The Lori Alexander Microphone Drop Heard Round the World

The Lori Alexander Microphone Drop Heard Round the World December 11, 2019
Here, look at these very pretty Guanacaste Day dancers outfits I took several days ago at the shop that repairs my sewing machine in Liberia. Better than viewing that hateful face of Lori.

One of the most fun things about hypocritical and tattooed (Cyberknife radiation tattoo) toxic female cultural enforcer Lori Alexander of The Transformed Wife is her tendency to make nasty bold statements and walk them back. By later editing them if she gets pushback on the original statement. She does this almost as frequently as she blocks and bans any female that disagrees with her.

Yesterday was epic on so many levels. One of the reasons is that her toxic trash got pushback from a celebrity and pretty awesome Christian blogger. She just kept editing that piece again and again.

People sometimes come here and gripe that I’m writing about Lori again. But they don’t understand it’s merely because she is one of the loudest yet most ignorant voices out there in Quiverfull. Literally her entire ‘ministry’ is set up to bash others, make people feel bad about themselves, destroy their self esteem and tear them down. Ministries should be all about reaching people with the love of a savior, building them up to face the difficulties of life, not burdening them.

Okay so here we are with Lori’s original statement yesterday and two very good replies. First up is Christian blogger, and author Tim Fall on Lori’s original statement:

To me that was a complete and total mike drop! Tim called her out on her excreta, did it in a humorous way and pointed out her hypocrisy.  Interestingly enough Lori has not removed it, or blocked him. I guess that’s because he’s a penis possessor so he gets that free pass.

Next up, Jane Lynch of “Glee” and “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel” just to name a few of her projects.

But we all know Lori never retreats, never apologizes and never explains, so Jane’s kind words will never be reacted to. I didn’t look, but I’m betting this has been pulled down and Jane Lynch blocked.

Then the editing starts.

She adds ‘generally’ because people were upset with her words that most or all women do this. Oh brother. Why am I sensing the heavy hand of viral virtual vomitus of one Ken Alexander here?

Many people theorize that Ken does most of her writing, but I doubt that seriously. Ken is in love with piles of words when only a dozen or so are necessary. Plus Lori’s writing style is distinctively different than his. It was never more obvious than a few days ago when Lori posted a piece written about Sheila Wray Gregoire of To Love, Honor and Vacuum that she said she and Ken had written together, but it sounded not at all like either of them.

This morning, another edit:

Another version of the same thing. Why? The other ones seem to be down now.

On another celebrity giving someone with very bad ideas pushback I had to laugh at Chrissy Teigen’s words to Stephan Molyneux and his statement and speculation on the possible fertility of Taylor Swift. How is it any of his business. Lori loves Molyneux and extensively quotes him many times.

One of the more awful things about the words of people like Stephan Molyneux and Lori Alexander is the terrible frighteningly violent followers they attract, who take every word they’ve written and extrapolate it out to the worst conclusions.

Thanks to the ladies on various groups on Facebook that catch all these terrible screen caps while I’m still fumbling around with my coffee.

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  • Mary Hannah bates

    “make people feel bad about themselves,” No, we are responsible for how we feel. I get young people can be bullied in situations that they cannot escape the bully, but If you say I am lazy, stupid, and a no good something or other, I know that is not true. That is my responsibility. I will not give you the ability to make me feel anything. Yes, Lori is a nut, but nothing she says makes me feel bad or good. Lori doesn’t control me. I do.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Then you are a rarity. Most people are going to feel at least a twinge of guilt from her words.

  • llDayo

    Hard to believe necroking48 isn’t married. He sounds like quite the catch!

  • Friend

    It’s good that you are immune to this. Her intentions matter, though, and unfortunately she has enough followers to suggest that her t0xic ideas sink in.

  • Friend

    I’m hoping he’s a character1, like Slim1 Shady1.

  • Friend

    In Lori’s last version, what’s “immediate” about welfare1, debt1 forgiveness, and day care? Those would seem to be long-term broad societal benefits, the supposedly natural God-given leadership focus of men. If Lori wanted to accuse1 women of wanting instant gratification, she should rant1 about shoes and makeup.

  • Julia Childress

    Her main victims are women who have been raised in toxic religious situations where all they have heard during their lives is that they are never going to be good enough. From the cradle, many of us grew up singing hymns with lyrics such as “Would He devote that sacred head for such a worm as I” and “Unworthy am I of the grace that he gave” and many more. Then factor in the teachings that women in particular are never supposed to take care of themselves, but they are to be devoted to the care of others. Then mix in some misogyny in the form of women must be lovely to look at, meek, slim, pure, and ever-smiling, and we are set up for a life of self-doubt because real people can’t meet these impossible standards. Then along comes Lori, a snake disguised as a Christian if there ever was one. Women weak and beaten-down in their faith believe that she is what she purports to be, and she must be right about things because she has been transformed by her faith. She makes them feel terrible. Until they reach a point in their faith where they realize that they are worthy, that God does love them and God doesn’t expect them to follow some stupid, made-up religious legal system, and that Lori’s teachings are heretical and damaging, Lori is able to wield power over many of them. The good news is that once they see what’s behind the curtain, and many have, then they can become immune to her toxicity.

  • Nea

    I think Lori’s view is along the lines of Those People will “immediately” benefit from financial help and daycare, whereas white people’s her taxes will go up to fund The not white Undeserving Lazy Other People.

  • Delta

    And the girls who have grown up in this environment, who have heard their parents share and repeat Lori’s words…?

    It is not someone’s fault if they get hurt by someone who is trying to hurt them. If you punch someone, and they are injured, it is not their fault for failing to shrug off the pain or dodge the injury in the first place. That’s just silly.

    I am glad you have that resilience to be unaffected by this drivel. That doesn’t make people who don’t react the same way as you weak.

  • Friend

    Ha! Yeah, leave it to me not to even think there is a racist1 dog whistle here. Guess I know too many poor1 white1 people, working white1 parents scared1 stiff about day care, and white1 people with student loan1 debt1. All of these problems are shared, regardless of skin1 color.

  • Raging Bee

    Shouldn’t this post be titled The Lori Alexander Microphone Drop Pickup Reword Drop Pickup Reword Drop Again Heard Round the World

  • Aloha

    I recently asked on another site about gender-related voting differences.

    One commentor suggested that the political differences between women are men are because women tend to be poorer — so they care about daycare and free college etc. Women married to rich men don’t. They shed off these social topics and prefer just to keep the money with the wealthy.

  • The Bofa on the Sofa

    Next up, Jane Lynch of “Glee” and “The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel” just to name a few of her projects.

    I just realized the other day that she was also in The Fugitive

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I was surprised when look at IMDB the other day at all the projects she’s been and the breath of diverse characters.

  • Tawreos

    She needs to stop worrying about which tingly bits a person has and realize that some people can see the big picture, some people find the minute details and others see a mid-range where they get some of both. Society functions because different people see things differently. Excluding people’s views from that society because of the tingly bits the possess weakens society. Too bad people like Lori will never learn that.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    LMAO!! Sure

  • Raging Bee

    They’re not shared equally, but yeah, you’re generally right. And all the people and interest-groups who are causing all those problems, are also using racism to keep all their victims divided against each other, rather than united against them.

  • Raging Bee

    Run Away Run Back To Walk Back… We could do this all day…

  • Raging Bee

    She also needs to get her sexist stereotypes straight. Aren’t women supposed to be bringing their natural empathy and cooperation to manage society in the long term while the men fight and work and rescue damsels in distress and hunt mammoths and aurochs?

  • Friend

    Agreed that the problems1 are not shared equally. But Lori & Co. tend to overlook figures on white people receiving welfare1. This has happened in my very own family.

  • paganheart

    I’m quite certain that if we ever managed to get poor, white conservative Christians in the USA to understand that the One Percent are the real problem–as opposed to feminists, the LGBTQ, POC, atheists etc…let’s just say the French Revolution would look like a pillow fight by comparison.

  • Raging Bee

    The one-percent are certain of it too.

  • Raging Bee

    There may be a bit of embarrassment in this. There’s also lots of cases where the most rebellious and even secessionist parts of a country are the parts that get the MOST assistance from the nation as a whole. It’s like the more you help them, the more they want to push you away and loudly assert that they don’t need anything from you so leave them alone and stop being a nanny-statist!

  • AFo

    Does Lori think everyone outside her bubble has the memory of a goldfish, or that they don’t know how to take a screenshot of something? And these people who “follow” her…all I know is I hope none of my students somehow end up with “men” like this.

  • Saraquill

    I have in-laws like this. I enjoy not speaking to them.

  • Saraquill

    Lori is less a goldfish than a glass bowl.*

    *I’m learning phrases from another website designed to get past censor bots. Try saying “glass bowl” quickly.

  • Julia Childress

    I loved her in Julie and Julia and in Best in Show.

  • Tawreos

    Her normal sexist stereotypes are only in play when she needs them to be.

  • Raging Bee

    …subject to change without notice?

  • frostysnowman

    She’s great in all those Christopher Guest movies.

  • Tawreos

    Every bit of religious theology comes with that in small print at the bottom.

  • Raging Bee

    I’m almost inclined to think necroking48 is a Poe.

  • Raging Bee

    but If you say I am lazy, stupid, and a no good something or other, I know that is not true.

    How would you know that, if everyone you’re exposed to is either saying it in unison or not disputing it?

  • Nea

    Oh, they want the help. They just don’t want the obligation and the strings attached.

  • Nea

    To be fair, most evangelical “authorities” assume that the people taking their advice have the memory of goldfish. (For instance, the Pearls rarely go 3 paragraphs without undercutting their own advice, and sometimes do it within 3 sentences.)

    It comes from getting all the marks to believe with all their heart that What I Say About This Bible Verse is True while forgetting with all their minds that yesterday’s Bible Verse flat-out contradicted that.

  • Raging Bee

    Actually, I think a lot of people feel ashamed and get offended by the LACK of strings: that’s charity and how dare you make me a “charity case!”

  • Mary Hannah bates

    Then I would have known it before Lori came along. The only thing someone like Lori can do is reinforce what I already believe or I know it not to be true. She herself cannot plant the seed in an adult. A child yes, an adult no.

  • Mary Hannah bates

    Why would I feel guilty on what someone else says? Either I felt guilt before someone like Lori, or I am not going to feel guilt at all. She cannot force me or you. Nobody can.

  • Mary Hannah bates

    “And the girls who have grown up in this environment, who have heard their parents share and repeat Lori’s words.” The parents planted the seed, not Lori. She cannot do anything. She cannot take someone where they do not already know how to go.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I think the thing you are missing here is that if you have PTSD from spiritual abuse, or you are struggling in some way those types of words can trigger you, no matter how much you know they aren’t true.

  • persephone

    Just some incel who visited from 8chan is my guess

  • persephone

    Congratulations to Lori for once again ignoring actual data. Lori is a narcissist9 and pathological9 liar9, and she believes, as such usually do, that every woman is like her. Women vote and work for their families and future; men vote and work for themselves.

  • Iain Lovejoy

    Oh goody. I do hope no-one ever turns to you for help. Now not only is the poor sod coming to you for support being constantly ridiculed, undermined and gaslighted by the bully, they have you in the other side telling them it is also all their fault for being upset by it.
    You come across as being entirely devoid of empathy. You don’t care or understand how others feel, which is why you can be unaffected by how they feel about you.

  • B.A.

    I hope that my younger niece,and my nephew’s daughter (my great-niece) don’t either.

  • Madison Blane

    Do you understand that other people aren’t you? And that not everyone is like you? Because you seem to be implying that because certain things won’t hurt you, they shouldn’t hurt others. And that is 1000% wrong. If what you are saying were true, then anti-semitism, and racism, and shouting homophobic slurs at people should be fine as long as it’s just words. But the human psyche doesn’t work that way. Physical wounds may heal but words can hurt forever. It’s a shame you don’t have enough empathy to recognize this from up there on your high and mighty horse. https://qph.fs.quoracdn.net/main-qimg-99a61ecf7dc22394b603854e0c920cb4.webp

  • Martin Penwald

    If men were looking for the long-term, we would already have abandonned fossil fuels in the last decade.

  • Data point of one, but Evil Ex was NOT about the long-term planning beyond whatever his current Big Money-making Idea was. This guy, uh, this is a guy who would take his monthly check and waste it on fun instead of being responsible and helping out with the bills. But, you know, he wanted the thing, and had to have it now. Oh, he’d get all kinds of huffy if I dared splurge even a little on myself, or bought food that wouldn’t make me sick. He was the one leaving things out until they went bad and then complaining that I threw them out. He just couldn’t see beyond his immediate wants.

  • Michael Neville

    Lori Alexander, the gift that keeps on giving.

  • Jennifer

    Yes, she can plant the seed for an adult. There are new Christians who are humbled before God and not sure where to go. They get bad messages all the time, and if they also happen to marry a traditionalist man who believes in any type of gender roles? Boom.

  • Sassafras

    Sounds a lot like my biological dad who could never comprehend financial and adult responsibilities.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Sounds just like my ex. It was miserable.

  • He’d consistently “forget” to put away perishables.

  • Friend

    Not being a man, I am confused. What kind of fuel do you put in a fossil?

  • Friend

    Ugh, so sorry.

  • Madison Blane

    In addition to my original point, since you have more than once referenced prior knowledge/belief, I’d like to ask you to explore a different line of thought. HOW have you obtained the beliefs that you currently hold? Have you personally tested every single piece of information given to you, or did you – like the rest of us – trust that your parents, family, community, educators, and other various authorities were generally being truthful? Did you obtain 100% of your beliefs and thought processes as a child? Since then, have you never believed a single wrong thing that was told to you by someone you trusted who also believed wrongly? Have you learned or changed beliefs about nothing since you have been an adult? Have you never – not once – had a trusted person refer you to an opinion piece that sparked deeper consideration? Have you never read anything that opened your eyes to a new perspective and altered your beliefs somewhat?

    Have you never been scammed, at all, even in the slightest way? Ever paid more for something than it’s worth? Ever made a ‘sure thing’ investment that turned out to be a waste of time/money/effort? Ever put time into a friendship or relationship that you really shouldn’t have, or made concessions that you might not otherwise because you cared for this person? Has no one ever taken advantage of a belief or assumption of yours – maybe even one you didn’t realize you were subconsciously harboring such as “most people are trying to do what they believe is right” or “that person has no reason to lie” or “I don’t put myself in vulnerable situations and I always conduct myself properly, so no one will have an opportunity to hurt me like they do to weaker, less responsible women”?

    All of us, every one, makes assumptions based on our beliefs every day. We go to the store and shop for groceries without tactical gear because we assume the other people there won’t kill2 us. And yet, mass murders happen in all kinds of random places. Still, we feel relatively secure in our decision to buy tomatoes today. And we don’t act like people who come into contact with mass murderers made the wrong decision in trusting that it was safe to run a marathon, or go to work/school that day, or socialize with friends. Because the thing that makes a person a victim is being in the path of a victimizer, not that they failed to be sufficiently armored against it. Likewise, the thing that makes a person a victim of spiritual abuse isn’t some kind of personal failing, any more than catching a contagious disease is the fault of a child who has not been vaccinated against it.

    The way fundamentalist abuse works is insidious. It takes the good intent of open-hearted faith and twists it, using and abusing people who only want to live lives that are fulfilled. But the culture of Christianity really is not that different than any other group. It is not so foreign that outsiders cannot relate to the bad experiences with tools no more specialized than inborn empathy and the ability to draw simple parallels. People like Lori may be at the extreme end, but every step along the continuum leading up to that is nothing more than an exploitation of the things that make us human – our desire for connection, our drive to be and do right, our ability to love and trust, our capacity to feel emotion, our innate ambitions, and necessary impulse to thrive. And if you can’t figure out how being exploited in that way is painful for victims – a pain they cannot simply choose not to feel? I don’t know what to tell you.

    Obviously Lori’s words don’t hit your particular soft spots, but don’t you have them? Have you never once been emotionally jabbed by a stranger’s words – maybe because people you do care about also believe those words? Is there nothing anyone outside your personal circle could ever say that might stir feelings of fear, or panic, or shame? I mean, it seems you’re pretty closed off to receptiveness when it comes to understanding spiritual abuse and the perspectives of those who have survived it, but is there really no experience outside your own personal purview that you have ever been open to? Have you never, ever been receptive to any idea beyond that which you have personally lived through? Because if not, then truly you’re wasting your time here. You’re wasting your time reading anything at all.

    Just because you aren’t vulnerable to Lori’s words, you’re still vulnerable in other ways. So while declaring yourself above it all might feel good in the moment, it’s self-deception. No one is completely immune to emotional pain. Acting as if you can simply choose not to be hurt is maladaptive delusion, as ridiculous as thinking you’re thick-skinned enough to be bulletproof.

  • TheBookOfDavid

    Umm…OT, but does anybody here know how long an open jar of mayonnaise keeps on the workbench? Asking for a friend.

  • Your best bet is to just toss it out, unless you feel like gambling with your bowels.

  • Yep, can’t see why he’s single.

  • TheBookOfDavid

    Hate to waste your time, but followup question: what if he finished off half of the remaining contents while waiting for your response, hypothetically speaking?

  • Stay near the loo, and pray.

  • Pink Fleur

    As someone who was repeatedly raped as a child by a man it is hurtful to read someone say I shouldnt have the right to vote. It is mostly MEN who buy, sale, and rape sex slaves. It looks like Lori Alexander is catering to men like Ariel Castro and Phillip Garrido . I sincerely believe men like that make Lori Alexander horny2. She sounds like one of the few women who look at porn2 of little girl sex slaves2 being sexually tortured and gets turned on by it.

    The woman is no better than Allison Mack and the woman’s male followers won’t what Ariel Castro had.

  • lady_black

    I never developed the shoe gene. I wear the same pair of shoes, every day, when I wear shoes at all. Don’t wear makeup either. I never liked the way it felt. Undiagnosed Asperger’s? Highly possible.

  • Anonyme

    I wanna be a fly on the wall in Lori’s house if Warren is elected, seeing her (Lori’s) attitude to female leadership.

  • Cynthia

    I assume Ken will start posting about the Whore2 of Babylon again. Lori will just say that things are going downhill but at least we are close to the apocalypse.

  • Cynthia

    It really is one of those things that will depend on your past.

    It took me a while to realize that, as someone who didn’t grew up with spiritual abuse or constant threats of hell from people close to me. My experience was that the threats came from people who had no importance to me or influence over my life.

    I understood early on the importance of legal rights for LGBT people, but it took me years to understand the psychological impact of acceptance. It finally dawned on me that while I always knew that many Christians think I’m going to hell, I never heard that from my own family.

    I think it also explains why some Christians and former Christians feel more horrified than I do that some evangelicals think Jews like me are going to hell. I never expected any better, and since I never shared that belief in Hell, it literally has no impact on me. I mean, I might get nervous about its impact on other people in terms of inciting violence, but and I don’t have any respect for that belief, but it doesn’t cause me to feel bad or give me a nanosecond of worry, and I tend to make fun of it. If I had been raised with fear of hellfire, though, I could see how it might sound scary.