This is What Self Care Looks Like

This is What Self Care Looks Like October 14, 2020

One of the few constants of life is change. Today I made the decision to make a big life change. It’s one I’ve been contemplating for quite a long time, and I’m doing it for my own self care.

My health hasn’t been great for a long time, since last January pre pandemic when I found myself now suddenly allergic to the chemicals used in our swimming pool here. My MCAS has been almost unbearable since then. Add in a diagnosis of Meniere’s disease yesterday and it is obvious what I need to do for me, for my own self care. On days when it’s bad I have a hard time sitting up to write here.

We talk a lot here at NLQ about self care, about knowing where our boundaries are, and putting ourselves and our needs first. But most of us struggle to do just that. I know I have, I do it imperfectly and I’ve hung on longer that I likely should. I’ve been here ten years now, two thirds of the time I spent in my old cult church.

Add in that in the past 8 weeks or so the rhetoric from those who oppose NLQ has gotten insane. I’ve received missives from pastor Steven Anderson’s supporters telling me they were coming to Costa Rica to forcibly hold me down and shave my head. They are just the tip of the nasty rotten iceberg going on from others. Lately I have not even had time to post anyone much at Jerks4Jesus either. It’s increasingly taken up large portions of time dealing with blocking, deleted, banning and everything else that goes along with threats. It’s no way to live.

To cut to the chase I am ending my time at Patheos writing daily at No Longer Quivering. I’ve suggested a few people to step into my shoes, so the column itself may continue.

You’ll see me pop up at friend’s sites. In fact I owe Jonathan Pierce of A Tippling Philosopher a piece on visions in the Charismatic churches. Plus I still have my book deal. I’ll now have time and motivation to actually finish four books and start publishing.

The hardest part is that I am going to miss each and everyone one of you I’ve been in contact with during this crazy ride. I love you guys, some of the best and smartest folks I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know!

I also want to thank Patheos and BN Media for giving me a virtual soap box. They’ve always been so helpful and supportive. I wish them continued success.

Over the next couple of weeks I’m going to wind up my two book reviews. One for Doug Wilson’s book “Ride Sally Ride” and Lisa Moravek’s “Serena’s Serenity”

Looking forward to time spent painting again.

I’ll be around. Thank you again for taking this journey with me navigating processing profound religious trauma.


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About Suzanne Titkemeyer
Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 34 years You can read more about the author here.
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