Do Weird Sexual Things in Bed Because Larry Solomon Thinks You Should?

Do Weird Sexual Things in Bed Because Larry Solomon Thinks You Should? February 20, 2020

Several days ago we had Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles trying desperately yet again to promote his own odd sexual proclivity as God’s will. He couches it in language that a woman has to be so incredibly submissive to her husband as her Godly authority that you will do literally anything this side of legal your husband asks. Which, of course, leads right to the dungeon that is Larry Solomon’s dirty little secret desires in his mind.

According to Larry a wife is never allowed to play the “I am not comfortable with that” card. Only if it’s illegal or immoral. No matter if the man goes and does something like blows every penny they own on Pokemon cards, or decides that he’s not going to work just study the Bible. Or does like Larry and basically invents his own version of religion.

It’s all ‘Yes, dear,’ like a Real Doll with a menu of preprogrammed prerecorded responses. No emotions allowed involving gainsaying anything a man might think / say / do.

On a more personal level, what if he asked you to wear certain clothing in the bed room? What if he asked you to wear certain clothing in public (think going on a date or going to the beach)?  What if he asked you to change your makeup?  What if he asked you to do something uncomfortable in bed?

Do you pull out the “I am not comfortable with that” card as an exception to God’s command to submit to your husband “in everything”? Or have you convinced yourself that you not feeling comfortable with something equals that thing being sinful?  If you have done this you need to remember that God has made your husband your spiritual authority and instructor in the his Word.  The Scriptures say to wives in 1 Corinthians 14:35 that “if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home”.

Christian Wives, Ephesians 5:24’s command for you to submit to your husband “in every thing” means throwing out your “I am not comfortable with that” card.

Ladies, if you are personally uncomfortable with something in the bedroom there is not a scripture in this world that says you have to do whatever it is. We are called to love, to emotionally support,  and many other things in marriage, but being a walking talking sex doll for a man desiring things you don’t want is not submission. It’s abuse. A man that loves you like Christ loves the church would love you enough not to seek to harm you by abuse.

Guys like Larry do not want to work hard to seduce you, to please you so mightily in bed that you willingly run to it because it’s mutually pleasurable. They think only of themselves and their own pleasure.  Selfish lovers are rarely good.

Larry tries to manipulate women with the word of God. I guess he’s never read the part of the Bible where it speaks of manipulation being the same as witchcraft.

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  • (((islandbrewer)))

    Not pertinent, but I totally need one of those bathroom signs.

  • HematitePersuasion

    Trying to spin unquestioned submission to fetishes — Christian or otherwise — is creepy, I think he’s just making me uncomfortable, period. One hopes he is not married …

  • Jennny

    There’s a great comment over on FA today which says ‘Women are not machines that you put kindness coins into and 2sex2 comes out…’ I thought that was hilarious…

  • “Ladies, if you are personally uncomfortable with something in the bedroom there is not a scripture in this world that says you have to do whatever it is.”

    THIS.

    Tho I think it applies to everyone equally, regardless of gender, orientation, etc.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    Regrettably for his poor wife, I understand he is.

  • johnsoncatman

    Some people just don’t understand that consent applies just as equally to married people as to non-married people.

  • Freodin

    *shudder*
    No. I think they (at least the right one) is creepy.

    I am not centaurophobic, but depicted in this style… too many legs.#

    😉

  • Freodin

    If they were interested in se9xdolls, they could easily buy one, customisable to their tastes. And it may not be long until we get “walking talking” versions of these… for those with enough money.

    But this is not what these people want. What they really crave is power. The power to control, the power to force others to do their will. And this is boring with a doll.

    No, they need a living, breathing, feeling, thinking human being that they can force into submission. Someone who has a will that they can break.
    That is their real fetis9h.

  • Freodin

    THIS seconded. As well as your annotation. And I don’t have enough upvotes for this.

  • Freodin

    Hah, if only they paid in kindness coins…

  • Anri

    And if such a scripture exists… it is not as important as you – ignore it!

  • Anri

    Well, one of those is actually – NOPE NEVER MIND

  • AFo

    So this is how Larry justifies torturing his wife; she’s essentially not allowed to say she’s uncomfortable because he’s the big boss and she has to do what he says. That’s such a dangerous, immature view of the world that only a man-baby like Larry could see it as legit.

    Also, Larry, your wife isn’t saying she’s uncomfortable to avoid her “wifely duties,” she’s saying it because you’re a creep who probably makes every person, man or woman, in a ten mile radius uncomfortable.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    One of the angry incel2s that hangs around on Lori Alexander’s boards was saying that he cannot wait until there are sentient se2x dolls because men will turn to them and all women will be horribly humbled and have to fight over the remaining men. He does not realize that we might just issue a collective sigh of relieve over him and the Larrys and happily move on without them.

  • johnsoncatman

    Yep. I think he vastly overestimates his position.

  • (((islandbrewer)))

    Octotaurophobe!

  • Mimc

    He realizes that sperm banks exist right? Like if that’s all a guys is willing to actually contribute to a relationship we already have an alternative.

  • Saraquill

    He’s never heard of battery operated boyfriends (vibr4tors.)

  • Saraquill

    There were 10 commandments on Moses’ tablets Larry, not 9. If you’re going to commit flagrant idolatry, don’t call yourself Christian.

  • Saraquill

    Other people don’t understand arm twisting, nagging or otherwise being a twit until the other says “yes” isn’t consent.

  • lady_black

    Being uncomfortable with something doesn’t mean it’s “sinful.” It means you’re uncomfortable with it. Forcing someone that you are supposed to love to do things they aren’t comfortable with is sinful, abusive, and just plain ugly.
    It wouldn’t be “illegal” for a man to order his wife to pole-dance at a strip1 club, and it’s even debatable if her doing so constitutes “sin,” but if she’s uncomfortable with it and he insists she do it, it makes him a walking, talking asshole9.

  • lady_black

    If Larry were the last man on Earth, I wouldn’t waste 5 seconds fighting for him. I would start batting for the other team.

  • otrame

    It never seems to occur to guys like this that if they took a little time to make love to their wife instead of just ‮gnikcuf‬ her, that the wife might turn into a better lover too. (Not that there is anything wrong with a good old fashioned ‮kcuf‬, if both are in the mood).

  • Jennifer

    It IS sinful to expect someone to do something they’re not comfortable with in bed. It’s not sinful to disagree; what in the devil’s name is he 1smoking/reading?

  • Jennifer

    And his numbers.

  • bekabot

    One of my own theories is that subcultures in which birth control is truly and absolutely convincingly verboten are casting about for alternatives to it; IOW, they’re casting about for alternatives which can be framed as not being alternatives because they can be passed off as being about something else. For example, it’s much more manly to be able to say that you want your wife to submit to you in all things than that you just don’t want to have to bring up another kid or to have to pay for one. (Alternative example: it’s much more womanly to say that you’re saving yourself for marriage or whatever than that you really like doing This Thing or That Thing better than you like doing the Regular Stuff or that you’re keenly alert to the perils of presenting the world with another baby at an inconvenient moment.) This would explain the proliferation of the fetish in pockets of our society which are thought of as outwardly prim. As an explanation, it works for me; and I’m mildly curious to find out whether or not it works for anybody else who hangs out here.

  • Zeldacat

    Oh for f***’s sake, I am not married but am in a new relationship and have already informed him of a couple of things I am not comfortable with (gasp! Sex…outside…marriage!) and the response was perfectly civilized. In other words, he is a decent man. Larry…is not.

  • Debra Wehrly

    That is a common mind-set in serial killers

  • Debra Wehrly

    My condolences to his wife

  • Feral Finster

    Fundamentalism (of any stripe) only breeds lawyers, specialists in complying strictly with the letter of the law while doing what they want to do.