Evil Brings Me Closer to God?

Sky, Sea, Beach, Beauty, Family, Friends--all my best spiritual temperaments in one!

Last week I went on spiritual retreat with my ministry team and our spiritual director focused on the concept of spiritual temperaments, especially as outlined by Myra Perrine in her book What’s Your God Language?  She posits that God has created us with different spiritual preferences for receiving God’s love and presence.  Knowing our spiritual temperament can help us know and receive God better.Even better, to tickle my personality test driven soul, there were two whole tests we could take … [Read more...]

Halloween No More (And a Recipe for Sweet Potato Cake)

In 2004 the theme was Harry Potter

Tomorrow, for the first time in 14 years, I will not host Halloween, nor will my kids go trick-or-treating.  They’ve decided they’re tooold.  Wah!There are some from my faith tradition who believe it’s sinful to celebrate Halloween.  I actually didn’t know that until I innocently suggested to NYU student leaders that our fellowship host a Halloween party 24 years ago.“What???” the 3 students almost shouted, looking at me in horror.  “You celebrate the devil’s day?”Oops.  Talk … [Read more...]

Why My Kids and I Hate “Chinese Food”

“Do you want to see the latest really wrong Youtube hit?” my daughter asked.  “It’s really disturbing.”“Why would I want to see something like that?” I asked, but watched anyway:“So what’s so bad about this?” I asked her, curious to see what she would say.  “Apart from all the artistic reasons, I mean.”“It’s so racist!”“What makes it racist?”“Well it’s parodying Chinese culture.  She sings out that she loves chop suey and fortune cookies and they’re not even real Chinese f … [Read more...]

Do Colleges Want My Kid? Or Just Her Application?

I need to ask trees for forgiveness.  Over the last two years, uncountable numbers have been slain in the name of recruiting my child to college.  Ever since she took the PSAT as a sophomore, we’ve been receiving college brochure after college brochure, beautiful full color brochures on heavy paper promising the most transformative 4 years possible for my child.  Every day I separate the mail into piles—recycling, bills, college (sadly rarely personal anything these days)—and college mail far out … [Read more...]

Makeup in Middle Age or Why I Got My Daughters Make-Overs

Not the look we're going for here

A few months ago I read in a ladies magazine that if you’re middle-aged and still doing your high school make-up  routine, you’re in trouble.Uh oh, I thought, I’m in trouble.Now much of my work and life resides in what folks fondly call The Republic of Cambridge.  In The Republic of Cambridge, many women go au naturel, whether in the make-up department, the bra department, the dying one’s hair department or even the shaving legs/underarms department.And there’s a lot godly I find … [Read more...]

Teaching Our Kids to Talk

Ling 351

Scott’s favorite mantra, which he regularly preaches to our kids, is “God gave you two ears and one mouth for a reason--you should listen twice as much as you talk.”   And they clearly seem to neither listen to, nor comprehend what he's saying.We're both pretty good listeners.  So you would think our kids would be good listeners also.  Not true.  This came home one night over dinner as kids talked on top of each other, interrupted, and generally created a very unpleasant hubbub of noise, crea … [Read more...]

Senior Panic

My senior (photo by Dorothy Greco, who all Boston parents should hire!)

Lately I’ve been experiencing wild mood swings: elation to fear to hope to dread to depression to pride.  And while part may be peri-menopause, most is due to having a real-live senior in my home, a senior who’s applying to college.Now I’ve blogged about trying to keep it all in perspective (here and here and here).  Sad to say, I’m failing.No matter how I’ve tried to abstain from an addiction to academic prestige and achievement, an addiction that comes from my family—a family with 8 … [Read more...]

I Sent My Daughter to Spain. . .and She Survived

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Or better, thrived.Back in late June, I went through a mild freak out over sending Ling to a foreign country with free-flowing alcohol, sultry weather, and college-aged BOYS in her dorm with Spanish MEN outside it (read If You’re Sending Your Kid to Spain, Don’t Do it My Way).Scott and I gave a whole slew of lectures about:wise decision-making alcohol boys making sure she spoke Spanish despite living with fellow Americans avoiding date-rape mostly by avoiding alc … [Read more...]


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