Is your wife asking, “Are we okay?” 4 triggers that make her feel insecure in your relationship

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1. Conflict. For most guys, conflict is just conflict; it is fairly easy to put it out of your head and focus on whatever you’re doing that day.  But for most women… not so much. In my research for For Men Only, one woman explained it this way: “A lot of desperate feelings surface when [Read More...]

My ADD son is checking out in school

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  Dear Shaunti, My 6th-grade son is discouraged in school and I’m worried he’s starting to check out.  He tries hard, but he has some learning issues (like ADD) that create real academic challenges.  Where his sisters get A’s with little effort, he can work for hours and get B’s and C’s on his tests. [Read More...]

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

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Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best of your spouse’s intentions.  But all that does is give your spouse license to hurt you again and again without consequences.  Who cares what their intentions are, if the result is pain?  My husband says things that are harsh to [Read More...]

Guys wonder: do compliments really matter? Three things your wife is secretly thinking:

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“Am I beautiful?”  You may think your wife is beautiful, adorable, sexy, and you love to look at her.  And yet…. she probably sees all her flaws instead.  She has deep doubts about whether she is beautiful at all.  Little girls will spin in a pretty dress, asking “Daddy, am I pretty?”  And guys, your confident, [Read More...]

Diamond Disappointment: If the ring is cheap, does it mean his feelings are too?

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The day my boyfriend asked me to marry him was one of the happiest days of my life. He went all out: perfect location, meaningful words, and down on one knee with a lovely ring. At the time, I wouldn’t have changed a thing. But now, just a few months before the wedding, my ring has become a source of stress. I’d honestly like something bigger, with a bit more style. My fiancé says we don’t have that kind of money, but he doesn’t seem to have a problem buying fancy accessories for his car. I’m worried that his lack of “splurging” on my ring means that he just doesn’t prioritize what matters to me – which means he doesn’t prioritize me. What do I do with that? I’m willing to forego eating out or whatever we need to do to upgrade my ring, but he’s not budging on the budget.
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Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

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Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may [Read More...]

When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

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Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over.  My husband and I were on the same page politically until a few months ago, but are now very divided.  I literally can’t skim past a cable news channel without my husband trying to force me into a discussion about a political issue. He’s [Read More...]


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