December 30, 2019

Do you argue about the same issues over and over again? Do you feel like nothing will ever change? Are you feeling hopeless, lonely and frustrated and you blame him? I felt the same way until I learned something that changed everything. Are you looking at this past year of marriage saying something’s got to change? Are you asking yourself, “How can I change myself and change my marriage?” without being a doormat or being someone I’m not? It’s possible. And I’m… Read more

December 19, 2019

When I got married I didn’t understand what people meant when they said,”Respect your husband.” How do you show respect for a man? Even if I wanted to be respectful (and I’m not sure I was all that concerned with it), I didn’t know how. For starters, he did things I didn’t think were respect “worthy.” Know what I’m saying? Yeah, I’d read it in the Bible. People said it. But what did it mean? How do you do it?… Read more

December 12, 2019

Have you ever felt like crying after you opened a gift from your husband? I have. I didn’t feel like crying. I did. Christmas is supposed to be a wonderful time of year. But the holiday season can turn out to be anything but wonderful, especially when your husband gives you crummy gift. A lot of times the problem isn’t the gift itself. It’s the expectation. When your expectations go unmet, conflict arises. What do you do when your husband doesn’t… Read more

October 30, 2019

“Mary” has been divorced twice and is thinking about walking out on her third marriage. She says her husband’s changed. This is a common refrain among women who seek coaching. Why do so many husbands change after saying “I do”? Why is marriage hard? Marriage is hard because people are complicated. We don’t want to deal with conflict. And we don’t want to talk about what bugs us. If we don’t talk, we can’t understand each other. What if you… Read more

October 30, 2019

When I found myself in a hard place in my marriage, I did what people who are having trouble in their marriages do. I tried to fix it. I drug my husband to marriage counseling. It was the next option after self-help books. Does traditional marriage counseling help? In some cases, I’m sure it does. In my case, it didn’t. Week after week, I stormed into the counselor’s office, plopped down at my end of the sofa and complained about… Read more

October 8, 2019

It seems innocent. But when have you ever said to your husband, “We need to talk,” and he’s responded with, “Wow! I thought you’d never ask. I can’t wait!” Probably never because something delightful rarely follows. “We need to talk” are words your husband dreads hearing. It’s hardly ever, “We need to talk about how to make more time for sex” or “We need to talk about what a great husband you are.” If you want to cause tension in… Read more

October 4, 2019

Did you go into marriage thinking it’d be your happy place? I did. And when it wasn’t, I blamed my husband. He was supposed to be my personal happy machine. He didn’t see it that way. And since he wasn’t making me happy, I started making him miserable. I’d nag and complain because he seemed more interested in anything other than me. I longed for a happy, emotionally intimate relationship. We weren’t ever going to have one at the rate… Read more

October 4, 2019

Marrying young isn’t for everyone, but there are some benefits to those who do. People are waiting longer and longer to get married these days. Some think they may somehow be missing out by getting married young. Others think it’s better to get married when you’re older and wiser. Whether you’re old or young, marriage can be tough. You’re going to have ups and downs if you marry at 25 or 45. Is it good to marry young? I’ve been… Read more

September 30, 2019

“Lisa” said she wishes she knew what she knows now when she got married. She thinks it might’ve saved her marriage. She thought her husband was uncaring, disconnected and didn’t care about her. What if “Lisa” had known what she was experiencing in her marriage was normal? If she had known what to expect, she might not have been so quick to file for a divorce. She admits she thought they weren’t compatible because they thought differently. And she didn’t… Read more

September 25, 2019

Do you ever fight over silly things? We had a huge argument was over a can of tuna once. After a long day at work, I was exhausted. I just wanted to plop down in front of the TV and eat the last of the tuna salad. But my husband beat me to it. When I walked in the door, he was finishing it off. Ordinarily not a big deal. But I was tired, so it was a big deal…. Read more

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