He’s Here! Meet Garrick Ravi…

I am in a little bit of awe and it's hard to take the enormity of this experience and express it. It's hard to access my usual reflective thoughts in the midst of something so staggering and grand.Our son was born exactly one week before his due date, last Saturday May 21st. He is three days old today.The experience of labor and delivery was unlike anything I ever could have imagined. None of my plans or research meant anything. Even though it went well, it was still brutal. Childbirth … [Read More...]

What Are Men Afraid Of?

The struggle to bring women's rights back into equality with men's is one that is happening in every culture that I know of all around the world. There's still a long way to go in both India and America for women to have autonomy over their own lives, to have the choices that men have, and to be treated as human beings.The saddest thing about this to me is that traditional Hindu culture had more equality for women than current culture does anywhere. Think about the word "equality" for a … [Read More...]

Sunday School for Hindus

Sunday school is religious education for kids. The vast majority of churches have these programs during Sunday morning services so that's where the name comes from. As Brad and I await the birth of our son, we are thinking about religious education for his future. There are various Hindu programs in America to choose from. Chinmaya Mission Balvihar  Using fun activities to teach Hindu values. Chinmaya Mission's founder says children are not empty vessels to be filled but lamps to be lit. … [Read More...]

What if Whiteness Disappears Completely?

Recently an Old Navy ad featuring an interracial family brought some intense racism out of the woodwork. Twitter was full of people insulted by this beautiful family in an ad. It's pretty mystifying to me that people can have so much anger over someone else's family. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't know where it comes from.There's a fear running deep in some parts of America, a fear of disappearing, of vanishing. There are white people who fear that whiteness will cease to exist because, … [Read More...]

What Is Hindu Hair?

This topic was a real surprise to me. A friend on Facebook shared a post from Kat Blaque, a well known vlogger and activist for issues of gender and race. Ms. Blaque was telling her readers about a man who said that he was growing dreadlocks as a way to express his new found religion: Hinduism.She thought that sounded off so she was asking for input from Hindus about whether dreads are a part of the religion. To her he seemed like someone who is doing it more for vanity and finding an … [Read More...]

Got My Holi Afterall

Holi was very late for me this year, but I'm glad I didn't miss out completely! As I mentioned before, my baby shower happened to be on the same day as the big Holi event in this area. It's a little sad to me that you have to find an event and go to a location to participate in Holi. I do wish it was more all around and something you encounter as soon as you walk out of your house. But it is what it is and most years I make the trip to the ISKCON temple that puts on a great event.This year I … [Read More...]

For New Readers

Every once in a while I like to do a post of links to my previous articles because there's a lot of new people who find me through search engines or recommendations and most, I think, are interested in some very specific issues of being a non-Indian Hindu. So rather than have you get lost in day-to-day posts, here are some links to the posts that best explain me and the way I feel about being a convert to Hinduism:My own personal favorite post is How To Explain Hinduism, a guide to dealing … [Read More...]

The Temple and Women’s Periods

This is not really a subject I ever planned to talk about. But now I realize that I'm not the only one who is questioning tradition on this issue. So I think I need to admit my feelings about it.Okay, to back up for a moment, tradition dictates that a woman is ritually "unclean" during her menstrual period and does not go to the temple or worship during those times when she is bleeding.However, I will admit that I have never followed this rule. I don't think it's anyone's business but … [Read More...]

Bigger the Murti More Powerful the God?

I heard someone ask this question and I was intrigued because it had never occurred to me. Do we measure divinity by the physical space that something occupies? If God is in everything, is there more God in a boulder than in a pebble? If a pebble is one part divinity, is the boulder 500 parts divinity?I don't think so, personally, but it's a very interesting idea.I am reminded of a story I was told growing up. A poor man in a village is getting completely destitute. Some of his only … [Read More...]

Is it still patience if you have no choice?

At last my due date is actually within sight. It felt like this time would never come! But now I'm five weeks from the expected arrival of my son. It's absolutely amazing. No matter how many billions of times this has happened before, it is still such a miracle.And it is SO HARD to wait to hold him in my arms, to look into his eyes!One might say that it requires patience to get through the last month of pregnancy, but I don't think I can claim the virtue of patience when there's nothing … [Read More...]