How I Got Over My Very Public Mistakes

Last week, I was amazed at all the people who read my posts and left comments. (This post about expecting a call from the President got almost 2,800 comments and was shared 131,000 times on this site alone… And, no, my phone didn’t ring.)

Most of the comments were wonderful and supportive. (I’ve addressed some of the not-so-nice comments here.)  But there’s one constant criticism I didn’t talk about:  some of you insist on calling me a hypocrite. After all, I became a mother before I walked down the aisle – how can I talk about waiting until marriage for sex?

I find it strange that the culture rightfully applauds former drug addicts who warn children of the dangers of drug use. They are happy to listen to former alcoholics talk about how they finally are living a clean life. But when it comes to me talking about waiting until marriage for sex, it’s almost like people want me to slink away in shame… unable to show my face in public again because of my past mistakes.

I want this blog to be a place where we can all be honest, so let me start. I’ve struggled with feelings of guilt and shame. I know (judging from my inbox) many of you have too. A Christian counselor named Ed Welch helpfully writes about what to do after you’ve made a huge mistake:

It feels so right – so spiritual – to live with regrets. It means you feel bad for the wrong things you have done or think you have done, and that sounds like a good thing. If you forget those wrongs, you are acting like they were no big deal.


We live with regrets because we think we should. We think it’s the right thing to do—that it is our duty before God. But…
The Kingdom of Heaven is regret-free. The truth is that the triune God liberates us from past regrets. His will is being done. Bank on it. Neither your human limitations nor your sins hinder the good plans of your sovereign Father.
Let’s go one important step further. It is God’s will that you jettison past regrets.

So what does that mean?

Stop.

Stop living under a cloud of guilt, stop wondering what life could have been like had you made better decisions, and stop beating yourself up over that thing you’ve done.

Read the rest of his post here, and get over the regret you’ve been carrying for far too long.

I have.

 

  • dan

    Throw the past and regrets away, live today ,thank G-d everyday for the outcome. What might of looked like a mistake at the moment turned into a beautiful blessing from G-D ,He gave you YOUR SON. How can you ever regret that . Change that “I AM SORRY ” blackboard with “A PICTURE OF YOUR SON “.
    And make sure that you let all the garbage talk about you and your family ” roll of your back like water on a duck’s back” as your Mom wisely said

  • Loren Wright

    Bristol, everyone makes mistakes in life including myself. Just deal with it, it isn’t the end of the world. I once worked with a guy that seemed to have the feeling that if he made one mistake life would be over for him. He eventually left our place of employment and got another job out west. I understand he did advance in our profession. You can do it too, don’t hang on to the negative mistake, deal with it. Believe me, you aren’t the first lady to make that mistake. I will keep you in my prayers, I think you are a good person, one that should be kept a good person and a person that is positive and always looking upward and forward. Trust God, he will see you trough the most difficult of times, he is there for you and so am I.

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  • Evelina Sanchez

    Hi Britol,
    I enjoy reading your blogs. I think you are an inspiration to a lot of women, young and old. I too had a daughter outside of Marriage and can relate to you on a lot of issues. Thank you for not being afraid to be you. You just keep on being you.

    God bless you
    Evelina

  • Gayle Ann Swanson (Past President of the Valley Republican Women’s Club)

    Hi Bristol,
    I just want you to know that I have always admired you. It takes a lot to make the decision to live the life that God has meant for you to live, even in the face of the haters that have been so horrible to you and your family. I totally understand making mistakes. But YOUR little boy was never a mistake…God KNEW before he was formed in your womb, that He was going to gift you with a son….What a precious gift. I am proud of you for advocating Abstinence and I agree with you about warning others. God says that it’s by the Blood of the Lamb and the power of our testimony that others will come to know Him. So keep it up girl….You rock…and I am proud to read anything you write. I learned when your mom ran, that the media NEVER tells the truth. So I would rather read it from you, than from them! God Bless you dear girl….

    • ^^You are^^

      You are an agent, no one would say this crap. This really doesn’t make sense your advocating abstinence and then praising her for bringing this precious gift into the world. She’s basically a textbook example of hypocrisy and endorsing her and saying in the same breath abstinence is the way… but it wasn’t a mistake- it was god’s plan? You’re beyond hypocritical into some religious la la land.

  • len gane

    So the Apostle Paul: For I am the least of all the apostles—I do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted God’s church.
    (1 Corinthians 15:9 GNB). So all of us. That’s is what forgiveness is. He is who forgiven much, loves much. Thanks for the post.

  • http://aconservativeknitteretc.blogspot.com/ Ali Garrett

    Bristol You know what I admire about You..?. You are a normal Girl Who got thrown at the whole Country so many people are so offended by Gods grace they will take anything down they can. As a Christian i have so many mistakes i can’t count on my fingers & tows. If i had been but in front of everyone durng one of them, i would not have come out of it as well as you have. You are strong You are your Mothers Daughter. & are so amazing at what you are doing hear with this blog, we need more Young Women like You.. Your Book is Amazing i am 30 & it gave me tears @ times, Just Amazing..

  • Julie

    You did an absolutely wonderful job on Dancing with the Stars!!!

  • Tom Wiley

    You’re an inspiration, don’t ever shut up or go away. People need to hear the message you have, not the lies they’re being told daily by The Media and Hollywood. Don’t listen to “The Accuser of our Brethren” Rev 12:10 Having conscious is different from being judged for past mistakes that you’ve already accounted for.


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