‘The Bachelor’ is Porn For Women?

‘The Bachelor’ is Porn For Women? March 20, 2019
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Lori Alexander of “The Transformed Wife” is at it again. She’s been going on for days in her chatroom and various social media about pornography. Mostly about men being hooked on porn, not hooked on a feeling. How you as a young unmarried woman must make sure your daddy screens out Mr. Porn before you marry him.

She is right about one thing. I think it’s pretty safe to say that no one wants to marry a guy with an overwhelming  porn problem. But this is where being a bit older and more mature, with the discernment to spot red flags comes in handy more than having your daddy talk to him.

Lori’s solution is all about daddy handling it Michael Pearl style, which is almost downright comedic more than practical. Why? Let’s take a look at the list of inappropriate questions Michael Pearl feels 100% comfortable asking a strange man.

I think it reveals a lot that Michael thinks any of these questions is any business of his. Run, young men, run when Michael starts asking you about goat sex!

Michael Pearl also believes that porn is stapled to trees. Lori Alexander thinks it’s put on the hallway floors of school. I want to know where all these likely fictional pornographers are that are giving away their products?

Here’s the thing that neither Lori nor Mike consider. People who are seriously addicted to something they shouldn’t be doing lie easily. Not just porn, but all sorts of things people shouldn’t be doing they will become practiced liars at. Particularly within the church. I will be there are more practiced liars per acre in repressive cult churches because people cannot be themselves or express anything outside of the small roles they are forced into within those churches. Having daddy questioning anyone is no guarantee of anything. That’s where getting to know someone and having the wisdom to spot red flags comes in.

But the other issue Lori’s nattering about porn brings up is something I was puzzling over on Facebook the other day.  Every day I do a semi-comical, semi-serious ‘Deep Shallow Thought’. The other day I said ‘One person’s porn is another person’s ‘So what?”

Who decides what is porn? What is it? Remember when Debi Pearl proclaimed Barbie dolls to be porn?

If my years in fundy town taught me anything it’s that porn can be anything, and things very ‘normal’ outside of the cult church. Everything from showing an ankle all the way to hard core Japanese tentacle porn. Look at what Lori is saying here, that television shows like ‘The Bachelor’ are porn. I haven’t watched the show but might have to catch a few episodes just to see what exactly she’s fussing about. Is it that they are sometimes wearing bikinis or low cut tops?

Well, that rules out both Lori and I, if she’s had the brain tumor treatment she keeps speaking of. She’d have a tiny blue dot of a tattoo on her head, the twin of the one on my left breast. This tells the technician where to shoot the radiation in the tumor to shrink it. But I digress.

Here’s what Lori Alexander misses in her ranting about pornography and ‘The Bachelor’. The kinds of churches Lori approves of tend to look at things like Hallmark Channel movies as ’emotional porn,’ just like romance novels and having conversations with the opposite sex. Lori cannot claim to be porn-free by her own standards, or throw mud at ‘The Bachelor.’

Everyone has something in their lives that someone else might consider porn. Why not show each other some grace, offer help instead of tossing rocks at each other?


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