No Longer Quivering
by Doug Wilson from Blog and Mablog – Made Precious
Editor’s note: A very twisted take on ‘Let go and let God’ in the unquoted part Wilson tells his fictional sexual assault victim to do just that because God will punish her attacker for being unrepentant. So apparently being squeamish about sex after being sexually abused leads to all sorts of crazy things in Wilson’s mind. The only solution being turn it all over to God. No real concrete advice, like therapy, just turn to God. That’s not always the best way to heal abuse, why not turn to God as your own beliefs lead you AND get therapy? Why is therapy always so threatening to these guys?
But you know that being married and flinching every time your husband touched you would be no fun for him, and so it is easy for you to assume that you are a lost cause. And this is why so many girls in your position feel like they have to opt for either a bitter “chastity” or promiscuity. The bitter chastity can take the form of lesbianism, where attempts are made to banish the intrusive male, or it can take the form of a sexless, angry, and very solitary life. Promiscuity results when a girl concludes that she somehow must have deserved the treatment she got, and if that was the case, she must still deserve it. The impulse comes in the form of self-destructive urges. “If someone as important as my father treated me this way, then he must have seen how worthless I am.”
This can drive other forms of recklessness as well—drugs, alcohol, crazy driving, tattooing, cutting yourself, and so on.
But you were created to be protected. You were created to be treasured. That wall of protection was broken down by your father, and the one charged to protect you became the one you needed protection from. But—and this really is good news—the wall can be restored. When you turn the whole thing over to God, you are turning it over to a Father who sent His Son to suffer and die on a cross for you.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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