It seems innocent. But when have you ever said to your husband, “We need to talk,” and he’s responded with, “Wow! I thought you’d never ask. I can’t wait!” Probably never because something delightful rarely follows. “We need to talk” are words your husband dreads hearing. It’s hardly ever, “We need to talk about how to make more time for sex” or “We need to talk about what a great husband you are.” If you want to cause tension in… Read more
October 4, 2019
3 Powerfully Simple Ways to Make Your Marriage Happier
October 4, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Did you go into marriage thinking it’d be your happy place? I did. And when it wasn’t, I blamed my husband. He was supposed to be my personal happy machine. He didn’t see it that way. And since he wasn’t making me happy, I started making him miserable. I’d nag and complain because he seemed more interested in anything other than me. I longed for a happy, emotionally intimate relationship. We weren’t ever going to have one at the rate… Read more
October 4, 2019
4 Benefits of Marrying Young
October 4, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Marrying young isn’t for everyone, but there are some benefits to those who do. People are waiting longer and longer to get married these days. Some think they may somehow be missing out by getting married young. Others think it’s better to get married when you’re older and wiser. Whether you’re old or young, marriage can be tough. You’re going to have ups and downs if you marry at 25 or 45. Is it good to marry young? I’ve been… Read more
September 30, 2019
10 Things Your Husband Wishes You Knew About Him
September 30, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
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“Lisa” said she wishes she knew what she knows now when she got married. She thinks it might’ve saved her marriage. She thought her husband was uncaring, disconnected and didn’t care about her. What if “Lisa” had known what she was experiencing in her marriage was normal? If she had known what to expect, she might not have been so quick to file for a divorce. She admits she thought they weren’t compatible because they thought differently. And she didn’t… Read more
September 25, 2019
This is a Common Enemy of Your Marriage
September 25, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Do you ever fight over silly things? We had a huge argument was over a can of tuna once. After a long day at work, I was exhausted. I just wanted to plop down in front of the TV and eat the last of the tuna salad. But my husband beat me to it. When I walked in the door, he was finishing it off. Ordinarily not a big deal. But I was tired, so it was a big deal…. Read more
August 31, 2019
4 Ways to Get Your Marriage Back on Track
August 31, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Have you ever thought “Crap, I married the wrong person” ? Marriage has a lot less to do with marrying the right person and more to do with doing the right things with the person you married. Maybe you’re in a rough spot in your marriage and you’re having a hard time finding your way back to “happily ever after.” When things aren’t going well, there’s hope. You can get your relationship back on track. Why You Said ‘I Do’… Read more
August 30, 2019
30 Things I Wish I Knew When I Was 30
August 30, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
When I’d been married almost ten years, I thought I knew it all. At least I thought I knew it all about being a Christian wife. I had almost 10 years experience. A lot of couples don’t even make it to 10 years. I must be doing something right. I was 30, a real adult. I had three kids and a house. My kids were happy. My husband seemed satisfied. What more could I possibly learn about marriage? Looking back,… Read more
August 28, 2019
Want a Happier Marriage? Try This
August 28, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
God is love. He wants you to be happy. That’s what I told myself when I was miserable in my marriage. A loving god wouldn’t want me to be miserable the rest of my life. I finally concluded, “The God of love doesn’t want me to be married. At least not to this guy.” I thought I needed a new husband. While it’s true God is love and He wants you to be happy, that doesn’t mean He wants you… Read more
August 28, 2019
3 Things Every Husband Needs to Hear (A Lot)
August 28, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
What does your husband need from you? Shaunti Feldhahn, a bestselling author and social researcher, wrote a book detailing things men wish women knew. It’s called For Women Only: What You Need to Know About the Inner Lives of Men. In it, she discusses the surprising truths she discovered after interviewing more than 1,000 men. Here are a few things she found out about men: Men would rather feel unloved than feel inadequate and disrespected. A man’s anger is often a… Read more
August 26, 2019
There’s No Such Thing As a Perfect Marriage
August 26, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
When I wanted people to think my marriage was perfect, I was miserable. What looked perfect on the outside was a mess on the inside. I compared my marriage to other people’s marriages and thought, “How can I have a great marriage, too?” Everyone else’s marriage seemed prefect. I learned the secret to a perfect marriage: There are none. When you see a marriage that looks perfect what you’re really seeing is the result of hard work and commitment. But I… Read more
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