What Does Submission Really Look Like? Part Two

What Does Submission Really Look Like? Part Two July 8, 2019

Remember last week when we had a lady telling a tale of how submissive she is? She spoke of not being allowed to speak at the dinner table as a sign of her submissiveness to her husband.

Many of you felt similar to I, that while needing a few minutes to adjust from the work to home transition might be a thing, but this is abuse, plain and simple.

I’m betting he wishes he could just “Ring” her mouth ala “The Handmaid’s Tale” a few episodes ago. It would certainly cut down on the talking.

Screen cap from ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’

Not allowing someone else to speak is abuse.

Now today the same lady went even farther in her explanations why her husband is not abusive and how she submits fully to him.

This is what financial spousal abuse looks like. No access to money, not even the money that she’s actually earning. On a tiny spending budget.

What if she had an emergency? Or ran out of groceries? Medicines? Needed to buy a plane ticket for a family member fleeing from abuse, or caught overseas? There are thousands of instances where you might need access to money and not have your husband nearby.

It would have been a disaster if I followed her type of submission. Why? Because last year when I had my stroke the private hospital required an $1,100 deposit on a credit card.

My husband was away spearfishing and surfing in Osa. Osa is quite the drive from San Jose. Had I been in her shoes there would have been no deposit, I would have been unceremoniously transferred to the public hospital without a neurologist. Luckily for me all I had to do was hand over the Amex for the deposit.

I look at her 10 to 20 dollar allowance and cringe. It’s not going to go far in lunches and pantyhose much less frivolous things. She is inhabiting a world in which she cannot buy silly things like nail polish and magazines, candy or a rare soda. It’s not going to go far at places like Starbucks, or even McDonalds. What if you need cold medicine and a bottle of oj in the middle of a workday? What if you have to go to the school and refill someone’s lunch account?

Everything she describes here is financial abuse at the hands of a sociopath using religion to justify his abuse and her acquiescence.

I want to cry because of her statement that she sometimes feels beat down and less than. She does not have to live like this. There’s nothing Godly or Biblical about it. A Godly man isn’t going to control every single aspect of your life. He’s going to trust that you are capable of making wise decisions concerning your personal behavior and spending habits. Please do not settle for this! It is abuse.

And Lori Alexander is praising her for this!

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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 32 years. You can read more about the author here. You can read more about the author here.
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