Peeking Into a Patriarch’s Mind?

Peeking Into a Patriarch’s Mind? July 21, 2019

This has been one of  those weeks where I wish I could just pour bleach right onto my brain and scrub hard with a steel wool bristled brush. The kind of brush you use working with stained glass.

Why? Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles has taken a subject in the most gross and disgusting directions possible. I cannot even start to describe today’s post in this chain of awful without violation of all of Patheo’s forbidden words list.

Let me lay it out simply.

First a lady asked if it was Biblical for a man to use the silent treatment.

Trey says he would orally rape his wife and force her to swallow if she dared defy him.

Tons of guys and Larry Solomon say that using domestic abuse, physical violence on a wife is right and Godly.

Today Larry explains more than you ever wanted to know about oral and anal sex. I wish I was kidding. Not safe for work or life. No linking here.  You’ll have to look on your own.

I am still puzzling how we got from discussion of the silent treatment in marriage all the way to what could be considered a sex crime in some jurisdictions. Particularly when the beginning post had nothing to do with sex.

Here’s a quick chart I made of the insanity, trying futilely to figure out how he got there. Makes no sense unless he and all his pals at Biblical Gender Roles are possibly addicted to very naughty things.

I don’t get it. But I’m glad I don’t. What do you think is going on here?

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Suzanne Titkemeyer went from a childhood in Louisiana to a life lived in the shadow of Washington, D.C. For many years she worked in the field of social work, from national licensure to working hands on in a children's residential treatment center. Suzanne has been involved with helping the plights of women and children' in religious bondage. She is a ordained Stephen's Minister with many years of counseling experience. Now she's retired to be a full time beach bum in Tamarindo, Costa Rica with the monkeys and iguanas. She is also a thalassophile. She also left behind years in a Quiverfull church and loves to chronicle the worst abuses of that particular theology. She has been happily married to her best friend for the last 33 years. You can read more about the author here.
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  • Kenneday DeGraffenreid

    I’m stunned by how awful this man is and wonder why he isn’t on a government watch list.

  • Jennifer

    Guessing he’s trumpeting the kind of sex he likes, which apparently they consider empowering, while trashing the kind he considers emasculating.

  • SAO

    It’s red-pillism. He wants sex but dislikes women, so he tries to create and enforce rules to get what he wants without having to deal with what his wife wants.

  • Martin Penwald

    Considering the current administration, he is probably on a list. But for being the next president of the women’s health committee.

  • Saraquill

    It would be better for everyone’s peace of mind if he purchased a blow up doll and called it a day.

  • Saraquill

    In lieu of brain bleach, I offer this cat video:

  • Polytropos

    They’re obsessed with se&#8203x, and I’m pretty sure a lot of this su&#8203bmission stuff is all about ki&#8203nk with these guys. But it’s a deeply unhealthy, to&#8203xic form of ki&#8203nk because they have no understanding of, or interest in, consent, don’t view women as people, and are in general the worst kind of hate-filled sc&#8203um.

  • Jennifer

    I agree, it’d be very odd if he isn’t. Esp considering how Google’s been cracking down.

  • Friend

    Larry’s beliefs are all h@te. Christianity has serious problems, but his version is s1ck, warped, and not authentic. Everything is about his personal power over his wife and children.

    He never writes about love, or about helping anyone except his sorry, selfish self. I blame him, I blame his father, and I blame his church.

  • He is MAN and therefore justified in anything he does. Women just need to, pardon the phrasing, suck it up and obey…

    (I gagged writing that.)

  • Mel

    Taking another step – I doubt these men like anyone else besides themselves. Imagine putting Ken Alexander/Trey, Larry Solomon/Harriman, every wacko pastor we’ve discussed here with the name Doug, and Steven Anderson in a room together.

    They’d get along for….oh….30 minutes to an hour at most….and then the jockeying for power would start and they’d all be at each other’s throats.

    These men are severely lacking in basic humanity. Most humans start to want to give back to the people around them as toddlers. My two-year old is starting to give hugs and kisses along with pretending to feed us and read books to my husband and I. He wants to give as well as receive.

    These men just want to take without ever giving anything back – and that’s why they fail miserably at life. Yeah, in an asynchronous internet setting, they can keep some viewers going – but as soon as they need to interact with real people – the thin veneer of ‘misunderstood prophet in the wilderness” or whatever schtick they have going for them falls apart.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    But would it not make a fascinating reality tv show to put them all together in a Big Brother type house and have them battle for supremacy? I would watch

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I suspect he hides a lot of this from his church. It’s an IFB church but he likely wears his mask there and no one suspects the evil monster under the internet bridge. Why else freak out over exposure unless there are some real world consequences of his hateful views?

  • Friend

    Maybe, but I think a guy like this would only attend church if he feels bolstered by the culture and the message. My wild guess is that husbands rule the roost in that congregation, and there might be a lot of preaching on the evi1s of modern society. Somehow I don’t see Larry preparing vats of stew for the homeless shelter.

  • Jennifer

    Who’s Harriman?

  • NikkiofAmystika

    Larry Harriman is credibly believed to be the real name of the odious Larry Solomon of Biblical Gender Roles infamy.

  • NikkiofAmystika

    Can we include Tim Bayly too?

  • Aloha

    He likes getting oral sex, but somehow I doubt that he’s ever given it.

  • Jennny

    That’s exactly what I think when I read frequently on P/NR that these white evangelicals support Trump are really doing it as they believe it will lead to the fantasy of their dreams, a x-tian theocracy in your country. In practice, should that ever happen…it would take all of an hour before they fell out, argued as to who should be top dog..started new cults…and probably fought to the death with one another.

  • johnsoncatman

    Only if it takes place in a cage with various weapons available.

  • Mel

    Sure. I’d forgotten him in the list of toxic jerks. Hell, you can throw in Geoffrey Botkin, Doug Phllips, and Bill Gothard for fun, too.

  • SAO

    The misogyny would make me sick to my stomach.

  • AFo

    Everything eventually comes back to sex with these guys because it’s all they think about, it what they think women are there for, and it’s the only reason most of them got married in the first place.

  • As long as weapons were provided…

  • Emergency kitties always help with this sort of thing.

  • Don’t forget Wilson. One Doug deserves the other.

  • Lisa Cybergirl

    They’d be like crabs in a bucket, tearing each other down so none of them could escape.

  • The Lord of the Flies effect that is provided by the internet hides much and reveals much. It makes me think of the Basil Faulty character of Faulty Towers. He says the stuff that many folks would love to blurt out, but we get to watch him face the consequences for his crassness and lack of valor.

    That said, I suspect that many of these self-declared and other ideologues never practice what they preach. Their wives won’t let them get away with this stuff in real life, so they play out their lame fantasies on the internet. There is that part of the brain that cannot differentiate between what is real and what is imagined. So I suspect that just being a blowhard can be quite satisfying for them.

  • Exactly. If women are created solely to be helpmeets, why would entitlement not call for men to help themselves?

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    I suspect they are all ‘yes, dear’ milquetoast with the wives in real life.

  • Nightshade

    I’d chip in for the purchase if it would give his poor wife some peace.

  • Kathleen

    It would be better for everyone if he moved his fat ass to some other planet and take all his friends with him.

  • Ally

    He’s claimed before to be super into giving, but he’s also said that he thinks that the female org@sm is also God’s gift to men–because it enhances male s3xual pleasure.

  • Brian Curtis

    Is it Biblical? Sure. That’s how you know it’s evil.

  • GeckoShamelessRaceMixer

    Wow. I wish these people could see how much they sound like the militant Islamic clerics whose stuff I’ve had the misfortune to read (Iraq Veteran here.) Straight down to arguing the finer points of how violently they can beat their wife, how young a wife they can take, and which sex acts are permissible, discussed in graphic detail. But these same people run around screaming Sharia Law! It’s coming for us all!!

    No, weirdos, you’ve gone and replicated the worst of Islamic extremism for yourselves. The calls are coming from inside the house.

  • JetGirl

    Oh heavens no. Lady parts are gross and sinful.

  • JetGirl

    Yes, for a congratulatory dinner with Pence and Mother.

  • B.A.

    I’d bring the beer and popcorn.

  • B.A.

    Or for a job.

  • lady_black

    Marriage is bound to be bitterly disappointing for them, if they got married expecting it would be a sex-a-palooza. Most married couples spend most of their time NOT having sex.

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Yeah, well, I always say you better find something you have in common to talk about once the bedroom hijinks are over. Discovered quickly that hot guys were sometimes not much fun outside of the bedroom.

  • Quinsha

    He is answering the question that he wishes had been asked instead.

  • Jennifer

    Stupid pig.

  • Jennifer

    Excellent point. And thank you for your service!

  • Jennifer

    Not Biblical at all.

  • Jennifer

    Ohh yeah, ok. Thanks!

  • persephone

    Having seen a picture of Larry, I would say he probably can’t manage more than a couple of minutes with him doing the work. He’s probably dialed up pr0n69 on his phone and watches while getting what he wants.

    I wonder what’s going to happen to his daughter.

  • fractal

    Social Service workers know that rapey and abusive men love to commiserate with each other.
    In prison, group homes, rehab…they congregate and trash women, to the point that most institutions have guidelines warning the workers that they need to “Break It Up” as part of their rehabilitation.

    It is kinda a circle-gerk for abusers.

  • fractal

    Put a group of various kinds of Fundamentalists in a room together for 2 days, and some of them won’t come out alive. All of them will be scarred.

    Put a group of Humanists together for two days, and they will have started a new 501C3.

    Put a group of various kinds of mystics together for two days, and they will still be dancing and singing and reciting poetry and eating potluck-leftovers at the end!
    They will be new best friends, and a few of them will end up getting married to each other eventually.