After the buildings have burned and the haze has cleared, my sons will have to figure out how to move forward in a world that sees their black skin first. Through the smoke, I see a glimmer of hope that’s bigger than hate. Dear Sons, Even though you’ve heard this all before, I can’t risk leaving a stone unturned. Your lives are too precious to me. I’m writing to tell you the truth about racism after the tragic, unjustifiable death… Read more
May 31, 2020
A Letter to My Sons on The Truth About Racism After the Death of George Floyd
May 31, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
April 13, 2020
7 Ways to Know If You’re More Selfish Than You Think You Are
April 13, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
It’s easy to recognize selfishness in someone else, but how can you tell if you’re selfish? Ask yourself: Do you think you’re usually right? Do you need to be in control? Do you feel like no matter what your husband does, he never does it good enough? If you answered ‘yes’ to any of those questions, you’re probably more selfish than you think you are. Being selfish is a threat to marriage. Selfish people like to be in control. They… Read more
April 13, 2020
12 Ways to Make Him Sorry That Quarantine is Over
April 13, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Being cooped up can test even the best of relationships. The longer you have the stay in, the more you want to get out. Instead of wondering when will this be over, how about wondering, “How can I make him feel special?” As awful as the pandemic is, you’ll probably never again have an opportunity like this to concentrate on your marriage without the stresses of work or outside influences. Why not use this time to make your husband feel… Read more
March 26, 2020
How to Use This Pandemic to Make Your Marriage Stronger
March 26, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Quarantine can test the best of marriages. But if you’re already struggling, being stuck in a house for weeks with your husband may put the last nail in the coffin of your union. So if you’re struggling, the thought of quarantine may have you wondering, “How can I make my marriage stronger?” If you have a strong relationship, you might enjoy spending a few weeks holed up with your husband. If you’re already on the rocks, sheltering in place could… Read more
March 20, 2020
How to Handle the Homeschooling Pandemic Like a Pro
March 20, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
13 Tips to Help You Know How to Best Home School Your Child When the World Health Organization (WHO) declared coronavirus a pandemic, it set off a pandemic of fear among moms worldwide. Just like that, Covid-19 has left “regular school” moms trying to figure out how to home school a child. Curse you, coronavirus! Unlike a disease-related pandemic, moms have no emergency plan for how to home school a child. It may feel overwhelming or daunting. To describe it… Read more
March 19, 2020
4 Things Your Man Will Do No Matter How Much He Loves You
March 19, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Your husband is human. No matter how much he loves you, he’s going to mess up. He’s going to hurt your feelings. Just because he hurts your feelings doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Most of the time, it’s probably unintentional. What do you do when your husband hurts your feelings? I’m not saying hurting your feelings is okay, but don’t throw him out if he makes a mistake. A mistake and a habit are two different things. Here are four… Read more
March 19, 2020
How to Tell If You’re a Bully
March 19, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Do you do whatever is necessary to maintain control in your marriage? Do you pout or throw temper tantrums to get your way? If so, you may need to ask yourself, “Am I bullying my husband?” Women are usually portrayed as the weaker sex, but you don’t have to be physically strong or physically abusive to be a bully. You can be an emotional bully. A bullied man feels disrespected. He feels like he can’t do anything right, so he… Read more
March 19, 2020
7 Marriage Hacks You Need to Know During Quarantine
March 19, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Early in your marriage, being locked in a small, private room with your husband might’ve been a dream come true, but times have changed. How can you keep your marriage strong during quarantine? After years of marriage, being “stuck” with your husband in a small space for days, might not feel like a good thing. During quarantine, he could start to bug you. In other words, when you’re in close quarters, his habits and quirks might start getting on your nerves,… Read more
February 25, 2020
4 Bad Habits That Will Make You Justify Cheating
February 25, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
Cheating is just wrong. Most people would agree. If we all know it’s wrong, how can cheating be justified? Why do so many people cheat? Cheating doesn’t just happen. You make up your mind to cheat long before you do it. After you make the decision, you look for reason to justify it. He cheated on me. He spends too much time on his phone. He works too much. I’m lonely. Whatever the reason, cheating’s never okay. You can justify anything… Read more
February 24, 2020
How to Know If You’re ‘Affair Ready’
February 24, 2020 By Sheila Qualls
What are the warning signs of an extramarital affair? Are you primed for one? Are you frustrated, lonely and overwhelmed? Are you looking for a better situation than the one you’re in? Do you more spend time thinking about wanting out of your marriage than you do looking for reasons to stay in? When you’re ‘affair ready,’ you’re past the thinking-about-it stage. You believe the key to your happiness lies outside of your marriage. Many married people may consider having… Read more
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