Abuse Does Exist and We Will Not Shut Up! – Answering Father Longenecker

Abuse Does Exist and We Will Not Shut Up! – Answering Father Longenecker February 26, 2017

spotlightquoteby Suzanne Titkemeyer

This morning as I was drinking my first reviving and refreshing cup of coffee and scrolling through Facebook a post by another Patheos author came up on my feed that pulled me in. Actually, it was quite triggering, raising my blood pressure more than any coffee could. It was by the Catholic Channel author Father Longenecker from several years ago and involves a subject dear to my heart that forms the core of why No Longer Quivering exists in the first place – Spiritual Abuse.

Longenecker  – does not come out and name any specific groups or persons that he’s calling a Post-Christian Crybaby Bully in his article, but as you read on, clicking through the multi-page clickbait posting you get an immediate impression who he has in mind. That would be any individual or group that isn’t poor, starving, refugees, aborted babies or persecuted Christians in the Middle East that says they have been abused. Everyone else can just go suck it, suck it up and stop whining, stop organizing, stop demanding that the abuse stop according to him.

He even goes so far as to claim that those that expose abuse and speak against it are somehow in it for financial reasons or other motives that have nothing to do with helping others.

Father Dwight Longenecker is a Catholic priest, speaking from a place of church authority telling others to be quiet about what’s happened to them. Sadly enough this seems to be the typical response by anyone in church leadership no matter what the denomination when abuse is brought to light – silencing the victim, bullying them until they shut down.

I’m not going to debate what is and isn’t abuse, but let me just state baldly – if your theology has a body count then you might want to rethink what it is you are actually believing in. I’m not even talking about the ancient body counts connected to religions, like the many murdered during the Spanish Inquisition by the Catholic church. The abuse is real, it’s ongoing and it needs to stop.

Reading his denigration of those actively involved in making sure no one else is abused makes me remember the recent movie ‘Spotlight’. You remember ‘Spotlight’,  which won last year’s Academy Award for best picture for its depiction of the sexual abuse problem endemic in the Catholic church of children by priests. The researchers and journalists uncovered a pattern of abuse by priests of children and the involvement of the local court system and law enforcement to help the church cover it up, to silence those harmed.

I’m not going to shut up about the abuse in Quiverfull either. We have a body count too, plus those that seek to do the same thing Longenecker does, silence those harmed. Here’s just a few victims that we will not be silent about:

  • The 5 murdered children of Andrea Yates.
  • Hana Grace-Rose Williams – killed at the hands of an adoptive family.
  • Lydia Shatz murdered – disciplined to death.
  • Zariah Shatz – severely abused in the name of God.
  • Kelly Silk and her children.
  • The large number of babies and mothers killed by incompetent medical care by unskilled midwifes or by solo home births dictated by belief.
  • The generation of young adults who’ve had to fight hard to overcome abusive parenting and lack of education in Quiverfull.
  • People who’ve had their hearts and souls crushed by the cruel words, actions and teachings of abusive pastors and church leaders.
  • …and the list goes on.

The last thing someone who has suffered and survived at the hands of abusive theology needs is someone telling them that they are whiners. Part of healing is expression of what it is you’ve been through.

Father Longenecker doesn’t care about the actual people he’s sworn to be the spiritual father of, he only care about protecting his organization.

Rant over, I’m going to go sit in the sunshine, have a beer and ponder why silencing others is something Father Longenecker is so actively engaged in. Perhaps he’s merely been standing on his head so long that it’s done something to his brain where his theology is not so much about Jesus as it is protecting those doing the abusing.

We will not shut up.

We should not even consider it.

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  • Mollywog

    And we all should never shut up! Just because someone has been a victim of worse abuse than someone else does NOT mean that the second person has not been abused. It needs to be talked about, not hidden. Only by exposure will things ever get fixed.

  • Delilah Hart

    Google the Magdalene laundries in Ireland. The abuse that took place there occurred all the way up to the 90s. The damage inflicted by the Church is quite recent in some cases.

  • Jessica Lynne Roulston

    I noticed there was no comment section on his blog…Wonder why?

  • paganheart

    Similar abuses took place in Quebec up through the 1960s, causing thousands to ultimately leave the church. Quebec is the most secular province in Canada now. Or so I’m told by a friend’s mother who grew up in Quebec, and has horror stories to tell.

  • GHN

    Because everything he has to say is such evident truth that having a comment section for all the adulation would just e prideful. /sarcasm

  • GHN

    He probably view the poor, delicate clergy as the _real_ victims.

  • Mel

    We do have some options available since he is an ordained Catholic priest.
    Step One: Screen capture the entire blog post .

    Step Two: Send a certified letter to the priest at his local parish with the signed recipient slip sent back to you. Here’s the website of the parish – http://www.olrgreenville.com/ . State clearly and calmly your concerns about his blog post within the history of abuse within the Catholic Church. Enclose a copy of the blog post for clarity. Be clear how you want him to respond to you – I would recommend asking for an email and a clarifying blog post. Keep a copy of your letter, a copy of the certified letter tag, and all correspondence between you and Fr. Longenecker for step three.

    Step Three: If there is no response or a dismissive response, you can appeal to his local Bishop. Write a letter addressing your concerns to both the Bishop of the Diocese of Charleston AND the same letter to the Office of Child and Youth Protection. ( Addresses http://sccatholic.org/diocesan-departments) With those letters, enclose the blog post, your letter to Fr. Longenecker, and all emails, blog posts, and/or letters from Step Two. Send by certified mail. Be clear on wanted response – I recommend a written letter reply from the diocese plus the clarifying blog post. Keep copies of all responses from Step 3.

    Step 4: Talk to the local media if Step Three doesn’t lead to a reasonable solution. You have created a paper trail that changes the story from “Two bloggers disagree on abuse characteristics” – which is where we are at right now – to “Local priest dismisses abuse victims with support of the Diocese” which is a nice lead for a reporter.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Brilliant idea!

  • Bemused

    I’m a frequent commentor on a number of the Patheos/Catholic blogs, but I decided a while ago that I wasn’t going to click on any of his posts because he didn’t need my click numbers shoring up his worthless (and theologically unsound) opinions.

  • gimpi1

    “We will not shut up.
    We should not even consider it.”

    No, we shouldn’t consider it. Never. Speak up. Tell the truth. Speak truth to power. Don’t let craven attempt to silence survivors of abuse win.

    You’re doing a good thing, providing a forum for people that need to speak out about spiritual, sexual, child and domestic abuse. Keep it up.

  • gimpi1

    The Magdalene Laundries and Catholic schools and orphanages child abuse contributed to the significant weakening of the Catholic Church in Ireland. The abuse is horrible. The cover-up – often aided and abetted by police and government – makes it worse. Attempting to shame and silence survivors will make it worse still.