I saw this someone kindly slipped me an address for a lingerie shop for Christians. One of Jill’s suggestions happens to be buy and wear smutty underwear for your man. Some of her list reads like a Cosmo magazine article from the 1970s.Back to the dirty underwear for Christians. The name of the site is “Honoring Intimates”. But I cannot figure out how wearing a fishnet see through cop uniform complete with a badge or a crotchless cupless teddy or a bondage-looking dress honors intimacy or God?
The site claims that they are honoring by posing the lingerie on plastic manikins instead of live models. Plus the fact that they add their own tags with scriptures instead. Removing anything that might show the female form. I’m not entirely sure that does not violate some trade law. Maybe I’m thinking of those tags on mattresses and pillows.
Edited to add. Visit the site and order if you like. But I had to remove the owners comments for violating the no promotion of commercial goods rules here. She also had added photos to some of the comments that violate the new filter rules here.
Fundamentalist Christianity is so incredibly weird and unnatural in their approaches to sex and anything to do with sexuality. Too bad because they’re complicating something so simple and fun.
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