Quiverfull Adoptive Parents Unprepared For Realities of Adoption?

Quiverfull Adoptive Parents Unprepared For Realities of Adoption? August 21, 2020

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We’ve spoken about this topic a number of times here now, from the disrupted adoptions of people like Myka Stauffer and son Huxley, Nancy Campbell’s pile of failed African adoptions, Hana Williams death at the hands of her adoptive parents. Just a few of the flood of very bad outcomes in Evangelical Christianity for adoptive kids. Mix in the total toxic tripe that is Michael and Debi Pearl’s ministry and their book “To Train Up a Child” and you have serious reasons to know that adoption is dangerous for children in this culture.

The book has been found in the homes of dead adopted children like Hana Williams no matter how much deniability the Pearls scream out.

I’ve mentioned more than once the roughly 40 percent and greater number of disrupted Evangelical adoptees that resided at the children’s residential treatment center I worked at. Thrown away because the families involved had no idea what they were getting into. They had been told by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies and others that God wanted them to adopt, and they made zero accommodation for a living child having cultural differences and a host of other issues. They were shocked when the child was not grateful for their white Evangelical rescuers. Kathryn Joyce has written a book on the subject “The Child Catchers”.

The book brings up the significant issues of going into adoption blindly while believing your Christian faith will override any potential problems. That is just not so. Evangelical families that adopted were ill prepared for the problems that confronted them. Leading to child trafficking, sometimes even sex trafficking. Children given to unqualified strangers illegally to raise, who many times just abused them.

In trots the newest contender for the sucking up to Debi Pearl hard enough to write for No Greater Joy magazine – Wanda Kinsinger. NGJ has promoted her book on homeschooling, so there’s that mutually beneficial relationship there too. Wanda has attempting a handful of times to climb to the top of Quiverfull Enforcer Alpha Mountain and failed. She’s older, her kids are no longer home to be homeschooled and she’s an adoptive mother.

She’s written a piece in the newest No Greater Joy magazine talking of adopting babies from Vietnam and how much harder it was because of culture and other things she claims impacted the babies behaviors. Without having any experience of raising birth children she says they are harder.

“We believed that since we had adopted our children at such young ages, we could raise them normally without any adoptive issues. We spent the next several years learning just how mistaken we were.”

I have serious doubts about this claim. Granted, babies raised in overstuffed orphanages do bring some issues with them, it’s easier to overcome the issues in babies as opposed to older children with the right types of therapy and help. But we all know what therapy, outside help and any medical help are considered in Pearl world.

“Adoption issues are very real and need to be addressed practically. Unfortunately, there was little in the way of information and resources available to us at the time. “

It does not help that this is a culture that pushes the narrative that if you just love them enough in the name of Jesus it will all work out shiny and bright. Which it does not.

“Between that, the Pearls’ teachings, and a lot of grace, my children are the amazing young adults they are today.”

The “that” she’s talking about here is the Holy Spirit. We all know that the Pearl’s teachings all involve the rod of correction and beating the child to break their spirit. In other words child abuse.

She speaks in the rest of the piece about how difficult it is to ‘deal’ with adopted children as opposed to birth children before taking an awkward leap straight into Debi Pearl’s recent book on brains that’s filled with nonsense – “Create a Better Brain Through Neuroplasticity” This is an advertorial for Debi’s book like much of this issue’s content. I have rarely seen the Pearls promote one book so obviously and relentlessly and I have to wonder why.

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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 34 years You can read more about the author here.
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