On Second Thought: Episode 10

Trust me, it’s crazy to see your life on television. That’s why every week, I’m going to do a blog posts called “On Second Thought.” These posts are where I will go over the episodes of my Lifetime show as I process the issues presented now that I’ve seen them aired.  I hope you’ll join me for these weekly posts – which will undoubtedly be part-confession, part-explanation, and part-celebration of my life right now!

Episode Ten, Air Date: July 17, 2012

There are many things you shouldn’t do together before you get married.  So even though I trust Gino, I wasn’t excited about his suggestion that we invest in property together.  Why?  Because getting entangled financially when you don’t have a commitment is a recipe for disaster.

Of course, everyone is talking about this episode for reasons other than my love life or property investments.  As I wrote yesterday, irresponsible reporters are writing that Tripp uttered a slur on the episode, which he didn’t.

Since I wrote my blog, Lifetime showrunner Matt Lutz came to my defense.  He has explained that Tripp did not say the F word used for a gay slur. He told some of the magazines making these false claims that he’s reviewed the raw video several times. In fact, he was actually in the room when it happened!

And he agrees: Tripp didn’t say that word.  Maybe that will put this ridiculous issue to rest.

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  • stepfanie

    Bristol , i understand what its like to be a single mom at a young age we all make mistakes and all of yours is going to be broadcast-ed do to your mom being in the lime light, all i would like to say is your doing the best that you can with what you have with it comes to Tripp, i have a 8 year old son almost 9 who has never seen his father has only talked to him twice on the phone and has never paid anything in child-support for him.. I’ve done it all.. i’m not perfect and i’m sure that I’ve done or have said things in front of my boys that shouldn’t of been said .. again no one is perfect.. i know you get allot of back lash from people as I’ve read so far but just keep your head up and keep moving on. you know whats best for you and your son and that’s all that matters you have a strong family base that will have your back no matter what and that’s all you need.. and as my mother use to tell me .. haters make your stronger i don’t agree with the anti-gay marriage thing but to each is its own just remember that no one is a perfect parent and we all make mistakes with our kids so just stay strong and walk with your hear held high and let the haters hate it only makes you famous best of luck and wishes from here in Michigan -stepfanie

  • Theresa Bosel

    It strikes me as comical that we have so many cry babies in this country. You hurt my feelings so I am going to eviserate you????? This women is from a good family of descent people. You dont have to like her beliefs, they are hers. The bashing in this coutry makes me sick. Tripp is a little boy. Kids say stuff. So what!!!!! Let it go, there are bigger things we need to worry about in this country and you folks better start educating yourselves or we are in huge trouble. I am a 41 year old mom of 1 (15) yr old girl who I raised as a single mom for her first 7 years of her life. None of my business Miss Bristol and we can’t see what happens when the cameras are off but Gino seems like a good guy. He’s young and he will say and do dumb stuff for about the next 10 years, they all do. But he seems genuine and he seems like he genuinely loves you and the beautiful boy of yours. Gotta pick your battles and not sweat the small stuff. Again, I don’t see everything and you and Tripp should come first but it seems like he might be worth fighting for. It is tough to find a man to love a child like he does that isn’t even his. I wish you and your family luck and love. Ignore the haters! They are small minded and ignorant. Like your mom, know who you are Bristol, be a good mom and a good person and the rest will take care of itself. Because of women like your mom, the rest of us are stepping up to the plate to try to make a difference. And because of women like you more young girls are being smart and waiting.
    Much luck to you and yours!

    • HG

      Kids say stuff because their mothers say stuff. I like how everyone criticizing Bristol for her anti-gay antipathy and bigotry are “haters.” No, we’re calling out Bristol for being a hater. That’s pretty much how it works. Logic fail.

  • Lacey Bean

    Bristol this is the first time I have ever read your blog. Or any blog for that matter. I am a mother of two young children. A two year old & 5 month old. And as any parent knows children say random things. It’s part of their learning process. You are an amazing mom from what anyone can see on your show. Tripp comes first in your life before anything and that is amazing. I look up to you and respect you for what you are doing with your life. And all the people that speak bad to you or about you or your family are clearly just envious of you and all your accomplishments. If they weren’t then they wouldn’t watch your show & criticize everything you do. Keep being strong girl, Tripp needs a strong mama. And I don’t no your whole story with Gino and it’s hard to judge a book by it’s cover but he seems like he really cares about you and Tripp. Anyway this is so much longer than I expected. Just wanted to show my support to you. Maybe I’ll meet you one day when I go visit my brother in law that’s in the army, he’s being moved to Alaska :)

    Sorry for any misspelled words I have a 2 year old climbing on me.

    Lacey Bean

  • Courtney

    Dont bother setting the record straight. People always talk, no matter what you or anyone else says. Keep your head up. Lots of other 3 years old experiment with bad words. Everyone’s acting like yours is the first, I dont know why..

  • Chesney

    Bristol, I loved your shirt on last nights episode the pink/red one you wore to the grand canyon. Where did you get it… I would love one like it.

  • CJ

    Dearest Bristol,
    Choosing a husband is a serious step, but, honestly, I believe with all my heart that if 2 ppl are truly BEST FRIENDS, first and foremost, and the commandments that GOD has set forth are followed, the BLESSING of the Lord will be upon that marriage. GOD teaches us in His Word that the tongue is worse than a sword and has the power of life and death…it is a weapon which has the potential to deeply wound someone’s heart, and as such, it is so important that we strive not to wound each other with our words.
    That being said, nothing in this life is perfect, mistakes will be made, feelings will be hurt, anger will be felt, but, PRAYER, HONESTY, TRUST, COMMUNICATION & FORGIVENESS are key to a firm foundation with the LORD at its very center :)
    Any relationship takes work whether it be a while dating, in marriage, with parents, siblings, friends, bosses, co-workers, etc. There will always be stones in the path. Some may be larger than others, but, there are lessons to be learned and wisdom to be found in each and every one of them, if we are willing to see and grow.

    1 Corinthians 13:4-8
    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

    One of my favorite things to do is to listen to our WONDERFUL SENIORS share their stories about life with their spouses throughout the years. They are so precious, filled with experience, knowledge, wisdom and such a strong sense of commitment to each other and to family that I always tell them how much we need them in today’s world of disposable marriages…how much we need to hear their testimonies and how much we can learn from them. I tell them how important and valuable they are and the truth is, they are the ones who have the answers! I adore them!! 50-60 yrs w/ the same person…and they still hold hands :) They are the first to say how important it is to EXPECT that there will be times when you won’t always like each other, agree w/ one another and may even feel like running away sometimes……but, they made a promise to commit in good times and bad times and in time, they learned how to adapt, compromise, apologize, accept / forgive the imperfections in each other…..and build a family together for better or for worse. 9 out of 10 times they tell me it was worth it :) They also tell me that they find the 2 present generations to be immature, ungrateful, self centered, lacking in responsibility, needing immediate gratification and constant happiness which is “unrealistic”. They also love to inject “The grass isn’t greener” LOL. Ya just gotta Love em’!

    And so, my sweet Bristol, if you and Gino are truly BEST FRIENDS, hold hands, and embrace the stones TOGETHER :)

  • http://FaceBook Cricket Nichols

    I watched your show last night and was very disturbed that you threw Gino out of the car and Tripp telling you that he didn’t want a better daddy. Would you want Tripp’s girlfriend to throw him out of a car in the middle of nowhere when he is 21….I was very sad.

  • Ellie

    After watching episode 11 (I think) with the Grand Canyon Trip, my heart was breaking for you and Gino. Mostly because I’ve seen it so many times in my relationships and my friends. What is helping my husband and I is counseling and working through a Christian book called “Love & Respect” by Emerson & Sarah Eggerichs. http://loveandrespect.com Praying for all of you.

  • Lee

    I hope nobody here really thinks that this show is anything but scripted. I’m sure with the low ratings Bristol’s real life was getting the first few episodes, a decision was made to step things up in the drama department. It’s all about the money and having America talking about them. And we are all talking! Which is exactly what they want. I am positive right after the scene when Bristol kicks Gino out of the car, he jumped right back in it as soon as the cameras stopped rolling. And with all the money the Palin’s have, I doubt they would let Bristol drive all the way to Alaska alone. Don’t you think they could afford movers??? Everything they do is about staying in the spotlight. They can do anything because they know their koolaid drinking followers will defend them no matter what they do!

  • Lee

    Besides having the show scripted, they really need to change the name of the show. Poor Tripp usually appears for about 5 minutes in each episode. The rest of the show is focused on the wanna be Wasilla Kardashian sisters and their boyfriends! Oh yeah and Willow touring “hair schools”. That was fun!!