Archives for 2013


The following post is by Jason Bilbrey, Director of Pastoral Care at The Marin Foundation. You can read more from Jason at his blog, I was recently having lunch with a friend. Great guy. Conservative in a mainstream Evangelical way and also really bright, reasonable and charitable. I’ve known him for years. We were [Read More…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – 11/18

For our upcoming Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, November 18, we will be discussing singleness in relation to our broader culture and our respective faith traditions. What are the joys and frustrations that you experience (or did experience) with singleness? What does it look like to be single and a sexual being even [Read More…]

On finding a Christ-centered, gay-friendly church

 Warren Perry is a teacher and coach, Southerner and Yankee,  sinner and saint living in the tension in New York City. He can be reached at Throughout my life, I experienced a number of changes at school, with friends, and in jobs. But one mainstay that provided a deep sense of grounding and stability [Read More…]

The Difference Between Sexual Identity and Lifestyle Choice

As a result, many evangelical Christians are woefully inept at loving gay folks well. Predictably, we don’t love ourselves much better—even when our sexual orientation and behavior lines up perfectly with the best-case scenario recommendation of our sexual ethic since we developed that ethic in the absence of a robust concept of sexual identity. Why do we do keep doing this and what’s at stake? What might change for the better if evangelical Christians took a solid crack at exploring sexual identity directly rather than avoiding the matter or reverting to clichés and subcritical, scriptural misapplications? Here’s the first of a series of posts on this topic and why it makes such a huge difference for our lives and those we have been guided by God to love. [Read more…]

Strong Language

The following post is from Brent Bailey, a Master of Divinity student at Abilene Christian University. You can find his blog at Let’s talk about strong language. I grew up in a household that prohibited the use of profanity. My parents established and modeled a certain vocabulary standard, and though they enforced it graciously, the list [Read More…]

Gay Marriage Passed in Illinois

The following post is written by Andrew Marin, President and Founder of The Marin Foundation I’ve lived in Illinois my whole life (well, except for the past two and a half months while in St. Andrews). Illinois is where every word of Love Is an Orientation was lived in real-time. And last night, after a [Read More…]

Why you should attend your gay loved one’s wedding

One of the most common questions I’m asked as the Director of Pastoral Care here at The Marin Foundation is about going to gay weddings. “Am I allowed to go?” “Will the couple assume that I approve of their union or same-sex marriage in general?” “Will my church friends?” My answers to these questions are–respectively–yes, no, and possibly. But my advice is always the same: Go. [Read more…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – Nov. 4

For our next Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, November 4th, we will be talking about marriage. Rather than a discussion about our views on the legal, moral, and human rights topics surrounding marriage for gay and lesbian individuals, we will be talking about marriage in a more general sense. This conversation will lead [Read More…]

The Cover for My New Book

Here it is! You can read the description here. I’ll be posting some great promotional opportunities soon (and by “great” I mean get the book in-advance for FREE!) #OurLastOption Much love. [Read more…]

When My Wife Came Out

The following post is by Jason Bilbrey, our Director of Pastoral Care here at The Marin Foundation.  You can read more from Jason at his blog, I was homeschooled all throughout high school. I had a job gathering shopping carts from the Lowe’s Home Improvement Store parking lot at closing time. I’d get home close [Read More…]

Failure of the imagination

This post is by Melinda Guerra, Admin Assistant here at The Marin Foundation. “The sooner you are dead the better.” He couldn’t see her in the darkness, but there were plenty of faces he could remember from the old days which fitted the voice.   When you visualized a man or woman carefully, you could [Read More…]

Jesus Shows How Arguing the Bible With People Is Pointless

In Matthew 4:1-11, Satan temps, tests, argues, debates, whatever you want to call it, with Jesus to try and use God’s own words against the Son. We all do this in one way or the other, well intentioned or not, because we’re all working through our own lens of interpretive correctness. This structure lends itself to engaging in theological debates through quoting verses we already have a high-level of buy-in, and believe strongly in, as our baseline justification for the potential of the other’s worldview conversion. It doesn’t work. And it’s pointless. [Read more…]

The ‘Other’ As Examen

The following post was written by Kevin Harris, Director of Community Relations at The Marin Foundation. Lately I’ve been learning more about the prayer of examen, a prayer for detecting God’s presence and God’s direction in our daily lives as well as examining our consciousness. As I’m attempting to examine my day, I’ve found myself [Read More…]

Living in the Tension Gathering – 10/21

For our upcoming Living in the Tension gathering on Monday, October 21, we will be watching the documentary Love Free or Die. The film focuses on the story of Gene Robinson, the first openly gay person to become a bishop in the historic traditions of Christendom. It follows Robinson’s personal story as American churches debate [Read More…]