Only Shameless Hussies Show Breasts During Breastfeeding

Only Shameless Hussies Show Breasts During Breastfeeding February 3, 2018

Leave it to The Transformed Wife’s Lori Alexander to figure out a way to shame breast feeding mothers while insisting  that mothers breast feed. This piece by Lori is a pile of self-righteous modesty gobblity-gook titled Women Showing Their Breasts While Breastfeeding. Lori really is a prissy old thing taking offense at things everywhere around her.

The main thing Lori is worried about is Ken viewing strange breasts not belonging to her?!?!? Why would that be ? Can Ken be tempted away by seeing breasts. Way to sexualize a natural non-sexual thing.

It’s also interesting that Lori seems to have skipped the 1960s and 1970s where young women openly breastfeeding their babies without covering up their breasts started to be not uncommon. Woodstock and the hippies anyone? This generation is no more or less modest that ones before it. Cue the millennial blaming.

This is all followed with Lori claiming that all babies can be trained out of wanting to nurse uncovered. We all know her idea of ‘child training’ is the same as Michael and Debi Pearl which means beat the holy bejesus out of the baby or toddler with a piece of plumbing line. After all, if she does not eat with a giant mammary gland in her face then why should a baby need that?

God never called us to be ashamed of our God-given bodies, particularly not when used for the intended purpose, feeding a baby, not some dumb sexually-repressed fundamentalist man’s erection.

List of toxic ideas in this drivel on breast feeding?

  • Breasts are primarily sexual
  • Men lose control sexually when viewing nursing breasts
  • Breastfeeding should only be done under clothing because clearly protecting the sexual reactions of weak wimpy sheltered men from breasts is way more important than a baby’s need to breathe.
  • Beat your child if he/she likes breathing more than huddling under suffocating cloth.
  • Don’t you dare show your slutty slutty breasts to Ken Alexander.

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  • Allison the Great

    I can’t stand the way these people always talking about “training their children”. They’re not dogs, just stop. You raise your children to be a decent person, not become a dictator and beat them when they behave like the children they are.

  • vaiyt

    Motherhood is so saintly but actually being a mother is something to be locked away in the bathroom like the filthy thing it is.

  • AFo

    Think about it this way: we don’t make older kids or adults eat in the bathroom, so why do it to babies? If seeing a mother feed her child is so offensive, look away. Lori, as usual, has to make it all about her and can’t just quietly go about her business.

  • Anonyme

    These people want to have it both ways–claim that society (aka anyone who doesn’t follow their exact beliefs and rules) is full of sex-obsessed heathens, yet go to extremes to “protect” their supposedly purer, holier men from personal responsibility if they (the men) see so much as a bit of thigh or a breast mostly obscured by a baby.

  • Michael Neville

    If the sight of a breast disgusts you or excites your husband, then don’t look. Why should people feeding their children have to cater to your opinions and prejudices?

  • John Pieret

    Ya know … I’d be hard pressed to think of anything less sexually stimulating than the sight of a breast with a baby attached.

    But then I’m not a sexually repressed victim of an ancient nomadic religion obsessed with maintaining a patriarchal dominance of a herd of females against all competing males the way the rams in their flocks did.

  • Cynthia

    Being so discreet that you can’t properly check the baby’s latch, especially in the very early days, is a good way to get bleeding nipples causing screaming pain.

    As well, basically sentencing mothers of babies to house arrest is a good way to trigger or worsen post-partum depression.

    Citation needed that breasts were always considered “nakedness”.

  • Mel

    I can’t figure out what Lori is so worked up about. Yeah, you might get a glimpse of a bit of the mom’s areola if you stare intently while she’s having the baby attach – but that’s for a few seconds or less in a baby that’s old enough to latch well and with little assistance. Once breastfeeding is happening, the baby’s head blocks everything except some of the upper curve of the breast.

    When I was in the NICU with my son, we did skin-to-skin everyday. I exposed way more of my breasts during skin-to-skin than would be visible during nursing because Spawn was such a tiny snippet at first that he fit between my breasts. Did this cause the fathers in the NICU to freak out when we were short on screens? No – not even the Amish guy. The dads just kept their eyes to themselves because they are adult men who understood the important of skin-to-skin with babies. Oh – the dads did skin-to-skin, too. It was adorable.

  • Anonyme

    Lori’s solution: drop everything you’re doing in public and go home when the baby is hungry. Because that’s totally practical and not an inconvenience at all.

  • Anonyme

    I’m sure, contrary to what Lori thinks, men are able to differentiate between “mother nursing her child” and “sexy times enjoying the breasts of one’s sexual partner(s)”

  • Anonyme

    Or just do what the Duggars do…have a female relative walk ahead of their male kin in public and yell “Nike!” as a code word when encountering “immodest” women, so the men look down.

  • Michael Neville

    The obvious reply to “Nike!” is “Adidas!”.

  • TLC

    Once again, Lori has to point out that “God commands the older women to teach the young women.” She highlights this in almost every post. And then trumpets how WONDEFUL it is that she has that role to teach! Ugh. Too bad no one is stepping up to tell her to shut up and mind her own damn business, and take care of her OWN home and life,

  • Saraquill

    Does this mean Lori forbids white meat poultry in her home? Slutty chicken breasts.

  • bekabot

    Behind this particular screen screed I glimpse more of the woes of Ken Alexander. (Poor fella.)

  • paganheart

    When my niece was in the NICU, she probably did more skin-to-skin with her dad than her mom. She was quieter and had more stable vitals with him, for some reason.

    Wonder if any of these “good Christian patriarchs” would dare try skin-to-skin with their infants, or if the mere idea squicks them out.

    Oh and Lori? The real purpose of breasts is to feed infants, not to sexually titillate men. Unless you’re a repressed fundie, I guess….

  • Nightshade

    I bet Lori is worked up about it because Ken saw a woman breastfeeding and couldn’t stop staring.

  • Carstonio

    I don’t know how much of men liking breasts is hard-wired and how much is socialized. In any case, just what is Lori afraid of? Maybe she imagines that Ken is going to run over to the mother and call out, “Next!” The two options I see are that Ken cannot control his impulses, or Lori refuses to accept that he can, and neither indicate a healthy marital relationship. Ultimately, if a man is indeed turned on by the sight of a woman nursing, that’s his problem and not hers.

  • Quinsha

    I am not qualified to say how women in my mother’s generation or women in my grandmother’s generation breastfed.

  • lady_black

    Actually, beating is a poor way to train an animal. It will only teach the animal to avoid you. Taking advantage of natural instincts (and consequences), and the use of praise and rewards is the best way to train an animal. Or a child.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    “Nakedness” in the Bible means exposure, the whole world seeing exactly what you are like. The Bible says Adam and Eve were naked and unashamed because they had nothing to be ashamed of.
    If Lori fears nakedness it is because she fears she herself is naked and will be exposed: that she is the emperor with no clothes on in the child’s story, and at some stage someone is going to spot that she’s actually naked.
    To quote John’s message from God to the Laodiceans, which Lori extracts a line from, and which has nothing to do with naked breasts:
    “I am about to vomit you out of my mouth, because you say ‘I am rich’, and you have grown rich, and have need of nothing and do not know that you are wretched, miserable, poor, blind and naked.
    I advise you to buy from me gold refined with fire, that you may be rich, and white garments that you may be clothed, that the shame of your nakedness may not be exposed, and to treat your eyes with salve that you may see.”
    It surprises me (and doesn’t surprise me) that Lori’s misapplied Bible verses tell a lot more about her than she realises.

  • SAO

    Usually, you can tell when a woman is about to breastfeed. But, rather than shame men who are rude and creepy enough to stare hoping to get a glimpse, Lori shames women. The mothers, of course, are responding to the needs of a baby who is too immature to wait. The men are just being jerks.

  • Julia Childress

    This link shows numerous historical pics of mothers breastfeeding. Lori could not be more wrong about this. I remember my mother and aunts breastfeeding babies at family picnics and other gatherings, and no one paid a bit of attention. https://www.buzzfeed.com/southerndisposition/25-historical-images-that-normalize-breastfeeding-jlw6?utm_term=.ibV6gVryo#.qjlbaDZ1B Just like the recent criticism of celebrities kissing their kids on the lips. We have sexualized everything. I think that even our Puritan forefathers and foremothers would think we have lost our minds.

  • Michael Neville

    She probably calls chicken breasts “white meat”.

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    Or it doesn’t even need to be a problem at all if he keeps it to himself…

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    I mean…the real purpose of breasts is whatever the owner of said breasts wants to do with them. If that’s breastfeeding, fine. If that’s sexually titillating men, fine. If that’s gaining sexual enjoyment for herself, fine. If it’s some or all or none of those things, fine. Our bodies are what we decide they are for. But they’re definitely not for policing by others.

  • Mary Hannah bates

    Maybe this is her way of saying that women and children belong at home.

  • Allison the Great

    Of course beating is a terrible way to train. I was merely saying that it’s a poor choice of words even if it were done gently.

  • Tuna

    Reebok!!!

  • Tuna

    My dad’s family are French Catholics. Everybody kisses on the lips.

  • Poster Girl

    It absolutely is. While nowadays the natural-living community is about evenly divided between liberal hippies and ultra-conservative wannabe Amish types, La Leche League was started by a group of conservative Catholic women who wanted to encourage women to stay home and saw bottle feeding as something that would allow women more flexibility in choosing to work outside the home. I own a copy of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding, the LLL handbook, and it was basically useless to me when I had latching difficulties with my first– all of the advice was spend more time at home with your baby and eventually the baby’ll get the hang of it. Not very useful when you’ve got inverted nipples and a baby with a tiny mouth.

  • EbbyBee

    Ah yes, the old “just nurse more!” method. So helpful.

  • No pity for Ken. He’s a nasty piece of work just like Lori.

  • Oh yes, we must not draw attention to ourselves. That’s why we insist on wearing (and forcing our children to wear) clothing that screams LOOK HOW MODEST AND SET-APART I AND MY GIRL CHILDREN ARE, Just look at Michelle Duggar and her girl children circa 2006, with all those matching dresses, long in length, bright red in color, shapeless in form, with massive peter pan collars. So modest. So set-apart-from-the-world. Focuses everyone’s attention on our countenances and not our bodies or what we are wearing. Modesty is all about not drawing attention to oneself. That’s why casually hiking up one’s shirt enough to let the baby latch is SOO much less modest than insisting on always using one of those cutesy nursing covers* that scream I AM NURSING AND I CAN’T HAVE YOU SEEING A CENTIMETER OF BOOB FLESH. /sarcasm

    *not to slam nursing covers; I know there are plenty of people who don’t think like Lori who are more comfortable using one

  • Cynthia

    The truth is that fewer women breastfed, period. My grandmother was automatically given a shot to dry up her milk, even though she wanted to breastfeed. My MIL and her friends thought breastfeeding was disgusting. So, it stopped being a cultural norm and it has had to be re-established.

  • ChevalBlanc

    That is true. I’m Gen X, so I was born in the 70s. I have heard there were some crunchy hippy mamas breastfeeding back then, but I never saw any moms in my neighborhood that openly breastfed. It seems somewhat recent that the benefits became common knowledge. To be perfectly honest, I still find it slightly shocking. Still, I realize that it is my problem that I’m uptight about something so totally natural.

  • I guess, most men I know feel something like: female stranger with small child -> not a potential partner to have sex with (probably too busy).
    Those fundigelicals remind me of the little boys in my neighbourhood trying to get a glimpse of the neighbour who has a habit of standing next to her window while getting dressed in the morning.

  • French Protestants here – we used to do that, too, till we noticed that most people considered that very strange.

  • lady_black

    Oh, I don’t know… I referred to nursing school as training. Many human endeavors are referred to as training. Athletics. Learning to drive an automobile. Military occupations. I don’t place any negative connotations upon the word “training.” It’s just another word for teaching and providing experiences.

  • Allison the Great

    I’ve always seen training as a positive experience as well. I guess what I was trying to say is that, knowing how the Pearls are, it is irksome that they would use such a word to describe the torture they inflict on children. Since Lori is a fan of the Pearls, I don’t even want to think about what that monster did to train her babies.

    On another note, she doesn’t seem to really like anything. Going by the way she describes her own personality and experiences, having children was just a means to an end. When thinking about that attitude, combined with her admiration of those abominable Pearls, her use of the word “train” to describe what they do is even worse.

  • Chiropter

    Ugh, how dare women have bodies? What sluts, existing like that!

    Seriously, Lori needs to quietly retire. It must be exhausting, living in that constant state of high-strung judgement.

  • Zeldacat

    My mom breastfed me for a few weeks in the mid 70s. Her mother convinced her to switch me to formula because she was convinced I wasn’t doing very well. I have no idea if I really wasn’t, or if Grandma was just assuming so because of her generation. Either way, I got fed, which was the most important part of the whole thing.

  • Martin Penwald

    I’m French, and I’ve always seen that as a weird U.S behaviour.

  • Raging Bee

    Are you kidding? High-strung judgement is the only fun she has!

  • lady_black

    That’s not training. It’s abuse, no matter what they call it.

  • katiehippie

    I’ve told her but I’m banned from posting now. I’m sure a lot of other women have done the same.

  • Martha Anne Underwood

    I don’t have any problems seeing children breastfed in public and I don’t think that the child needs a blanket over her/him when it happens. I believe it is natural and a beautiful thing.

  • Tuna

    I always saw it as a weird Canadian Francophone behavior.

  • bekabot

    Yes, but when you find bears in couples, usually there’s one bear in charge (and how) and one bear who’s kind of in thrall. Ken is the bear who’s in thrall (not that there’s anything more wrong with that arrangement that with the more ‘traditional’ one). My guess is that Lori struck the same bargain with Ken that Mike Pearl struck with Debi: “I notice you’ve got a mean streak and I can’t tell you how much I appreciate that in a person. Join up with me and I’ll give your mean streak all the latitude it could want; always under my direction, of course.” Ken (like Debi) said “yes” and from that moment forward was signed and sealed as the follower of the person with the bigger mean streak. Occasionally I feel a twinge of commiseration for Ken, just as I do for Debi. Maybe I shouldn’t, but I do. {shrugs}

  • ChevalBlanc

    You probably got all the good immunity stuff from what breast milk you did receive anyway.

    Boomers (our parents) wouldn’t be such a large generation if formula was truly evil baby poison, as most mommy bloggers claim. Lol.

  • Zeldacat

    I will have to ask but given that my mom was born in the ’50s I guess that she was on formula from the get-go. And she too turned out fine.

    This is a weird place to say this, especially since I don’t have kids (several reasons, a couple medical) but I am all for whatever works for individual families. Feed the kid. Breastfeeding is great, modern formula is pretty damn good. Whatever works, given your situation.

  • And just consider how many images of Mary nursing the infant Jesus there are in Catholic churches all over the world. If she ever went into one (assuming she didn’t immediately burst into flames) she’d have an immediate meltdown.

  • Julia Childress

    Exactly. I left a comment on Lori’s Transformed Wife blog making that point and others, like classical statues with bared breasts. I also pasted that link. I’m sure she will neither post my comment nor click on the link.

  • persephone

    See her previous rants about young women in yoga pants. You know she watches Ken like a hawk.

  • persephone

    I get really upset when I see women who are having trouble nursing, exhausted, with hungry babies, and the only advice they seem to get is, “Just keep trying.” Nope. A friend’s sister was home fulltime with a one month old, and still having problems. I told my friend, flat out, that her sister needed to just start bottle feeding; she was killing herself and starving the baby. (I don’t know the sister personally, just my friend related the issue.) If you’re a week in and having real problems, get a bottle. Everyone will be happier.

  • persephone

    My grandmother attempted to breastfeed, but my mother and uncle were twins, so it didn’t happen. I think my mom breastfed us for a short time, then switched to bottles fairly quickly as she was either working a fulltime job or helping out with my dad’s business. My sisters and I all, at least attempted, to breastfeed, but all ended up having to switch to bottles when returning to work.

  • Nightshade

    Indeed. It must be a miserable life, not trusting her husband at all, constantly worrying about him glimpsing another woman and actually having a *gasp* SEXUAL THOUGHT!

  • Mimc

    I mean there are good reasons you shouldn’t kiss babies on the lips that have nothing to do with sexualizing anything. The cold sore virus can be deadly in newborns. Also there is the flu, whooping cough, mono, and cavity causing bacteria. Better to just kiss their heads until their immune systems are a little more robust.

  • Mimc

    I’ve heard nursing covers can be good for babies that are easily distracted so that they get a full feeding even if a quiet place is not available.

  • lady_black

    Some babies don’t like them, especially if they’re old enough to want to look around. And who can blame them? I don’t eat under a tent. The baby doesn’t want to, either.

  • texassa

    Anyone who has ever seen a mother nursing a baby knows there is nothing sexual about it. These people belong in an insane asylum.

  • Beth Rose Gamble

    You know what, I hate her, too. I pitied her for awhile. But this shit about training a baby to tolerate a cover while nursing, idk why it’s the catalyst for my hatred of her, but the pity is replaced with date.

  • Beth Rose Gamble

    You know what, she’s mad because Ken does stare with intent and drools over milky areolas, and she can’t be pissed at her Lord Husband, so she’s passed at the bewbs.

  • Almost a chimp

    I wonder if Lori’s kids suffered much from stomach trouble when they were breastfed? Lori’s so sour I’d bet even her lactate came out curdled.

  • Petticoat Philosopher

    They’re really pretty much equal. Breastfeeding has never been shown to have any long-term benefits that aren’t accounted for by confounders like SES and maternal education level. But it’s good for women to have options. What you want to do/can do is find, as long as the baby gets fed and loved.