Lori Alexander, Fake News and Hating Other Women

Lori Alexander, Fake News and Hating Other Women July 2, 2019
Screen cap from YouTube. Meme made on Imgflip.com

It was with amusement that I recently viewed Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife recent hand written screed about how weak women are.

Women might have less muscle mass than men and not be as large, but there’s nothing to indicate they are weaker emotionally. Women sometimes are much stronger emotionally than men. Even when dealing with the crises of home.

Or really even physically in the long run. Recent studies have concluded that women are better with endurance. Plus there is that whole squeezing a being the size of a small watermelon out of a hole the size of a lemon thing that is natural childbirth. That takes real strength, endurance, staying focused on the task at hand. I think  it might kill most men to go through that.

I cannot speak for anyone else but after 33 years of marriage I can confidently state that my husband tends to crawl into bed screeching he is DYING if he gets a cold.  So much for Mr. Macho when ill. I hear similar stories from my friends.

Heaven forfend if he ever got quite ill. His shoulder breaking has illustrated amply how awful of a patient he can be.

My point is that we all, male and female, have strengths and weaknesses. There are no hard and fast rules involving men only being strong and women being completely weak. Only completely weak women are among those ladies who lounge around the house watching Hallmark movies and judging what others do online.

But that’s not even the main issue that jumped out at me from Lori’s silly doodle.

It is this phrase jumping out of Lori’s jumble of written word vomit that gave me pause:

“Men pretending to be women are beating the best women in their individual sports!”

I saw that and thought Lori was busy making things up again. I’m married to a sports nut who would have surely been babbling about this if it occurred so it was a Googling I would go.

This was reported on one lone conservative news site. A site that tends to possibly make things up. Supposedly took place at the high school level in track and field. You know if this was true it would have been at the very least on Fox News. There are warnings at sporting sites about this story.

Plus the possibility has crossed the minds of those officials involved in women’s sporting arenas. Some organizations have come to the conclusion that only women with testosterone levels below a certain point may compete, to keep the playing field level, and stop exactly what Lori is falsely claiming here.

It goes without saying that Lori immediately deleted any commenter or Facebook commenter who pointed out how flawed her story was. Lori cannot handle any sort of polite disagreement.

Lori Alexander, purveyor of fake news and hating other women for years now. Yet gleefully capering in the attention of some of the most toxic weak men on the planet.


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  • Saraquill

    Lori says women are easily deceived. She committed reproductive abuse by not telling Ken what she did to her birth control. By this reasoning, Lori is a man and Ken is a woman.

    Que Lori having a screaming fit.

  • Aloha

    She works in a whole lap about this “deceived” thing. First, (can’t copy paste from handwriting, curses!) she says that “God made us emotional so we can raise kids.” Then segues into that we’re more easily deceived. So did God make us more easily deceived so we can lose all the money needed to raise kids?

    And then she ends with that we can study the Bible in order to not be easily deceived. But what? If the Bible itself says we’re easily deceived (Paul penned that gem), then how’re you gonna change it?

  • Raging Bee

    Why is she hand-writing text in a notebook to photograph it for display on the Internet? The whole enterprise looks like a schoolgirl dutifully copying what her teacher wrote on a chalkboard, then showing off what she’d copied to prove she’s a good little girl who wrote down what she was told, word for word, neatly and properly and always staying within the lines. And a lot of what I’ve read about her indicates that, yes, she’s really stuck in that phase of childhood rote-learning. This person has serious developmental issues.

  • Tawreos

    My question is if it is so important that she show off her neat penmanship, then why didn’t she do it over when she forgot a letter, or did she really mean to write soverly?

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    You know childhood trauma traps us at the emotional age it happened. I’d say she’s 7 or 8.

  • Raging Bee

    “Soverly?!” She wrote that? Did she mean “soberly?” That’s a typing error, since “B” is right next to “V”. How does she make a typing error when she’s hand-writing stuff? Did she hand-copy typed text? That just makes the whole thing even sadder and sillier than it already was. SHT was right: this poor woman is truly stuck at the emotional age of 8.

  • Friend

    Was Lori traumatized as a young child?

  • Friend

    Crucial point. Children are trained not to trust their own mothers. Sometimes the training is specific, and sometimes they learn this by osmosis. Very young boys are sometimes taught that they have authority over their mothers.

    The rest of us are allowed to learn nuance, gray areas, cognitive dissonance, mixed feelings, ambiguous messages. Dogmatic Christians do not allow such things. The children suffer.

  • Tawreos

    She meant “so overly”, but forgot it needed a space and another O. I make the same mistake often when I am typing, but I also try to correct the mistake when it happens. Apparently doing it again and getting it right is not something she feels is very important.

  • Nea

    I don’t think she’s hand writing; I’m pretty sure that’s a computer-generated “handwriting” font on a computer image.

  • Nea

    Okay, now I’m positive it’s a handwriting font on a computer image – complete with typo!

  • Friend

    Not sure. Sixth line up from the bottom has a correction from “soverly” to “so overly.” The ampersands are all different.

    If it is a computer-generated font, it was designed for those easily deceived women. /s

  • Nea

    Women are easily deceived, says the liar? Women are too emotional and oversensitive, says the person who deletes anything short of fawning praise? Lori needs to learn to recite her blog posts in a mirror.

  • Nea

    You can pay for fonts of your own handwriting (or someone who has neat handwriting and is willing to do the samples for you.) Lori strikes me as being exactly the type who’d want to own such a useless luxury.

  • Nea

    Everyone suffers, because the adults melt like butter in the summer sun when they have to deal with nuance and no right answers too. They pass that on to the kids.

  • Friend

    Agreed.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I am convinced of it too. Why? Because the photos are too perfect and perfectly in focus. I put together the images for here and it’s beastly hard to get handwriting to photograph so perfectly.

  • paganheart

    She has written in the past that her own parents had a very unhappy marriage, but to my knowledge she’s never gone into a lot of detail about what made it so unhappy. Perhaps something particularly traumatic happened when she was around 7 or 8 years old that has permanently stunted her at that age. Maybe her parents announced they were splitting up; maybe one of them walked out of the house and never came back. Maybe they had a knock-down, drag-out fight in front of her. Those kind of things will sear into a kid’s brain; like my cousin whose earliest, vivid memory from childhood is her mother screaming profanities at her father and throwing his clothes and belongings out on the front lawn when my cousin was about three years old. (Her mom caught her dad cheating with another woman.) My cousin believes she has PTSD from that moment and that because of it, she is afraid of her mother to this day. (The event happened 40+ years ago, btw.) Stuff like that will really mess kids up. I’m quite certain Lori has some dark stuff in her past…too bad she’ll never get the counseling and therapy she needs, and continues to spread her dysfunction all over the internet.

  • Friend

    I never want to blame a victim. However, she has enough insight to craft an online persona. She therefore has enough insight to perceive any internal pain of her own, and to have noticed that she thinks and reacts differently from other people. That is the starting point for healing.

    Damage entitles people to compassion, but not to a platform built on anger.

  • Raging Bee

    Okay…that doesn’t make it any saner though…

  • Brian Curtis

    You know, it seems odd to turn to a blatantly self-hating person for guidance on how to live, much less live happily. But what do I know? I’m not as enlightened as Lori Alexander.

  • Raging Bee

    I’m not an expert in handwriting, fonts or image analysis; but offhand it looks like it was really handwritten, though the page image may have been pasted onto the background. There’s a curve in the lines and the writing, and I see there’s a tiny “o” to correct the “soverly” bit. Also, Lori seems the type who would handwrite this stuff, and NOT the type who would bother with a lot of newfangled tricks and technology to fake her overgrown-schoolgirl-note-taking act. Dammit, Jim, she’s an emotionally-stunted anti-progressive Christian nostalgic, not a CGI innovator!

  • Raging Bee

    Can you please unstick my latest comment that got stuck due to a mild profanity that’s part of an old joke? Thanx…

  • bekabot

    The technical term is ‘projection’.

  • bekabot

    Props for very neat script. Reinforces stereotype, BTW, that girls excel in Neatness, Penmanship and Scrapbooking, but fall short when when it comes to Real Smarts.

  • Delta

    I love (by which I mean I utterly loathe) the circular reasoning these folks employ.

    Women are weaker than men. If there’s any woman who’s very athletic and better than some or even most men at it, then she must not really be a woman.

    Ugh.

    This is just a more extreme example of when I was doing community service with my CCD class, and we needed someone to lift something heavy-ish. Who do you think they chose: An elite athlete, or a non-athletic student who loved reading?

    If you guessed the obviously more qualified person, you’d be wrong! My teachers declared that “we need some strong young men to help with this,” and the athlete was a girl. Apparently, the “young men” part was more important than the “strong” part.

  • Delta

    It seems like Lori has decided to push her personal shortcomings on her entire gender to avoid responsibility for her faults.

  • Nea

    Like a frickin’ mega-movie multiplex.

  • Nea

    It’s sure convenient that she can hide behind “wommenz r stewpid!” whenever she does something really ridiculous, like not realize you have to actually pay for a new smartphone, isn’t it?

  • Nea

    Hey, it worked for her personal goddess Debi Pearl…

  • Nea

    If there’s any woman who’s very athletic and better than some or even most men at it, then she must not really be a woman.

    Lori is probably referring to – well, mangling a reference to – Caster Semenya, a gold medal Olympian in the women’s 800 yard dash who has been ordered by the International Association of Athletics Federations to take estrogen to “counterbalance” her naturally high levels of testosterone, which have given her an advantage. Those who follow Olympic sports have noted that Michael Phelps also has unusual hormone levels plus some unique musculature that gave him an advantage in his sport and was not told to handicap himself in any way or take hormone treatments.

    Guess which one’s the white American man and which one’s the black South African woman.

    And it is absolutely imperative to hammer home that while Lori’s snide “men pretending to be women” comment is offensive and wrong regardless, Ms. Semenya IS NOT TRANS. Lori is denying Semenya’s actual birth gender to make her anti-trans/anti-woman point.

  • Knitting Cat Lady

    If it weren’t Lori writing this schlock I’d suspect that she watched a few Rationality Rules videos.

    Trans women have been allowed to compete at the Olympics for 15 years.

    If being a trans woman conferred some exceptional advantage Olympic teams would have started stacking their line up with trans women by now…

  • Astreja

    Perhaps that explains the schoolbook printing in her journal.

  • Astreja

    I think she needs to stand between two mirrors so that there’s an infinite series of Loris yapping back at her.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    But notice she never says trans women, just men competing as women.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I knew there were bigger issues at play here, and that some of you would have greater knowledge than anything I could scare up in some Googling. It’s all so wrong.

  • Astreja

    No, I think it’s writing. There’s a lot of variation in the small s’s and y’s, for instance.

  • AFo

    Trying to justify her own uselessness. Lori must see other women actually doing things and needs a reason to continue doing nothing with her life, so she’s decided that those other women are sinful sluts and she’s the godly one.

  • Raging Bee

    Yep, that’s what we learn in early grade-school (the writing bits at least), even, I suspect, in the more liberal schools.

  • smrnda

    I’m really unsure how ‘more emotional’ is being quantified. She’s appealing to ‘everybody used to know’ but that’s pointless.

  • SAO

    Her argument implies that men get to be leaders because they are physically and/or emotionally stronger. That implies that women can/should lead men who are physically and/or emotionally weaker than they are. While I don’t know the physical strength of the average CPM leader, my observation is that most of them have remarkably little emotional strength. Besides, the average fit, young woman is probably stronger than the average unfit 60+ man, which basically means people like Gothard, Wilson and probably Solomon should be led by Alexandra Ocasio-Cortex.

  • smrnda

    they’ve just picked on arbitrary biological feature and declared it an unfair advantage. It’s like she won and they had to invent a reason to disqualify her after the fact.

  • Lucy

    The reason I don’t think it is that is because the letters in computer “handwriting” fonts are identical, and these aren’t. More likely, she pays someone to photograph the handwritten scripts (and I wouldn’t be shocked if she pays that person to handwrite the scripts for her too, though with her having been a schoolteacher she might have written them herself but not done her own photographing).

  • Lucy

    I don’t think you can pay for fonts that have several non-identical versions of the same letter, though. I do think AI might be able to do that, but I don’t think that level of fakery is easily available to the public as of yet (and if it is we’ll know since people will want to do the letter randomizing with non-handwriting letters too and we’ll see the effects of such a randomizing font show up in memes).

  • Nea

    She would, wouldn’t she? She’s going to deny the gender of both trans people and any cis woman who isn’t sufficiently submissive and femme.

  • SAO

    I think Caster Semenya has one X and one Y chromosome, but she has androgen insensitivity syndrome, meaning her body doesn’t react to male hormones (androgens), thus stuff like male genital development didn’t happen to the extent that at birth, she was assumed to be a girl and raised as one. No one, including her, doubted her gender until the Olympics tested winners for steroid use and her hormones popped up as way out of the range for a woman.

    In short, the best definition is that she is intersex, presenting as a woman, which most sensible people say means she is a woman. I suspect if she decided to present as a man, she’d be quite convincing and have a good argument, based on her chromosomes, to say her ‘birth gender’ was male.

    People like Lori tend to dislike anything that doesn’t fit with their traditional view of the world — that there are men and women and nothing in between. And really, before genetic testing, there was little evidence otherwise. If Lori were really a Christian, she’d feel love for all of God’s children, no matter what their biology.

  • persephone

    It takes sooooooooooooooo much strength to pound a keyboard. Yep, totally a man thing.

    I learned to type on a manual Underwood. They required two pounds of pressure per keystroke. I was pretty proud I could type 45 wpm on that monstrosity. Computer keyboards require around two ounces of pressure (varies depending on the type of keyboard).

    I doubt Ken has done any work around the house beyond writing a check to contractor. But, I guess, writing a check is too hard for a woman.

  • zizania

    I think I’ve mentioned before how the food security organization I’m involved with is mostly staffed by middle-aged and older women. We manage to sling 50 lb. bags of potatoes and cases of fruit around just fine, thank you very much.

  • Jennifer

    But they were originally required to have gone through surgery first.