Michael and Debi Pearl and That Child Abuse Demonstration

Michael and Debi Pearl and That Child Abuse Demonstration February 18, 2020

We have to talk about this video. I’d heard tell that there was a Michael and Debi Pearl training video showing how Michael demonstrates copiously how to whale on a child with his ‘rod of correction. But I’d never actually seen it until last night when it came up on my Facebook feed in a group.

This runs very counter to the claims of the Pearls, the recent claims, that what they teach isn’t child abuse. We’ve seen in recent years the Pearls furiously back pedaling away from their former words. They keep trying to promote a kinder, gentler No Greater Joy with the abuse hidden behind coded language. Just look at this week’s chapter of Debi Pearl’s book “Create a Better Brain Through Neuroplasticity” on autism and tell me Michael’s solution would not involve a ‘Rod’?

We’ve talked a lot about the Pearl’s abuse, but we’re not shown it. This is what it looks like to beat a child. I’ve left the time markers on the screen caps below to show where in the video each shot was taken.

Since the video has been taken down, and the Pearls have threatened various people with  a law suit over it I took screen caps of the worst parts. Warning: VERY disturbing, but take a look at what Michael thinks is good parenting.

In the previous two photos Michael is slamming, slamming the head of a stuffed sewn doll to the table at full force to illustrate how to get a child’s attention.

Hands around neck in a choking motion.

Child doll held by pulling it’s hair while the switch comes down so rapidly in Michael’s right hand it is a blur.

Pulled by the head and beaten by a rod.

Again, the hand holding the rod is moving too quickly and with too much force for the camera to catch. A blow this hard would break capillaries and leave bruises on a real child.

It may be a doll, a lifeless lump of cloth and padding, but it’s still disturbing to see Michael wielding that rod and holding it by the hair.

And the video….if you are brave enough to watch the entire thing.

….and Debi laughs while Michael acts out his pathological rage on the representation of a child. There’s a special place in hell for people who enjoy inflicting pain on children.

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  • AFo

    The hair pulling combined with the beating2 just makes it all the more disturbing. He’s inflicting pain on the child even without the rod2. Also, slamming a child’s head into a table is a good way to cause a concussion. I should be horrified by Debi’s laughter, but we’ve all known for a long time how much she enjoys seeing others in pain. Maybe it’s the fact that I grew up with non-lunatics for parents, but I really can’t see how anyone saw this demonstration and thought it was a legitimate form of child discipline.

  • I can barely understand a word she’s saying. And, uh, I’m one of those people who can understand Ozzy-mumble.

  • Tawreos

    A blow2 this hard would break capillaries and leave bruises on a real child.

    Most sadists2 like to see evidence of their handiwork

  • Tawreos

    I guess they don’t believe in all of that do unto others nonsense.

  • SAO

    Michael Pearl is a psychopath. I find it quite a strong condemnation of Christianity that anyone followed his ‘teachings’ thinking it had anything to do with following Jesus or being a good person.

  • Sassafras

    Sick mothefuckers2! If you do this to somebody at a bar, you get locked up, but you do it to child it’s “discipline”. I wouldn’t shed a tear if the Pearls fell into an active volcano!

  • Nea

    Mikey swears up and down that his form of child abuse doesn’t leave proof marks.

  • Saraquill

    I’m sorry social services weren’t able to save the Pearl children. Do we know what’s happening with the grandchildren?

  • Nea

    Kinda makes you surprised only three kids (that we know of) have been murdered1 by this method, doesn’t it?

  • Saraquill

    Debi and Mike make it way too clear they don’t believe in consensual s4dism, or safety practices.

  • Tawreos

    He also thought that beard was a good idea, so I am not about to listen to what he thinks. =)

  • Nea

    Well… the kids by Gabe’s first wife got out entirely and Gabe’s runaway wife won custody by claiming, in court, that Pearl methods were abusive. But apparently he still has/had visitation, so who knows.

    Some of the kids are being raised in a trailer with no electricity or running water, which ought to make Child Services take them, but who knows.

    At least one daughter brags about how she let the toddler (!) train (!!) the baby (!!!!!) but it turns out that said toddler seems to have used the reward method. Which is both un-Pearl-like and proof that a literal toddler is a more fit parent than the parent.

  • Nea

    The beard is part of his “Mountain man” persona and presumably also proof of “Behold, I am the one with testosterone around here, so you better listen!”

  • Mel

    In terms of their lawsuit: you can threaten as many lawsuits as you want – but you need money to hire a lawyer. The Pearls could, I suppose, try and represent themselves – but really doubt they could fill out the requisite paperwork for small claims court let alone an major lawsuit. More broadly, the law is pretty clear on the fair use rights of people to watch small video clips. Plus, the material of the clip is quite inflammatory and the Pearls REALLY don’t want either that video or To Train Up A Child read into another court proceeding so I wouldn’t worry too much.

  • this hurts my heart.

  • Friend

    Watched the whole thing. Terrifying1. In the last few seconds he throws in some awful language about black Muslim1 prison1 gangs1, who are apparently worse because they refrain from fornication1…

  • Friend

    The Pearls didn’t invent this, of course, they just found a way to monetize it. The number is far higher, even before you add in the ones who took their own lives after years of abuse.

    /preaching to the choir

  • Nea

    He’s terrible at his own version of manhood. Simply terrible. He can’t consistently provide because he’s either in a depressive slump (during which Debi had to line up work for him) or in a manic phase of disrupting the family either by moving across state lines one step ahead of CPS with no work ready or spending the money he has got on mountains of junk to give himself shopping therapy.

    He can’t take care of his family because he believes in his core that they are there to take care of him, from the wife he treated like a robot from the moment he married her to the infants who “defy” and “rebel against” him for having their own needs.

    But by george, he can threaten anyone who looks at the man behind the curtain, so that’s what he’ll do! He’ll make a living out of telling people exactly how to abuse and dehumanize wife and children, he’ll offer to “beat up” men at the drop of a hat, he’ll go hunting with the wrong rifle and no idea of what to do with what he’s hunted, he’ll take up knife throwing because it sounds cool and dangerous (and then go for distance contests instead of skill contests, because he’s EXACTLY the kind of guy who’s all about length and none at all about how to use it), and he’ll even try to dominate the whole world by sneeringly describing how he’s derisively “laughing” at them uproriously for a little thing like attaching his name and teachings to child murder1.

    Frankly, there isn’t a thing he’s said, done, (or grown on his face) that doesn’t absolutely SCREAM “I am deeply deeply insecure and unable to handle it.”

  • Ann Nienow Bowen

    Ozzy mumbled hello to me once at T2 at LAX. I smiled and said hi back.

  • persephone

    The Pearls are terrible9, but what gets me the most is the audience cheering and clapping for the abuse9. Sickening9 beyond belief.

  • persephone

    That laughter is definitely 9fear/relief laughter. She’s probably happy too that, having had kids, Mike now has other people to abuse9 besides her.

  • TirzaR

    “Make love to him”??? Yeah, cause sex solves every problem. What else woudl you do? Just have sex with your husband and he won’t be a sadistic f*er anymore. You’re welcome for my advice to your stupid question.

  • Sassafras

    I like beards if they’re clean and well-groomed. Mikey’s beard resembles the beard of Mr.Twit from “The Twits”.

  • James Yakura

    Holy 6crap9, is this “how to raise a child” or “my favorite bar fight moves?”

  • frostysnowman

    “Have fun with it”?!?!? Sickening.

  • Nea

    I would like to agree, but Debi has her own… issues… regarding causing pain, fear, and degredation to others.

    She has referred to other women as “human trash” and “hillbilly ugly, which is worse.”

    She has abused toddlers on her own; there’s the full-weighted punch that caused a very small child to make a “karate-like wheeze” and her proud glee explaining how 1) she gave her own child over 50 lashes and 2) she abused a child not her own for the double crimes of not being interested in a toy or playing with it in the manner she dictated.

    She likes to mentally/emotionally harass her own women employees, pounding and screaming on the lavatory door while they’re using the toilet “as a joke.”

    She probably has feared Mikey since he emotionally abused her on her wedding day and physically abused her on the honeymoon, but at the same time, there is a fair amount of evidence to say that there is more than fear laughter here.

  • persephone

    I agree. I think, though, that she’s one of those women who is abused, then turns and deflects the abuse onto others. It’s still absolutely wrong, but I recognize that her fear has ruled her life. Now, though, the fear has changed, because Mike dying is going to mess up her income and her life. I doubt that any money was ever saved, because Mike is a spendthrift. Debi’s probably frantically trying to score as much income as she can before he kicks the bucket. She’s probably also having to pay out a lot for his care, because they undoubtedly didn’t get government support of any kind.

    I have no pity for her. I’m just referencing her behavior. It’s not uncommon behavior for the bullied and abused. Laugh, deflect, s3ks.

  • Oh wow. Choking a helpless child. That’s just awesome and something that happened to me at fourteen. It took years for me to learn that this was abuse.

    And my former friend from high school thinks I was “whining” when I started blogging how my mother and I didn’t get along. SMDH.

  • Well, not public evidence. Because, you know, law enforcement.

  • Raging Bee

    Well, children shouldn’t be in bars, so…

  • Raging Bee

    And why does this 1d10t have to make a video showing people how to beat up someone less than one-third their size? Is beating children a lost art that has to be re-taught or something? Or is this just a pathetic worthless old man showing off what little manly toughness he has, the only way he can think of?

    Do these sad f00ls really think they have some special knowledge of how to hurt a child that’s better than what other parents do?

  • Raging Bee

    The Prince of Darkness isn’t on a no-fly list?!

  • Ann

    Nope he and Sharon and a small entourage were visibly leaving the terminal. He just seems so nice that she I wouldn’t cross the street for.