March 27, 2019

Staying married isn’t easy. So how do you make your marriage work? The key to making your marriage work is understanding you won’t be married to the same guy your whole life. I’ve been married to three. I’ve been married only once. But in one marriage, I’ve been married to three different men. My husband has changed over our 33-year marriage. The man I married is not the man I’m married to today. Shortly after we married, I thought for sure… Read more

March 25, 2019

When people talk about things you shouldn’t do in marriage, cheating, lying and abuse usually top the list. It’s true those things won’t lead to a successful marriage, but there’s one thing you shouldn’t do in marriage that’s rarely talked about. Gossip. Can you gossip about your husband? When you tell someone the negative attributes of someone else in an unkind way–no matter who that person is– it’s gossip. It seems to be an acceptable practice to bad-mouth your husband… Read more

March 22, 2019

Sharing your relationship problems with friends and family may not be the best idea. I drove around for about an hour pouring out my frustration about my husband to a friend. I told her about how wrong he was and how angry and mistreated I felt. Early in my marriage, I didn’t consider the impact of sharing relationship problems with friends and family. She asked questions. Even appeared sympathetic. Without saying it, she agreed he was the bad guy, which… Read more

March 20, 2019

Easier said than done, especially when you know best. How can you stop controlling your husband? Early in my marriage, I thought, “I know best, so let me tell you how to do it right.” In other words, let me show you how to do it my way. I thought I knew best and my husband ought to just deal with it. In reality, I was trying to control him. Maybe you can relate. Here’s how I “helped” I don’t… Read more

March 12, 2019

Marriage offers plenty of opportunities to learn how to deal with anger. Did you know anytime you’re feeling angry, you’re actually feeling something else but you’re masking the real feeling with anger? You may find yourself asking, “Why am I so angry?” Anger is a real intimacy inhibitor in marriage. Getting to the real problem is key in dealing with anger. Anger is a secondary emotion, which means there’s some other emotion hidden beneath the surface. Masked beneath anger could… Read more

March 9, 2019

Praying for your son’s future wife can be a powerful thing. I have no idea who my son’s future wife will be. But praying for my son’s future wife is one of the best things I can do for him. When my son first asked me to marry him, he was 5 years old. I let him down easy when I told him I was taken. But, I assured him God had already chosen his future wife. I pray she’s… Read more

March 5, 2019

I wasn’t prepared for the moment my kids could legally buy and drink alcohol. And I don’t feel like I prepared them for it either. How do I talk to a young adult about alcohol? Sure, we’d talked about underaged drinking and risks of using drugs and alcohol since they were little. But we rarely have wine in our home. Never beer or hard liquor. So, I assumed my kids would be like me. Rarely, occasional or not-at-all drinkers. So when… Read more

March 3, 2019

Does this sound like you? He never listens to me. Where’s the man I married? I’m married, but I feel alone. Why won’t he help? I’m not sure I need him. When I start talking, he just shuts down. Do you remember what life was like when you first married him? You had hopes and dreams. You talked to one another. Something changed…and not for the better Reality set in. Life began. Marriage is not what you thought it’d be…. Read more

February 20, 2019

“Cute haircut . . .”  It sounded like a compliment until he added, “It’d look even better if you’d combed it.” Then he said, “I’m Oprah’s stylist, so I just say whatever I want to people sometimes.” I was momentarily stunned. Was it kind of a compliment to be insulted by Oprah’s stylist? I ran into him while in the mall picking up a tube of mascara one Saturday morning. I thought he was a sales associate and was about… Read more

February 20, 2019

You’re fat. Lose weight. Love, A Friend. Imagine my surprise when I opened an anonymous handwritten letter addressed to me and read that. “Anonymous” said she remembered how thin I used to be. She was doing me a favor by recommending a weight loss product that really worked. Well, she obviously knew me. Within the last year, I’d had a baby and still couldn’t fit back into my pre-baby jeans. If you’re anything like me, you’ve struggled with being comfortable… Read more

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