Taking a Sabbatical

Taking a Sabbatical December 21, 2019

Oh wow, I miss my house and my lovely things some days. Today is one of those.

Dearest friends and No Longer Quivering readers,

Starting later today I am taking a sabbatical from online until later in the month, December 29th. There will be different type of content at NLQ than the usual pile of suspects. Someone else will be handling the moderation duties at that time. I will not be available on Facebook or any other social media and plan on trying to stick to that hard. If it’s an emergency you can pm on Facebook as I’ll have my cell with me and see your messages.

I’m working on a book, so what time I am on the computer between now and the end of the year will be concentrated on a big push towards finishing my book. It’s a true crime book about a murder that occurred and is possibly linked to the sex trafficking of teenage girls through the IFB (Independent Fundamentalist Baptist) troubled teen homes. A dark subject that is taking a toll on my psyche.

This decision comes after a pretty intense week or two at No Longer Quivering. As many of you know during my years in my old Evangelical church I was involved with Bill Johnson, Bethel Church and the Healing Rooms ministry. Having to explain and reexplain to a scoffing world that the death of Olive Heiligenthal was not a scam for money, not a scam to promote their resurrection ministry, not a plot or a conspiracy or anything else but a tragic death, mourning parents and some very toxic unBiblical theology was incredibly hard. Been told repeated that the church didn’t exist, or that the death was faked wore on me as the week went on. I was forced to remember and parse out the details of my agonizing time at my former church, with disturbing echos of that time.

It was a good example of what’s happening in our country right now, the divisions and the lack of kindness. People are all too eager to always believe the very worst thing, and come up with some incredibly cruel words.

I will be seeking in this season the way forward for NLQ. While I still intend to point out toxic theology that has nothing to do with Jesus, and the way forward out of that flawed theology towards a healthier spirituality I want to think about how to do that without adding to the awful cultural zeitgeist of this time.

A world where people routinely say ugly things to and about a set of parents grieving the loss of their small child is not some place I really want to be.

The regular commenters at NLQ are some of the best folks I know, and they’ve been wonderful this week. I love you guys! It’s the world that’s been rough.

I don’t really know in this moment what the way forward looks like, but I do know that 2020 is going to be a year of more kindness in my life. It has to be.

Please, please, for the love of the universe, dear Homeland Security please do not arrest any Duggars while I’m out of the loop..Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Festivus for the Rest of Us, whatever you celebrate may it be a joyous time of family, friends, peace and love.

Love you all,


Stay in touch! Like No Longer Quivering on Facebook:

If this is your first time visiting NLQ please read our Welcome page and our Comment Policy! Commenting here means you agree to abide by our policies but our main rule is this – Do not be a dick!

Copyright notice: If you use any content from NLQ, including any of our research or Quoting Quiverfull quotes, please give us credit and a link back to this site. All original content is owned by No Longer Quivering and Patheos.com

Read our hate mail at Jerks 4 Jesus

Check out today’s NLQ News at NLQ Newspaper

Contact NLQ at SuzanneNLQ@gmail.com

Comments open below

NLQ Recommended Reading …

Quiverfull: Inside the Christian Patriarchy Movement by Kathryn Joyce

I Fired God by Jocelyn Zichtermann

13:24 A Dark Thriller by M Dolon Hickmon

About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 33 years. You can read more about the author here.

Browse Our Archives

Follow Us!

What Are Your Thoughts?leave a comment
  • gimpi1

    Rest well, recover your balance and may you find the kindness that you seek. I agree, we need to remember how to disagree without the nastiness. Perhaps this may make a good new year’s resolution?

  • Nancy

    Enjoy your much needed break! Take care!

  • firebubbles310

    Self care is critical. See you in the New Year! Thank you for NLQ and helping me understand a little more a side of Christians I only saw once I went down to Lynchburg, I didn’t go to Liberty. (Prior the most conservative churches I saw were African American churches).

  • Rann

    Hugs, Suzanne! It’s about time you looked after yourself(As a PTSD survivor myself, I know the last bit has been incredibly hard on2 you)! Take care of yourself! Love from the Great White North!

  • TLC

    Enjoy yourself on your much-deserved break! And good luck finishing the book. Hope all goes well.

  • lady_black

    Have a wonderful break.

  • B.A.

    Can’t wait to read your book! Sending online hugs.

  • Karen the rock whisperer

    Peace, love, to you, and great rest and accomplishment! (Remember, self-care is an accomplishment.)

  • persephone

    I don’t know how you’ve kept this up seven days a week, through illness and injury, and moving, and starting a business. Thank you, Suzanne. You deserve a fantastic holiday season and a long rest.

  • SAO

    Have a great holiday! I’m sorry your book is taking a toll on your psyche, but it’s good work.

  • Cynthia

    Enjoy your holiday and thanks for the travel tips! Take care of yourself.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Self-care isn’t a want; it’s a need. Enjoy your break!

  • Saraquill

    Enjoy your time off, do your favorite things and otherwise relax, Suzanne.

  • booksbooksbooks

    Enjoy your break!

  • Clancy

    Even we not-as-regular-as-we-could-be commenters are looking forward to what comes next. Do what you must, get your feet back under you, and we’ll be here when you get back.

  • Friend

    Be well, and know that you are treasured.

  • Emersonian

    Best of holidays to you, Suzanne, and think you for all you do at NLQ.

  • Warm sands and bright moons, Suzanne — we shall be here when you return.

  • Astreja

    Happy Yule, Merry Christmas, and have a wonderful time off!

  • Ann Nienow Bowen

    Safe travels, great flights, and lots of rest and recuperation. See ya on the flip flop!

  • DoctorDJ
  • Thank you for all the work you did here. It was (and still is) very important for me. Take a rest, enjoy your break, all the best to you and your loved ones.