Lori Alexander – When You Cannot Admit You Are Wrong

Lori Alexander – When You Cannot Admit You Are Wrong January 26, 2020

I wanted to title this “Liar, Liar, Lori Alexander’s Pants Are On Fire” but figured it might be a bit much. Lori is back on Facebook after a 3 day time out for very bad behavior. She posted in  several places she’d taken a self-imposed Jesus-related sabbatical from Facebook, but later admitted she’d been banned temporarily. Typical Lori, two different stories dependent on who her audience is.

Here’s the thing I find the most curious and upsetting about Lori Alexander – her utter inability to admit when she’s wrong about something. She never backs up, she never turns around, and depending who is asking her then her story changes. Just apologize already and admit!

One of the big character reveals of people are if they can admit when they are wrong, or apologize or ask for forgiveness, even when they are not entirely at fault. Those that cannot are about as safe as a car that you cannot put in reverse, or make U-turn with.  It’s an enormous character flaw, one that people will notice and remark upon. It’s not slander (spoken) or libel (written) if someone notices you don’t do something well.

Recently I had a situation where several people had very wrong ideas about something I’d done. Rather than throw rocks at them, or avoid them like was my first instinct, I went to them, explained, apologized for any hurt feelings and misunderstandings that occurred, and we ended with laughter and hugs. Later, one of the people involved, and one bystander to the situation told me they were impressed by what I’d done and how I’d handled it, even if I hadn’t done much wrong I gave everyone a graceful out. I believe in grace and forgiveness.

But a big part of that is admitting when you’ve done something wrong, or handled a situation wrong. Like Lori Alexander did this last few weeks in promoting the “Make Women Great Again” Conference headed by Anthony “Dream Beach Muscles” Johnson. It came out after Lori’s promotion that Johnson is no Christian, and had said some rather disgraceful things about women and the ladies of the night he’d interacted with.

People were sending Lori those links to what he’d said in the past and she’d registered proper and appropriate disgust upon seeing it. Here’s one of many interactions she had:

Normal reaction, gives me hope that perhaps Lori isn’t that bad. Then she goes here in her secret roach nest of a chatroom, the incubator of bad ideas and falsehoods.

But Lori did read the tweets. I know for a fact they were sent to her and she read them. Remember that above response of Lori’s? It was to a lady in the Facebook group Lori Alexander Banned Me who did send Lori attached to that message copies of those nasty tweets in question by Anthony Johnson. Lori has just lied to everyone in her chatroom.

Why cannot she just admit she made a mistake endorsing the conference and Anthony Johnson and leave it at that? I flub up, I apologize. Sometimes it takes time to get there, but I do. We all do it. We all make mistakes, but it’s how we handle those mistakes that speaks the most deeply to the state of our character. Her character is shoddy if this is any indication.

I was amused by Anthony Johnson’s take on Dalrock  stopping blogging.

In the meantime Lori Alexander is back on trying to introduce  fat shaming through the back door with the subject of ‘Comfort Foods’

The intricate words and elaborations of a bad liar, methinks. See my thoughts on Debi Pearl’s lies on food this week because I think it applies here.

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  • frostysnowman

    Trump doubles-down on his lies and mis-statements all the time, and his fans love him for it. She’s following that example.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    You have a point. Clearly she learned this behavior somewhere

  • Jim Jones

    > “Liar, Liar, Lori Alexander’s Pants Are On Fire”

    I’d pay to see that!

  • Jim Jones

    Apparently there are people with no limit to gullibility. They vote, and sit on juries.

  • AFo

    Lori not-so-secretly approves of what these men do and believe, because they’re all about making women submit to men. She puts on the act for her chat room so she can cover her a$$ when their non-Christian behavior is brought to light. I really hope more people wake up to her lies.

  • Whitney Currie

    Truth in advertising. Something we just don’t see enough of these days.

  • Whitney Currie

    So there’s two things that jumped out at me. The first is that she’s actually claiming to have never eaten comfort food, which says to me she’s probably both a liar and has no idea what the term means.

    The second, and more important thing is that in my experience, when someone feels then need to keep certain things behind closed doors because outsiders ‘wouldn’t understand’ what I usually find is that outsiders understand just fine. It’s the person hiding behind those closed doors that’s the problem.

  • Friend

    So she’s…

    1) comparing Anthony “Dream1 Beach1 Muscles1” Johnson with Beth Moore

    2) saying that Anthony “Dream1 Beach1 Muscles1” Johnson is typical of men who do not follow Jesus.


  • She can take my comfort foods when she pries the noms out of my cold, dead jaws.

  • Saraquill

    Talking to Lori is more Christian? It’s more likely to get you banned, isn’t it?

  • Anri

    I’ve mentioned before that I do design work on industrial structures. Without being too specific (or boring), they are multimillion dollar items that deal in very heavy steel hundreds of feet off the ground, high temperature, high pressure, and constant human presence around all of these things.
    In my job, and my company, we utterly cannot afford – in any sense of the word – to fail to admit mistakes. It’s not only unethical and potentially extremely bad financially, it can quite literally get people killed.
    Inability to admit error is a terribly dangerous character flaw. More dangerous for some, but the problem is that you might not figure out they’re in an untenable situation until it costs other people something important.

    Upshot: just as well Lori doesn’t do anything requiring accuracy, intelligence, or precision that other people depend on. They’d be in trouble.

  • Brian Curtis

    the thing I find the most curious about Lori Alexander – her utter inability to admit when she’s wrong about something.

    What’s curious about that? Isn’t that the very definition and essence of religious fervor? Isn’t that what blind religious devotion is all about, 24/7? Denying reality in favor of clinging stubbornly to a belief, no matter how much evidence piles up that you’re wrong, is absolutely essential to the evangelical lifestyle. It’s built into every single day’s activities, and they practice methods of reinforcement constantly. The only wonder is that they haven’t gotten any better at it.
    A religious zealot who could admit error and learn from their mistakes would immediately cease to be one.

  • 24CaratHooligan

    Lying isn’t “Biblical” though is it Lori?

  • Raging Bee

    And Trump learned — and is still learning — what he can get away with from people like her.

  • Nea

    I’m not sure about the comfort food. Some people – I’m related to one – gain more “comfort” out of a holier-than-thou sense of refusing themselves comfort. Because that means they’re “strong” and “better” etc. Lori very likely does get an emotional rush out of NOT falling to food temptation.

  • Nea

    Why cannot she just admit she made a mistake endorsing the conference and Anthony Johnson and leave it at that?

    Because they held her up as an ideal and an authority, and admitting that her endorsement is a mistake is also giving up what she wants more than anything – to be seen as an ideal and an authority by the Big Boys.

  • Tawreos

    Claiming to speak for an all powerful omniscient god does make it a little harder to walk back things you said came from him. Also, in authoritarian regimes like Lori’s brand of christianity admitting you were wrong gives someone else a weakness to exploit and they cannot afford to have a weakness.

  • Mimc

    Yeah putting women in their place is way more important to her than Jesus. She’s not very good at hiding it either.

  • Jennifer

    I doubt Trump even knows who Lori is and she’s been this way since long before he was popular with evangelicals.

  • Jennifer

    Her utter gall..she’s a completely 1delusional narcissist. Johnson sees how harmful feminism is, but meanwhile treats 2prostitutes and other women like garbage. People see what a 4tool he is and THEY’RE the bad guys, for pointing out his words. Total villains, not “just wanting people to see his false teachings”, like sweet little Lori. MEAN mean women, picking on a little man and speaking evil about him. Boohoo.

  • smrnda

    I always thought of ‘comfort foods’ as the ethnic or regional cuisine that people grew up with, the dishes people have been sort of conditioned to like or associate with nostalgic times? Likely they’d be from the good old days before most of the junk foods Lori is griping about. She’s just being nasty and judgy about food.

  • persephone

    I know I’m paraphrasing, but there is a quote by, I believe, a Chinese noblewoman that read: What is patriotism but the desire for the foods of our childhood?

  • persephone
  • Cynthia

    Exactly. Isn’t chicken soup supposed to be quintessential comfort food? It’s reasonably healthy if you eat it with chicken and veggies and don’t have a lot of matzo balls with it.

    This is one of those things where I’m half a step out and my brain doesn’t quite understand on a gut level what she is saying. As you know, I’m Jewish, and it’s a religious culture that has no hang-ups about “gluttony” but that actually elevates and glorifies the whole idea of a mother cooking up some traditional comfort foods, and treats it as a religious experience. So, I read some stuff about mothers being around to cook for their families and nuture them, and the one positive association I have with that would be the sort of Friday night dinners I do with fresh baked challah bread and chicken soup, plus several more courses, for the extended family. My kids absolutely love it and it brings family and friends together. But then, Lori’s dissing of comfort food just pours cold water on that.

    Anyway, if anyone is craving some comfort food, here’s an easy chicken soup in the crockpot recipe. Mine is almost the same, but I use 4 onions, with skins, and just let it cook for 7-8 hours while I’m at work: https://kosheronabudget.com/simple-slow-cooker-chicken-soup/