Quoting Quiverfull: Submit So God Will Save Your Husband?

quotingquiverfullby Kristen Victory from No Greater Joy – Husband Comes to Christ

Editor’ note: Edited out the extraneous parts where the original author kept talking about them hanging out with Godly friends and how that rubbed on her husband. This is one of the more dangerous lies in Quiverfull, if you just do everything right God will change your man into a better version and you’ll finally be happy in your marriage. It’s the lie that most women coming into Quiverfull are buying that does so much harm to the marriage.

The last time you heard from me I had QUIT MY JOB!—the tiresome job of trying to lead my husband to lead our family. What happened next? Did I miraculously become the perfect wife and meet his every need? Did he take up Bible reading—get saved? NOPE! But, I laid down a load that God never intended for me to carry. When I realized the futility and fallacy of trying to lead him to faith in God, I started paying more attention to my own commitment to Christ…and praying like crazy for my man…and that is where our story really begins.

As time went on, and I could tell my husband had truly started seeking God, I wondered if it was because I had gotten out of the way. Instead of having to prove something to his “religious wife,” he could just seek Christ on his own. So, on Sunday mornings we would take long 1-2 hour drives, and he would casually ask me to read the Bible aloud or listen to Bible teaching CDs. Over the course of several months, I could tell that my husband had learned the gospel of Jesus Christ, plain and simple. Then one day we listened to Mike Pearl’s “God Hates Sinners.” It was like another blast went off in the car. We suddenly realized how depraved we both were, and how sin separates us from God. That’s a big deal coming from our culture of  ‘God Loves You Just the Way You Are’ teachings.

Then he asked me about getting baptized. I told him that I was going to do it next time we visited…that I just hadn’t thought about it for quite a while, but that it is right for us to do it now. Then I told him, “My soul feels totally at rest. I don’t fear death as I once did. I know the Way has been made for me. I feel totally different. Yup, we are getting baptized in a few weeks.”

I could barely speak. My wonderful man had been Born Again…and I WAS going to get baptized…outside…in Cane Creek…in January—and with MY husband.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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