Quoting Quiverfull: Cooking Dinner is a BLESSING!?

Quoting Quiverfull: Cooking Dinner is a BLESSING!? August 26, 2017
Pretty sure neither Nancy Campbell or Lori Alexander would approve of these fancy alcohol coffee drinks or the carrot cake.

by Nancy Campbell of Above Rubies – Not Again

Editor’s note: Well apparently Nancy and Lori Alexander have hive mind. They have both written about feeding your children this week. While Lori makes it into a shame and blamed filled allegation involving junk food and child training, Nancy takes the tact that it’s a holy blessed thing you are doing when you cook. She does throw shade at those that eat fast food.

It’s time to cook supper. “Not again,” you sigh. “Why can’t I have a break from cooking night after night?” Can I remind you that

preparing a meal for your family is not insignificant. It’s not a waste of time. It is very much a part of your mothering anointing.

We see a beautiful description of a godly woman in 1 Timothy 5:10 (NASB) which gives a description of her “good works.” “If she has brought up children, if she has shown hospitality to strangers, if she was washed the saints’ feet, if she has assisted those in distress, and if she has devoted herself to every good work.”

The word “brought up” is teknotropheo and means “to cherish, nourish, and give food to children; it is also used of nursing a baby at the breast.” It’s all about food! This means spending a lot of time in the kitchen! And the bigger they get, the more they want to eat.

Don’t look at cooking meals with resignation. Instead, do it with revelation. You have the privilege of feeding your children nourishing food. You are gathering them together around your table again. You are preparing the way to feed their soul and spirit as you read God’s Word at the end of the meal. You are teaching them about life and passing on values to the next generation.

There is too much fast food eating in our nation already! It’s not healthy eating and it negates valuable family togetherness in the home. If you don’t lovingly cook meals at home and pass on this tradition, what will the next generation do?

Make every meal a “love affair.”

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Chiropter

    Mothering anointing..?
    If you don’t make every single meal at home, your kids (read daughters) won’t know how to cook?

    I know people buy into this shit and take it seriously, but how? How can anyone read something so absurd and not walk away in disgust?

  • Anonyme

    So, it’s not enough to just make healthy, nourishing meals from scratch, the woman also has to be CONSTANTLY JOYFUL about it?
    I guess I should be used to Nancy’s writing by now, but I’m always amazed by how many ways she can say “you’re not good enough! Let me create these impossibly high standards and add a guilt trip for good measure!”

  • SAO

    As usual, there’s no middle ground between joyously anointing your family with nourishing, home-cooked food 3 times a day, 365days per year and eating every single meal at McD’s while your stove and cookware gather dust.


  • How can anyone read something so absurd and not walk away in disgust?

    Probably pretty easily! They just think, “God sez”(TM) and, if they are uneasy with it, they put on the religious happy mask. Or, they fear God will smite them one if they don’t listen to this.

    Their environment likely influences them, and their perception of the situation. Perhaps someone charismatic drew them in, and, even if they consider things problematic, they justify it to save face. (That would be more the social psychology explanation; however, I am just starting this course, so that is all I can offer. I know enough to be dangerous, so please take what I say with a grain if salt.)

  • AFo

    Nancy loves to elevate everyday tasks to holy rituals. Most people can cook, clean, and maintain their homes without needing “this glorifies the LORD” as motivation. True adults understand that there are just some things that need to get done, regardless of how you feel about them.

  • Tawreos

    What if the woman is a bad cook? What if eating out is actually better for the family? My mother was not and is not a good cook, some people just cannot follow recipes. When I got old enough I started doing the cooking, and food enjoyment at home increased. This may be why both my brother and I got culinary degrees and still do most of the cooking when with the family.

  • Melody

    That’s a blessing in disguise 😉 A lesson to become humble…. I’m sure they’d be able to twist it somehow.

  • Lucy

    I think your explanation is partly right. One thing I would add, though, is that there is a moral weight to messages like this that can bleed over into secular circles too – that is, messages like these can appear to agree with more innocuous versions of these essays you hear throughout society, so they “feel right” to the reader. Some people might also read stuff like this and assume that those are just normal messages (i.e. in this case, they assume this is just someone suggesting people cook and that cooking may be more fun than you think and does not have to be a chore). These people will not have any idea what is actually being suggested, and they might endorse messages like this not knowing that they are actually perpetuating an impossible standard. At worst, such people might see what is being said as an ideal, but not as something people are honestly expected to do.

    Of course, there are other secular people, particularly disabled and certain other emotionally abused people, who read the messages and get the tone right; that is, they see these things as the standard people are expected to follow (and these people were likely raised that way, rather than drawn in by charismatic people). This, and many other such messages, both religious and secular, can therefore contribute to said emotionally abused person feeling hurt, and uncomfortable, with no way of articulating why. And, if they do try to do that, people may shut them down and explain that the “real” message was a watered-down version of what was actually said, leaving the person who understands just how insidious the message is with no way of explaining why it is insidious. One tip I would give to those who wonder why people are so bothered by a seemingly innocuous message is this: the devil is in the details. Look at the details of what the message says, and if it looks like you have to be exceptionally good at the thing the message puts forth, or devote most of your time to obeying what that one message says, then you can see why the message makes people uncomfortable. And don’t forget that even if you might “grant” an exception to disabled people who can’t do the thing, society ultimately doesn’t, and there’s a good chance their consciences won’t, either. To the contrary, due to pervasive societal messages, the disabled person’s conscience, and, if they’re not lucky, some of the people they live with, will shame them for not being able to live up to the standards put forth by such messages, and feel they are “less than” as a result, especially when these messages are put forth as basic morality.

  • Saraquill

    “We see a beautiful description of a godly woman…. ‘if she has shown hospitality to strangers…if she has assisted those in distress, and if she has devoted herself to every good work.'”

    So by Campbell’s standards, she’s not a godly woman. I don’t she realizes what she’s saying about herself.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    These people tend not to actually read what is in the Bible, even while they themselves are quoting it.