1. He doesn’t apologize for being a man. He’s proud to be a man. He accepts his masculinity and knows he’s designed to be different. He’s sensitive, but he’s not a sissy. He doesn’t want you to be like him. He appreciates your differences. 2. He listens to you. He wants to hear your opinions and encourages you to express them. He’s not intimidated by your knowledge and strength. He admires them. He wants to hear what you have to say... Read more
Happily ever after doesn’t happen by itself. No fairy godmothers, no magic wands, no bippity boppity boo’s. It’s just you, your husband, and your desire to have a better marriage. If you want your happily ever after, you’ve got to work for it. Happily ever after doesn’t mean you’re happy all the time. It means you take time to learn skills to improve your marriage. Here are five books that can transform your marriage. First you’ll read a synopsis of... Read more
Is the past holding you back? It may still be painful, if it was horrible. And it might be squeezing the life out of your marriage. When painful memories begin to control you, it’s time to deal with them and begin letting them go. It’s essential if you want your marriage to thrive. How you respond to hurt is a predictor to the happiness of your marriage. Are you able to forgive and move on? Do you learn from your... Read more
Being a wife isn’t easy. Being an excellent wife can be really hard, especially in today’s culture. Biblical excellence in wifehood goes against everything society says a woman should be. Respect and submission communicate excellence but go against the cultural grain. And it’s easy to go with the grain, especially when life’s hard or you’re tired. If you’re like me, some days, you don’t feel like trying to be excellent. Some days you don’t think your husband deserves an excellent wife.... Read more
We found some baby birds in our yard last week. Really new baby birds. They looked like they’d just popped out of their shells. No feathers. They were lying on the ground waiting to be something’s dinner. We could see the nest in the tree. Undisturbed. “What kind of self-respecting mother bird would throw her babies out of the nest?” I thought. They didn’t even have feathers yet. What a creep of a mom. I was really disgusted with her.... Read more
Fighting stinks. When things get heated, it’s easy to say or do something you’ll later regret. I’ve said and done plenty. So when you sense the situation heading in that direction, back off. It’s the fastest way to stop an argument before it starts. In our era of girl power, backing off isn’t always a popular option. But in many cases, it’s best and can save a lot of wear and tear on your marriage. If your husband says or does... Read more
Has your husband ever said or done something that was completely insensitive and hurt your feelings? He might’ve started it, but you got in a few verbal jabs of your own. You part ways before the thing’s settled because you each have a thousand other things to do–kids’ baths, pay bills, make lunches–so when you come back together later that night, the issue is still unresolved. He’s most likely forgotten about it. But you haven’t. That thing about “not letting... Read more
Are you fatigued and depressed? Are you gaining weight but losing your hair? Is your marriage in shambles because in addition to everything else, your sex drive is missing in action? You could be suffering from hypothyroidism. Hypothyroidism affects millions of people worldwide, mostly women. Yet it’s one of the most unrecognized and misdiagnosed illnesses in the world. It can make you think you’re losing your mind. You’re grumpy and overwhelmed by simple tasks. I wasn’t suicidal, but death didn’t sound bad.... Read more
It’s hard to stay married to the same guy forever. Believe me, I know. I’ve been married to three. Let me explain. I’ve been married once, but over the course of 32 years, I feel like I’ve been married to three different men. The man I married more than 30 years ago is not the same man I’m married to today. Marriage is hard in the beginning. It still has its challenges. Maybe you’re in a tough season of marriage right now. Are... Read more
Can you believe how politically correct we’ve become? Are we really afraid to wish someone well by saying “Merry Christmas” because we might offend them? Seriously? Being politically correct (PC) isn’t always driven by a concern for others. Sometimes, it’s driven by fear. For years, I caved to political correctness because I was afraid what others would think if I didn’t. I used sex as a weapon. Everything short of giving birth was divided in half. And it nearly destroyed... Read more
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