You love him so much. Why does he push you away? As the closest person to him, you’re more familiar with his flaws and shortcomings. It’s understandable that you want to make your husband better and help him live up to his potential. But instead of pulling him closer, you may be creating distance. The more you help the more distant he becomes. Sometimes when you try to “help” him, you actually push him away. Many times I’ve tried to… Read more
April 17, 2019
6 Ways You May Unintentionally Disrespect Your Man
April 17, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Do you try to make your man feel loved, but it doesn’t seem to work? He doesn’t act like he loves you back. He’s distant and doesn’t want to spend time with you. Have you ever considered your man’s behavior towards you as “feedback?” And his “feedback” is telling you he doesn’t appreciate your love. How can you make him feel loved? He may be responding to you because of the way he thinks you’re treating him. What makes you… Read more
April 5, 2019
7 Things You Can Choose That’ll Improve Your Marriage
April 5, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Maybe you made the same mistake I did. When I got married, I thought my husband was supposed to make me happy. Just a few months in, I thought I’d married the wrong guy. He looked like the same guy. The name on his driver’s license matched the name on our marriage license, but he was not the same guy. And I was not happy. I decided to change him. Changing him was harder than I thought. We agreed to… Read more
April 4, 2019
7 Strategies For Having the Best Marriage Ever
April 4, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
There’s nothing more painful than trying to fix a hard marriage. And sometimes, it’s hard to believe a tough marriage can be fixed. It’s possible. I have a strong marriage now, but it hasn’t always been that way. My marriage got off to a rocky start. And it went downhill from there. It seemed beyond fixable. We fought all the time . . . when we were speaking. The truth is we couldn’t have simple conversation without fighting. Everything was… Read more
March 31, 2019
3 Ways to Make Sure Your Man Won’t Change
March 31, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Is “how can I change my husband” a question you ask yourself over and over again? Your marriage is tough You talk and talk, but he just doesn’t listen. It’s exhausting. Where’s the man you married? Somehow it seems that you’re always the one who needs to make changes to improve the relationship. It seems unfair, especially when he appears to be the problem. Early in my marriage, I felt the same way. The more I nagged and wanted to… Read more
March 27, 2019
Why I’m Glad I’m Married to My Third Husband
March 27, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Staying married isn’t easy. So how do you make your marriage work? The key to making your marriage work is understanding you won’t be married to the same guy your whole life. I’ve been married to three. I’ve been married only once. But in one marriage, I’ve been married to three different men. My husband has changed over our 33-year marriage. The man I married is not the man I’m married to today. Shortly after we married, I thought for sure… Read more
March 25, 2019
4 Reasons You Shouldn’t Gossip About Your Husband (and 1 Reason You Should)
March 25, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
When people talk about things you shouldn’t do in marriage, cheating, lying and abuse usually top the list. It’s true those things won’t lead to a successful marriage, but there’s one thing you shouldn’t do in marriage that’s rarely talked about. Gossip. Can you gossip about your husband? When you tell someone the negative attributes of someone else in an unkind way–no matter who that person is– it’s gossip. It seems to be an acceptable practice to bad-mouth your husband… Read more
March 22, 2019
7 Good Reasons You Shouldn’t Bad-mouth Your Husband
March 22, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Sharing your relationship problems with friends and family may not be the best idea. I drove around for about an hour pouring out my frustration about my husband to a friend. I told her about how wrong he was and how angry and mistreated I felt. Early in my marriage, I didn’t consider the impact of sharing relationship problems with friends and family. She asked questions. Even appeared sympathetic. Without saying it, she agreed he was the bad guy, which… Read more
March 20, 2019
10 Steps to Stop Controlling Your Husband
March 20, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Easier said than done, especially when you know best. How can you stop controlling your husband? Early in my marriage, I thought, “I know best, so let me tell you how to do it right.” In other words, let me show you how to do it my way. I thought I knew best and my husband ought to just deal with it. In reality, I was trying to control him. Maybe you can relate. Here’s how I “helped” I don’t… Read more
March 12, 2019
3 Ways to Deal With Anger
March 12, 2019 By Sheila Qualls
Marriage offers plenty of opportunities to learn how to deal with anger. Did you know anytime you’re feeling angry, you’re actually feeling something else but you’re masking the real feeling with anger? You may find yourself asking, “Why am I so angry?” Anger is a real intimacy inhibitor in marriage. Getting to the real problem is key in dealing with anger. Anger is a secondary emotion, which means there’s some other emotion hidden beneath the surface. Masked beneath anger could… Read more
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