Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’ve Made Mistakes But Can’t Get Past Them

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – I’ve Made Mistakes But Can’t Get Past Them March 22, 2017

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical, rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always  all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

I’ve made mistakes but can’t get past them

I’m in the midst of reading the book Preparing to be a Help Meet and while reading it I’ve already learned a lot.

I recently went through a harsh and unexpected break up with my boyfriend of 15 months. I wasn’t a Christian during the relationship and was definitely a Grabber as well as an antsy babe. He is completely a Priest type.

Looking back I did so many things wrong and was ruining the relationship day in and day out. I can’t even believe he stayed as long as he did. But God was working through him. After the break up, I turned to Christ and am so thankful for my prince charming to have broken my heart and gotten me here. Although I now am so full of regret that I threw away my Prince.

It should be known that he is not a Christian, yet. I pray he turns to Christianity, for as long as he doesn’t I know I cannot be with him.

He falls completely under the priest category and also a little under the prophet. Whereas I fall under the queen. You can see how to non-Christians who fell under those two roles, didn’t work out so well.

But I know him so well and can see the potential in the Christian man he could be. Oh he would be marvelous  and I’ve lost him. Also I don’t know how to talk to him again and make Christianity apparent to him.

Really I’m terrified for him. He was an amazing young man, but with my non-Christian role model and strong queen-like personality, I have pushed him in a terrible direction. He’s become corrupt.

What do I do? Do I let him know I’m here for him and will daily pray for him? Or do I completely leave him alone and pray for him to come back to me?

I’ve changed my ways but I don’t think he’d believe me if I said it. He doesn’t want to deal with the old me again, that’s a for sure, but he doesn’t know how strong the Lord has worked on me and he doesn’t know, I’m willing to be the help meet he would need. I am ready, and see it.

Let’s see. She says she dated a guy who wasn’t a Christian and he broke her heart, but now that she’s been reading this book she’s praying for him to come back and be a Christian so she can be his help meet.

The answers she got were mostly to leave it to God. One answer said it was obvious that he was her lover and she just needed to turn from sin and get closer to God. What would you advise this young woman grieving a dead relationship?

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