2017-09-16T18:39:11+01:00

In light of the terrible tragedy of the suicide of Matthew Warren, I am writing about a series of questions many Christian families and groups of friends will be discussing. The first post asked “Can a Christian get depression?”  Today I ask two related questions, “What are mental illnesses and disorders?” and “What effects do they have?”

Mental illnesses and disorders are incredibly common. If your church is not grappling with the issues mental illnesses and disorders raise, it means either that your those who are struggling feel they cannot join, or that in your culture people do not feel permission to be honest enough to share. I suspect that the first issue can be a problem, particularly in churches deliberately aiming to go after a certain demographic group. What is probably more likely to be the case, however, is that there are people who are suffering with mental illnesses or disorders in your church family that do not feel able to talk to you about it.

I think it is very important for every church leader, or rather, every church member to feel comfortable with the concept of what a mental illness is, and confident about speaking with people about mental illnesses.

People with mental illnesses or disorders essentially fall into two broad groups. The first group is those who are able to function in society. They have jobs, get married, become pastors. But unbeknown to those that don’t know them well, their mental illness or disorder may cause them great pain. Although they may be able to hide it from most of their friends, family, and workmates, do not be under any illusions, for many, their secret suffering is not insignificant. In many cases mental illnesses are episodic. Thus, someone who may actually be free of all symptoms for years may suddenly become severely unwell. This can be quite a shock for those around them. Some people in this group will actually be extremely high functioning, and in fact many of those who make a big difference in our Society also suffer from mental illness.

The second broad group of people with mental illnesses or disorders are quite simply among the most socially disadvantaged people in most societies today. These people are more likely to end up homeless and living on the streets, they usually find it impossible to hold down a job, they experience social rejection, they will often have few friends or family who look out for them, and as a result are often very lonely.

They also find themselves in prison far more than the rest of the population, often for minor crimes. In some societies, Asylums are built to house these people. They have a dual function: keep people separate who society does not want to see, and provide an environment where they can live, and in many cases work. Unfortunately the Asylums have been associated with many abuses. In most so-called “developed” countries these Asylums have been closed with the aim of abolishing the harsh treatment, integrating back into society, and saving money. Sadly, none of these aims have been fully achieved. The fewer beds a country has in Psychiatric hospitals, the more prison beds will be required (an inverse relationship). This is called Penrose’s law.  Intriguingly this relationship does not seem to be as simple as that those who would otherwise be cared for in a psychiatric institution cause all the additional crime. A Society that fails to care for it’s most vulnerable is a sick Society.

Psychiatric illnesses are usually distinguished by psychiatrists from psychiatric disorders. The disorders are developmental, and pervasive. They will cause differences that are noticeable in children. These disorders can be considered as extreme variations of normality.

Thus, for example, the whole population varies in our intellectual capacity, those at the extreme lower end of that, and have a severely reduced IQ are termed as having a General Learning Disability. Patients whose cognitive function is significantly impaired will struggle to live independently. Some will have a specific genetic abnormality such as that behind Down Syndrome. Abortion actively seeks to eliminate the presence of people with these genetic abnormalities. Christians must demonstrate love towards them, and that they have immense value. Every intellectually disabled person is as much the bearer of God’s image as those that Society values more highly.

Specific learning disorders also exist, where children develop more slowly in certain areas. In some cases as the child grows older they will “catch up” with their peers. In others, the delay will continue into adulthood and still cause them problems.  Examples of specific learning disorders include

  • Difficulties in reading and processing information: Dyslexia
  • Difficulties in reading social situations, and forging relationships (among other complex difficulties): Autism, Aspergers, Autistic Spectrum Disorders.
  • Difficulties in concentrating and sitting still: ADHD

Psychiatric illnesses are discrete conditions that have a specific time of onset.  They are, however, often associated with subtle learning difficulties that precede their onset. These illnesses are illnesses of our emotions and thinking. Some symptoms are merely extreme versions of normal thoughts or feelings. We all get low in mood at times, depression is an extreme version of that. We all experience worry, anxiety disorders are when that becomes pervasive. Other symptoms are very unusual and hard for people to relate to, these would include bizarre ideas (delusions) and hallucinations.  This post has grown longer than I intended, so I will speak more about specific psychiatric illnesses in the next article in this series, although I will link to some articles written by others first.

NEXT TIME:- How can I recognize a possible mental illness?

2017-09-24T09:02:22+01:00

The Christian and secular media are reporting the tragic news that Rick Warren’s son has taken his own life after a lifelong battle with mental illness.

The Warrens will be grieving and in terrible distress right now. Every Christian reading this should please offer a prayer of support on their behalf.

At times like these the love of friends and family will be a great support to them, but will not take away the pain. Rick and Kay need the love of Jesus to be especially real to them at this difficult time. Please pray this for them.

Even with such support in prayer, they will of course still mourn. We do grieve as Christians, but we greive differently to those without hope.

Many of you will not know that I am a psychiatrist by training, and still work in that field (although I no longer have direct patient contact). As such I know the devastation that mental illness can bring in its wake only too well.

We live in a fallen world. Rick’s son reportedly received some of the best interventions medical care can offer. Sometimes that is not enough.

Please, if someone you know and love is suffering in a similar way, don’t let anyone persuade you not to reach out for everything medical science can offer. In many cases it can be literally life saving.

Too many of us don’t understand just how serious these illnesses are. I pray that this shocking news may help thousands realize that although faith may be protective in such situations, medicine is often also needed to help.

I will be posting a series on the questions that this event will inevitably pose in our minds and will list them here:

The Warren’s public statement is deeply moving:

The 27-year-old son of Pastor Rick Warren has taken his own life after a lifelong struggle with mental illness. The internationally known Christian leader at Saddleback Church in Lake Forest, California, made the announcement about his son early Saturday morning in an email sent to his staff.

“No words can express the anguished grief we feel right now. Our youngest son, Matthew, age 27, and a lifelong member of Saddleback, died today,” wrote Warren.

“Over the past 33 years we’ve been together through every kind of crisis. Kay and I’ve been privileged to hold your hands as you faced a crisis or loss, stand with you at gravesides, and prayed for you when ill. Today, we need your prayer for us,” began the staff email from him.

Warren described Matthew as “an incredibly kind, gentle, and compassionate man,” as those who grew up with him would also say.

“He had a brilliant intellect and a gift for sensing who was most in pain or most uncomfortable in a room. He’d then make a bee-line to that person to engage and encourage them,” he continued. “But only those closest knew that he struggled from birth with mental illness, dark holes of depression, and even suicidal thoughts. In spite of America’s best doctors, meds, counselors, and prayers for healing, the torture of mental illness never subsided. Today, after a fun evening together with Kay and me, in a momentary wave of despair at his home, he took his life.”

Warren said that he and his wife often marveled at Matthew’s courage “to keep moving in spite of relentless pain.”

“I’ll never forget how, many years ago, after another approach had failed to give relief, Matthew said, ‘Dad, I know I’m going to heaven. Why can’t I just die and end this pain?’ but he kept going for another decade,” he wrote.

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2003-08-30T10:14:00+01:00

No proof mental illness rooted in biology There is loads of evidence of biological casuality of some mental illnesses. I have seen too many peoples lives improved by medication to want to go down this line!

2017-09-16T18:39:07+01:00

As I have been writing on most of the main types of mental illness a media controversy has raged. The release of the DSMV was seen by many as an opportunity to throw the spotlight on the validity of psychiatric diagnostic systems. In particular, the announcement of a new highly experimental approach the RDC was spun as a rejection of DSMV, which has since been denied.

There are a few things that are worth saying in response to that.

  • I don’t believe that any psychiatrists today think our classification system is perfect and that it maps precisely on to known underlying causes.
  • Mental illnesses are symptom clusters, that seem to go together, and form part of a pattern of similar distress that can often be associated with response to treatment, and the likely future outcome for a patient. Thus for example, Bipolar Disorder does seem to respond to certain treatments very well in many cases, and can often be better controlled than schizhophrenia.
  • Our current symptom clusters may eventually be superseded by so called “Research Domains” However these are experimental, and right now the current system is the best we have.
  • It seems likely that diseases like schizophrenia and bipolar are probably in a sense forms of “brain failure.” Eventually we may discover that different underlying problems can cause both of these syndromes in different people. This is a bit like liver failure which has many different causes, each of which can present in different ways.
  • Recent research has suggested that genetic factors are associated with mental illnesses, but that these factors probably are related to a group of mental illnesses rather than a single one.
  • There remains no doubt that, especially in the case of the more severe mental illnesses we are looking at biological problems, but as I have said before there are psychological, social and spiritual components to both the cause and treatment of most mental illness.

 

2025-05-21T00:29:11+01:00

Sun rising over sand

Today is the 8th anniversary of my diagnosis with blood cancer. I had been sick for several weeks and therefore the diagnosis was not out of the blue. But what was less expected was that I would constantly struggle with chronic illnesses from then on. I think we often think of even cancer as an acute condition and presume it will either kill you or you will get better.

For me it hasn’t just been the cancer itself but the knock on effects, almost like a series of dominoes falling over as I add diagnoses and new consultants to the growing list. In fact I am in remission from the blood cancer, although the experts do still expect it to come back and need more treatment at some point. I appeared on Songs of Praise a couple of years back, which is a good way to hear a bit about what I have learnt in these last years. I also won’t repeat here some of the things I said last year about learning not to be defined by my list of diagnoses.

In the last year, since I posted on the seventh anniversary, I have had three hospital admissions, the last of which was at the end of March this year due to a brand new diagnosis of an aggressive form of diabetes. My HBA1c was 111 and my blood glucose 30 with ketones of 3.  I was admitted and immediately started on insulin, which is unusual at my age.  Prior to this, the fatigue that has been caused by several different conditions over the years had got to being the worst I had ever experienced, and I just wanted to sleep all day unless I drank copious amounts of caffeine. I wasn’t aware though that a new problem was brewing.

The lack of energy and hence poor mobility has made losing weight very hard over the years, and so in an indirect way if this is Type 2 diabetes my poor general health may help to explain it. But there is a chance it is actually Type 1 due to the rapid way it came on. This is an auto-immune condition which I am more susceptible to due to my history of a cancer in my immune system. Ironically, because I take donated antibodies weekly the test they usually use to tell the two conditions apart is unreliable as the antibodies they have detected might have come from me or one of the blood donors! Having multiple conditions is complex.

But I am less surprised and frustrated than I used to be when health challenges arise. I kind of expect them. This means I am less shaken by them than I used to be, and much less likely to ask “Why Me?” question, In fact I guess I tend to think “Why not me?” now! My hope is less for complete healing now, and more for the grace to keep going, striving to fix my eyes set on the eternal hope to come.  I still find overly positive people deeply frustrating at times, however!

Tomorrow (last minute cancellations permitting!) I will be back in hospital for a planned admission to see if they can do something with my asthma that would allow me to greatly reduce the amount of steroid I need to take, as that has probably been a big contributor to the new diabetes diagnosis, and certainly makes it harder to treat.  I do have some apprehension about the whole experience of being hospitalized but, am also hopeful that some changes may be able to be made as a result.

I hope to be able to write some more as the high blood sugar mental haze has started to lift!  I have a lot of ideas and half completed articles to write!

My testimony is not that Jesus takes away the suffering, but that even when it seems he has forgotten you, the truth is he hasn’t and he IS with us always even to the end of the age.

Ultimately it is only the resurrection that gives us a hope that can help us when our whole world feels like it is falling apart.


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READ MORE from Adrian Warnock

D-Day: Defying Definition by Diagnoses Seven Years On

An answer to the “Why does God allow Suffering?” question

Hope in Suffering

The Tyranny of the Positive

 

 

2020-06-09T12:54:08+01:00

Mental Health and Wellbeing

The tyranny of the positive tells us some emotions are bad when we have to learn to accept our emotions but not let them rule us. Addressing all four pillars to mental health and wellbeing is the route to real growth. Adrian draws on his experiences as a psychiatrist and facing anxiety about his physical health. How to handle faith and feelings.

 

Read Adrian’s Mental Health Series

 



Learn More

Can a Christian get depressed?

Examples of mental anguish and depression in the Bible

Professionalism vs. Compassion

Jesus Wept with Compassion

http://bloodcanceruncensored.com/the-tyranny-of-the-positive

Should a Christian go to counseling with a secular therapist?

Holistic counselling and pastoring (Biblical counselling #3)

The four pillars of mental health and wellbeing

What causes mental illness?

Our Culture can’t cope with Suffering

We grieve, but not in the same way as those who have no hope


https://www.patheos.com/patheos.com/blogs/adrianwarnock/2013/05/will-a-christian-who-commits-suicide-go-to-heaven

A surprising answer to the “Why Me?” question

John MacArthur and John Piper on their very different experiences of depression

2017-09-16T18:39:02+01:00

One goal I have had in this series is to help us all understand that in many ways people with mental illness are just like us.  The Bible has much to say to them, but everything it says to them it also says to us.  This is because our gracious and eternal father knows our feeble frame. He knows our frailty and our weaknesses.  HE is God and you are not!  What batter place to conclude this series on mental health than with a very comforting Psalm that tells us of God’s care for us because he crafted us, including our sometimes broken minds:

 

PSALM 139 

        O Lord, you have searched me and known me!

        You know when I sit down and when I rise up;

you discern my thoughts from afar.

        You search out my path and my lying down

and are acquainted with all my ways.

        Even before a word is on my tongue,

behold, O Lord, you know it altogether.

        You hem me in, behind and before,

and lay your hand upon me.

        Such knowledge is too wonderful for me;

it is high; I cannot attain it.

        Where shall I go from your Spirit?

Or where shall I flee from your presence?

        If I ascend to heaven, you are there!

If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there!

        If I take the wings of the morning

and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea,

10         even there your hand shall lead me,

and your right hand shall hold me.

11         If I say, “Surely the darkness shall cover me,

and the light about me be night,”

12         even the darkness is not dark to you;

the night is bright as the day,

for darkness is as light with you.

13         For you formed my inward parts;

you knitted me together in my mother’s womb.

14         I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made.

Wonderful are your works;

my soul knows it very well.

15         My frame was not hidden from you,

when I was being made in secret,

intricately woven in the depths of the earth.

16         Your eyes saw my unformed substance;

in your book were written, every one of them,

the days that were formed for me,

when as yet there was none of them.

17         How precious to me are your thoughts, O God!

How vast is the sum of them!

18         If I would count them, they are more than the sand.

I awake, and I am still with you.

19         Oh that you would slay the wicked, O God!

O men of blood, depart from me!

20         They speak against you with malicious intent;

your enemies take your name in vain.

21         Do I not hate those who hate you, O Lord?

And do I not loathe those who rise up against you?

22         I hate them with complete hatred;

I count them my enemies.

23         Search me, O God, and know my heart!

Try me and know my thoughts!

24         And see if there be any grievous way in me,

and lead me in the way everlasting!

2019-01-11T14:11:48+00:00

Is good old fashioned pastoral care in danger of dying out?.

What people in your church need more than anything else is to be cared for in a biblical and non-patronising way. Churches which embrace, quite rightly, principles that aim to help them grow are in danger of forgetting that God calls us as the Church to be directly involved in each other’s lives. We ARE our brother’s keeper.

Pastoral care is not professional counseling. It is not therapy. It is the kind of care that family members provide to each other. Yes there should be a leadership component, but that should be expressed in a way that acknowledges our equal status before God as sinners whom he has forgiven, and brothers and sisters in the family of God.

Note that this does not merely apply to the Pastors of your church, or to its paid employees. Ephesians 4 makes plain that the role of the leaders of our churches is to equip US to do the work of ministry.

By their nature each of these Ephesians 4 gifts will find it easiest to do one thing, and may have to work at the others. We should all recognize our strengths and develop our weaknesses. Pastors love Christians. Teachers love books. Evangelists love the world. Prophets love God. Apostles love the Church (see this older post of mine).

Each of them then has the goal, not to be the expert at what they do only, but to be the expert at inspiring others to do that. Pastoral care is love applied. It is love which cares too much to leave us as we are. It is love that seeks the good of the one being loved, and seeks to raise them up. As Dan Rockwell tweeted yesterday, “The goal of helping others is getting them to the place where they help others.

Whether we have a recognized mental illness or not, as my series on mental health takes a new turn, we will be reminded that the Bible has much to say that can help us. This is not to the exclusion of the help we can also receive from mental health professionals if needed.

We ALL struggle at times with our mental health, and so we all need the same kind of pastoral care from others that Jonathan demonstrated towards David . We need people around us who help us to find strength in God. (1 Sam 23:16). That verse could be a life verse for those called to pastoral ministry, whether as a church member, small group leader, or in a full-time position.

One of other my favorite verses that help us to define pastoral care says,

And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.
(1 Thessalonians 5:14).

This leads us nicely into the second half of today’s post. In an effort to speak about how we can help others, I thought I’d speak about some ways that are not so helpful:

How how fail to provide appropriate pastoral care

1. Focus entirely on admonishing sin

I think it is fair to say that some enthusiastic Christians find the first of the tasks mentioned in the verse above to be the easiest. Sadly, we can find it is all to easy to “admonish” others without considering the other approaches also described.

For many, the focus of this admonishment is to point out hidden sins and idols in each others lives. In fact some go so far as to say every single one of our problems are directly caused by sin. When I heard of a young mother struggling to care for her baby being told that she was “idolizing sleep,” I immediately recognized that not everything was caused by idolatry!

Of course, we do all need to have our sin pointed out from time to time. But great wisdom is needed since if someone is “faint hearted” or “weak” that’s probably the last thing they need. And, if we are honest, at times in our lives we ALL fit into one of those last two groups.

2. Forget to be encouraging.

If there is one aspect of pastoral care that is so easily forgotten it is this: encouragement. Every single one of us, whether we are mentally ill or not, require regular encouragement if we are to keep going and not become “faint hearted.”

3. Fail to give practical advice

Many successful people seem to instinctively know how to get along with people, how to achieve in life, even how to apply the gospel to daily lives.

Some of the rest of us, including myself, need practical help and advice. It is not always immediately obvious to those who the Bible here calls “weak” how to apply the doctrine that was beautifully explained in the sermon on Sunday. Many of us need to be given practical, hands-on, down to earth help, support and advice. There really is nothing wrong with giving us a “how to” from time to time!

4. Be impatient

How quickly we can get frustrated with someone we are trying to help when they do not seem to “get better” quickly enough for our liking! Yet, we forget how patient our Lord has been with us, and how long it has taken us to get to the place we are at now in our Christian walks, how often we too have fallen, and how much still we too have to learn! I am so glad the Lord is patient with us, we must learn how to be similarly patient with others!

5. Just tell people to “cheer up.”

It is so easy to basically tell people, without exactly telling them this, that they need to “pull themselves together.” We can cheerily tell of how good God has been to us, and breezily try to encourage, but that can misfire into basically being insensitive to the pain of others. The book of Proverbs explains this tendency:

Whoever sings songs to a heavy heart is like one who takes off a garment on a cold day, and like vinegar on soda.
Proverbs 25:20.

We must learn to be present with people in the middle of their pain, acknowledging it and honoring them. No wonder Paul urges us,

Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep
Romans 12:15.

Of God it is said ,

He heals the brokenhearted
and binds up their wounds.

(Ps 147:3)

 

How to provide pastoral care: be like Jesus

Of Jesus’ ministry it is prophecied:

The Spirit of the Lord GOD is upon me,
because the LORD has anointed me
to bring good news to the poor;
he has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted,
to proclaim liberty to the captives,
and the opening of the prison to those who are bound;
to proclaim the year of the LORD’s favor,
and the day of vengeance of our God;
to comfort all who mourn;
to grant to those who mourn in Zion—
to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes,
the oil of gladness instead of mourning,
the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit;
that they may be called oaks of righteousness,
the planting of the LORD, that he may be glorified. (Isaiah 61:1–3.)

and

Behold my servant, whom I uphold,
my chosen, in whom my soul delights;
I have put my Spirit upon him;
he will bring forth justice to the nations.
He will not cry aloud or lift up his voice,
or make it heard in the street;
a bruised reed he will not break,
and a faintly burning wick he will not quench;
he will faithfully bring forth justice.
He will not grow faint or be discouraged
till he has established justice in the earth;
(Isaiah 42:1–4. also cited in Matthew 12:19–20)

 

God calls us to be a part of this ministry of Jesus. We are his hands, his mouthpiece. And it does not say here how Jesus binds up the broken hearted, just that that is his purpose. I believe he works through spirtitul miracles, through wise counsel from others, through the general revelation of the wisdom found even in secular counselors, and at times through medication which he has given us the wisdom to discover, develop, and prescribe. These verses are as much the Christian psychiatrist’s charter as they are the pastor’s. Actually they are supposed to apply to all of us!

How do we provide pastoral care to others, including those who are mentally ill? We follow Jesus’ example, and Paul’s instruction:

 

Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

(Galatians 6:2)


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2023-05-20T11:49:47+01:00

Mental Health and Wellbeing

The following are steps that we can all take to promote our mental health and wellbeing. It is not just those that have a recognised mental illness that should practice steps to protect and improve our well-being. Many today complain of non-descript “stress” and “overwork” that can be early warning signs of future problems. These steps will help many with a mental illness, but should not be seen as replacements for going to see a health professional. The strength of evidence lying behind each of these recommendations differs. In some cases research support behind these suggestions is very high indeed, in others these are offered simply as ideas that some have found helpful.

What other ideas have you found that help you and would fit under one or other of these headings?

Physical (Biological)

  1. Take regular exercise. Resolve to increase this, even if it is just taking a walk, physical and mental health benefits are strong. There are lots of innovative and cost effective ways to exercise these days, including the ‘Seven Minute‘  intensive brief exercise regime, and Nordic Walking.
  2. Get out into the countryside and surround yourself with lots of green and other natural landscapes. The presence of green spaces in a city is believed to be associated with improved mental health of the population.
  3. Eat healthily and take regular meals. Avoid in particular intakes of high glycemic index meals that boost your sugar levels too high and then lead to a crash which can be associated with bad moods. Be careful of the sugar content of your drinks (e.g. lattes can include 25 teaspoons of sugar!). Switch from white bread to wholemeal or better yet a low GI / multiseed loaf (our family loves this one from Percy Ingle).
  4. Take regular sleep. Go to bed early enough that it is easy to rouse yourself when your alarm goes off. Get up at the same time every day, and allow your body to tell you when it is tired in the evenings and listen to it….dont burn the candle at both ends! Sleep is vital for health.Some critical tips to improve sleep quality include having a routine before bed.  This can involve stopping using electronic gadgets, winding down, ensuring you sleep in the dark, and if necessary having a notebook to jot intrusive thoughts down that pop up as you are trying to sleep.  Some phones and other gadgets have a night shift mode to make the light they emit less white, enabling this for several hours before bed may help you sleep due to the effects of reducing exposure to white light on melatonin. Similarly ensure your bedroom lights are ‘warm’ (2700K) rather than bright white. On the flip side, consider changing to a white light (around 6500k) in areas of your home or office where you need to feel awake.
  5. Stop drinking caffeinated drinks altogether or at least stop drinking them after lunchtime to improve sleep quality.
  6. Resolve NEVER to drink alcohol to “make you feel better” it won’t, and this is the pathway to alcoholism.
  7. Consider adding a small amount of dark chocolate to your diet every day.
  8. Eat fresh fruit and vegetables to ensure you get enough vitamins.
  9. Resolve that you will go to the doctor and not be afraid to take psychiatric medications if you ever need them.
  10. Take good care of your physical health and ensure things like your thyroid function are normal. Any physical problem can lead to mental health issues.

Mental (Psychological)

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    1. Learn to think about your emotional state, and to analyze your day. A great tool for this is an app called  Moodkit which is well worth the time it takes to understand how to best use it.
    2. If it helps you write a private journal and/or a public blog. Make sure you understand the difference between the two!
    3. Identify any negative thought patterns you see in your regular thinking and challenge them. This is what CBT is all about.
    4. Learn to have a virtual “sentry” in your mind that challenges any thought that flits through your mind and says “halt who goes there?” Don’t allow yourself to be driven along by random thoughts.
    5. Fill your mind with as many positive upbuilding thoughts as you can (Philippians 4:8)
    6. Make sure you “budget” your mental energy and don’t allow it to be wasted, nor over burdened.
    7. Beware of thoughts that run away with themselves (i.e. beware of crazy plans and impulsive thinking)
    8. Don’t allow your mind to get stuck in a rut, think about ways to stretch and exercise it.
    9. Read a self-help book based on CBT ideas. Even if you are not sick, this could help build your resilience.
    10. Resolve that you will be willing to attend a therapist if that seems necessary.
    11. Learn how to meditate. Mindfulness is a great secular tool for all of us, teaching us to be present with what is happening around and within us without seeking to deny our feelings, but also without being ruled by them,  It, can also be adapted specifically for Christian use. See for example this meditation on Psalm 46

Social

  1. Build healthy supportive relationships with your family, and a couple of close friends. Take time to see these people FACE TO FACE.
  2. Make wise use of Social Networking. It can either help you feel more connected, or entrench your sense of loneliness.
  3. Learn to take time for yourself, and develop the ability to enjoy your own company. Your social life is not just about your relationships with others but also yourself.

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  4. Join a healthy grace-filled church community and get fully stuck in.
  5. Forge a pastoral relationship with an older wiser Christian who you can turn to for advice
  6. Make sure your job is challenging enough not to bore you, but is not so stressful it leaves you empty at the end of each day for a prolonged period. Remember that everybody has busy periods at work, but this must have an end!
  7. Don’t allow your work to take over your life: take your vacations, and don’t work ridiculous hours.
  8. Ensure you allow yourself true recreation and relaxation. Do not fill every waking hour with “productive activity”
  9. Find  a hobby, ideally something that allows you to feel you have created something. Even cooking a nice meal can be very therapeutic.
  10. Watch a movie once in a while, or dare I say it turn on the TV! But make sure that you also do “fun” things with those that you love rather than just stare at a screen all day.
  11. Listen to music that calms and/or stimulates you. Learn how music can affect your mood and use it to your advantage.
  12. Reduce access to any way you or your family could potentially self harm. If you must own a gun, lock it up. Do not allow a build-up of dangerous medications (including pain killers) to form in your drug cabinet.
  13. Think about ways you can help others in your social circle. For example, volunteering as a baby sitter could give you a sense of purpose and a struggling mum (and/or Dad!) a much needed day off.
  14. Resolve to be more alert to the possibility of mental illness in those around you, learn to ask the right questions to identify potential cases, and be ready to speak about suicidal ideas without freaking out.
  15. Develop a habit of gratitude rather than discontentment. Seeing the glass as half full rather than half empty is more potent than we realize. See for example Ann Voskamp’s work

Spiritual

  1. Take some time to really pray. Make God your counselor and tell him honestly how you are feeling, and ask for his help.

    Source: BN Media
    Source: BN Media

  2. Put your relationship with God right. Ask him for forgiveness if you know you have sinned.
  3. Deal with any unforgiveness in your heart and as much as it lies within you fix broken relationships. Don’t beat up on yourself if despite your efforts someone won’t reconcile with you. Don’t allow yourself to think that forgiveness means that you mustn’t discuss significant sin with the pastor, or if it is a crime that puts others at risk, the police.
  4. Worship God. Listen to Christian music to help in that.
  5. Read the Bible. Just sit and read it. Let it wash over you. Don’t worry about whether it is doing you any good…it IS!
  6. But also make a list of specific verses that either jump out at you or that speak to problems you know you have. Meditate on those verses, repeat them again and again to yourself. Memorize them. Internalize them. When a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with one of those verses.
  7. Listen to good sermons. Especially ones that address issues you are dealing with. If you find one that helps you, listen to it again and again.
  8. Resolve to learn from wiser older Christians and listen to their advice.
  9. Make some new steps in fasting if your health allows.
  10. Consider going on a retreat.

Over to you, what other helpful ideas can you suggest?

 

 

 

2017-09-16T18:10:18+01:00

Is addiction simply an illness as Doctor in the house feels?

The simple fact is that medical science is rock-solid in conclusion that alcoholism and addiction are well-established disease processes, comprised of genetic, physiologic, and mental illness components. As a quick MEDLINE search will demonstrate, there is a vast amount of medical literature addressing this disease in its many medical, psychological, behavioral and social aspects.

Is it rather a social phenomena where we are all to blame for the downtrodden seeking a way out? Is it simply a matter of choice?

My view is it is rather more complex than any one of those answers. There is definitely an element of choice at the begining, and it does have social dimensions, but some of us are physically more susceptible than others. Many of us will have dabbled with alcohol without becomming alcoholics or have smoked the odd cigarette without becoming a smoker.

It is interesting that the 12 steps of the AA, which have much dependence on biblical principles have led to many people being set free. Sometimes utilising medical help alongside such a process will give the best chance of success. Over here there is definitely not enough help on offer for people with addictions.

Becoming free is often a rather a slow process though, and I wonder how many churches have enough grace and patience to help people in this need

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