On Second Thought, Camping and Baby Bottles

Trust me, it’s crazy to see your life on television. That’s why every week, I’m going to do a blog posts called “On Second Thought.” These posts are where I will go over the episodes of my Lifetime show as I process the issues presented now that I’ve seen them aired.  I hope you’ll join me for these weekly posts – which will undoubtedly be part-confession, part-explanation, and part-celebration of my life right now!

Episode Thirteen, Air Date: July 31, 2012

We moved to Juneau when Mom became Governor of Alaska, which was a big transition for our family.  When I joined my new school’s basketball team, the team manager, Marissa, quickly became my best friend. Half Japanese and half native, she had dark hair, a funny sense of humor, and we became best friends instantly.  And we still are!

Back in those more innocent days of school, we never would’ve guessed both of us would’ve ended up pregnant without being married.  That’s why I was glad she and I were able to do something nice for unwed teen moms.  I loved sitting around with those girls, their cute babies, and hearing everyone’s stories.  Talking to them gives a more realistic picture of teen pregnancy.  Though the children are blessings, having them without the benefit of marriage is not ideal.

I wanted to give them a little encouragement, and what better way than with a Bible verse?  Mom helpfully provided some inspiration.  In case you couldn’t hear which Bible verses we underlined in those cute pink Bibles, it was Jeremiah 29:11:

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

It was great to have Gino camping with us, but – gosh – it’s always so complicated.  It pains me when I hear Tripp call him Dad.   (Though, truth be told, he also uses that term to refer to my dad, my brother, and my uncles.  He seems to address anyone who’s a father figure to him as “Dad,” something he’ll grow out of I’m sure.  Thankfully, he has the best role models in my dad and brother.  This will help him be so well rounded because he gets to be around such good guys!)  Gino particularly annoyed me when he described his ideal relationship, by saying he wanted me to be a “good girl who will cook and clean.”

Cook and clean? Of course, I cook and clean.  But I’m more than that.  I’m convinced he realizes this, but the whole conversation just struck me wrong.  I think sometimes we just talk past each other.  I don’t know. Since neither of us are perfect, it’s just hard to know how to deal with our relationship sometimes.

At least I didn’t lose $400.

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  • e

    is the show done for the season and will it be back next year? Enjoyed it, great scenery!

  • Lynda Armstrong

    I have enjoyed your show…watching Gino with Tripp doing all the daddy things one would understand why he calls him daddy…I would guess if we saw him with your dad and brother we see the same … just being there for him…looking forward to watching you on DWTS…God Bless

  • Jan Page

    I’ve enjoyed your show, Bristol. I will miss it now that it is over. Keep the faith! You will know when the right guy comes around. Just like your Mom knew that your Dad was the one for her.

  • Gary P Jackson

    That was a good show. Far be it for me to give relationship advice, but I hope you and Gino either figure out how to make it work, or move on. Life’s too short.

    You’ve certainly matured and are a great mom. You had an awesome role model, for sure!

    Good luck on DWTS and God bless.

  • Charli Chad

    Beautiful post. Humility and admitting our faults brings understanding and growth. I’m going to miss your show! Will it be back?

  • katelyn

    is the season over? :( not cool, i hope your back for a new season. your a great person, dont let negative comments bother you. – katelyn crowley ridge, ny

    (affter seeing your show i have thought about moving there, i think i would love to live there, its beautiful :) )

  • katelyn

    move to alaska that is lol

  • Haley

    I love you and Gino together! In addition to your dad and Track, Gino is a very positive role model for Tripp. On a side note, what was wrong with Gino’s voice in the past2 episodes?

  • robhart

    Here’s to the next phase of what life brings on….Life is a trip…….You have shown that life is also a blessing. See you on DWTS.

  • Lynda Armstrong

    A Family: Unconditional Love
    What I felt after reading and re-reading your book and watching you with your family…

    This past week I re-read Bristol Palin’s book. I must say it affected me the same as it did the first time. It is a book that all young teenage girls (and maybe boys) should read and I suspect if Mom and Dad read it they would see that maybe things have not changed a-lot. Only this time it is their daughter being told by a boy “if you don’t, then I will go somewhere else”.

    This is not a book report … it is about a young girl and a family with unconditional love and as she tried to find her way it was played out like drama for the world to see.

    What was this teenager girl’s crime? The answer is nothing…she had heard the words “if you don’t I will find someone who will”. She felt she had no choice even though she was going against her value system. That choice changed her life in ways she never dreamed; she became an unwed teenage mom.

    Dreams were lost; a Mom and Dad’s hearts were broken, hurting for a child they loved and knowing her life would never be the same. Even with the birth of her son she still knew that the choice she had made was a mistake but not by having this beautiful child. He was a gift from God; and with the family who gave unconditional love helping her she began to raise this beautiful child.

    Oh, nothing was easy, but the love was there…she had walked away from the family, but came back and saw the gate wide open and arms waiting for her return to this family who gave unconditionally. Was it easy? No, but the love was there. It would not be easy but with love it was still home.


    “On Wednesday morning ,the final three couples made their appearances on GMA. On the show, I danced one more time with Mark, and the producer surprised us with personal video messages from our families.

    “You overcame a whole lot of challenges starting from ground zero to come so far”, my Mom said on my video. “All of Alaska, we’re proud you.”

    I teared up. There was something about seeing Mom’s face that made me feel unusually emotional. We’d been through a-lot over the past few years, and we’d managed to end up stronger than when we started…through repentance, forgiveness, and the unconditional love of family.”

    The above are Bristol’s words. Her family has been hit every day with some lie or half truth…but as a family they understand what God has said in 1 Corinthians 13 :13 ….”And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”

    Bristol had said that the media had not stopped. Sadly that still remains true today … but we know one thing Sarah and Todd with their family will make it because they know and understand unconditional love… So Dance like David ..