Archives for April 2009

Did I *really* trust Him?

by Vyckie I had lunch with Hazelle at school on her 13th birthday ~ this year was the first time that I didn't cry as I remembered the trauma of my 4th pregnancy and delivery ~ in fact, I hardly thought of it at all ~ so yeah, time does bring healing and I'm grateful for that.There's an interesting discussion going on over in the NLQ forums about quiverfull families who are "trusting the Lord" with their family planning and at the same time, accepting government assistance to support their children.themomma said: This is one of my biggest complaints against a quiver family I know.It is all "we are leaving it God" while they are using services. I think it is "selective faith" at … [Read more...]

There Is No "You" in Qivering: He Preferred Crest

by LauraI have seen comments here on the blog that say that Vyckie and I chose this lifestye. That it was a conscious decision on our parts to live this QF/P life. I can only speak for myself and I can attest that it was definitely NOT a conscious decision on my part. I took what was the “frog in the pot of hot water” path. It is said that if you put a frog into a pot of cool water he will be content to sit there enjoying his soak in the “tub”. Turn up some heat under the pot and the frog will not notice. He won't notice that the water has become warmer and warmer until the water is too hot for him to survive. By then it is too late. He is boiled.I came into the QF/P lifestyle in much t … [Read more...]

Vyckie's Tour de Crap: Bless, Do Good, Pray … 3 Remedies for Sibling Rivalry

This photo of my five girls was taken last Christmas ~ and yes, they still do argue with each other ‹(ô¿ô)›Here's another of my "Q.D." (Quivering Days) articles which I wrote for our paper ~ this was subsequently published in several popular home school magazines. As you read, keep in mind that at the time I wrote this, I was near the breaking point from all the stress in our home ~ things were really falling apart for us, with Angel cutting herself and Warren growing more paranoid and difficult by the day. I was trying to hold it all together. I could see that the lifestyle we'd adopted was really not working out for us ~ but at the time I wrote this article, I couldn't quite admit what o … [Read more...]

When am I supposed to sleep…?

 by LauraWhen my 11th baby was born, he had feeding issues. He just wasn't getting the hang of nursing and I think my “plumbing” was getting a bit worn out. After two weeks of trying and trying and him crying and crying, I took him to a Lactation Clinic an hour and a half away. The nurses and doctors were wonderful and remembered me from the last time I had a baby with these problems. They told me that I needed to use a breast pump every two hours all day and every 4 hours at night and keep track of how much milk I was making and feed every drop to my baby and supplement him with formula so he would gain weight.Now, being a QF mom, I felt that bottles and formula equaled failure. I mean, … [Read more...]


By LauraToday is a special day for me. It marks the one year anniversary of the final time I left Dale. I had tried to leave 3 or 4 times before but , like many women in unhealthy relationships, I kept coming back. I have heard it said that a woman in an abusive relationship will leave the abuser an average of 7 times before she will actually stay away. 7 times! Wow. It didn't take me that many tries but it did take a few!Vyckie offered me a place to live, support and love and understanding. No strings attached, no time table, no rent required. Just a place to clear my head and figure out my life.I remember that it was April 14th, 2008, because it was the day before my birthday. … [Read more...]

Another baby for the Duggars … 1st grandchild is on the way

by VyckieThe Duggar family is in the news again ~ the oldest son, Joshua's wife is pregnant with the first grandchild.Oh how I used to admire the Duggars! I was in awe of Michelle ~ and I so wished that Angel could spend time with the Duggar girls ~ maybe a little of their compliance and enthusiasm for the Quiverfull lifestyle would have rubbed off ~ and then we could all continue on in our illusion that QF/P is actually a wonderful, godly lifestyle which makes for happy families. ......................................................................................................// < ![CDATA[ //NLQ recommended reading:'Quivering Daughters' by Hillary … [Read more...]

We didn't want to be BALANCED

by VyckieMe & my boys ~ at a homeschooling conference ~ soaking up new ideas about how to live a godly lifestyle that would be pleasing to the Lord.Many NLQ readers have expressed their observation that in any healthy belief system or chosen lifestyle, there needs to be "balance" ~ a quick glance through the comment section will yield plenty of observations that we've gone from "one extreme to the other."Part of the reason I'm writing this blog is to hopefully help those who have never personally been steeped in the fundamentalist mindset get a glimpse inside the world and ~ more significantly ~ the head of one who's been there and done that. So ~ with that goal in mind, let me … [Read more...]

A voice from my past …

by LauraLaura & Richard, 1981In order to tell the next part of my story I have to go back a bit in time. It may not make sense to you at first but stay with me. It will. Back in the summer of 1980, I met a young Marine and fell in love. He was so handsome and strong and wonderful. He treated me like his princess and I adored him. We spent the summer riding around on his motorcycle, going to Disneyland and the beach. It was wonderful! But there was a problem... I lived 450 miles away. He lived in the same town as my dad and I could only see him when I went on visitation to my dad's place. But love knows no distance. We corresponded and talked on the phone and every time I went to … [Read more...]


 by VyckieLaura's got my Happiness! Yesterday I took my 13-year-old daughter, Hazelle (whom I've nicknamed Happy Hazelle or Happiness) to the airport ~ she's spending Spring Break in Seattle with Laura. Fun ;-)Okay ~ I'm commenting on my own post about STRONG WOMEN because I've thought of something else that I wanted to say on this topic.The strength that I had which kept me going was my conviction. I did it because I was so thoroughly convinced that this is what the bible taught and what pleased the Lord. I'd have done anything to please God.The minute that I realized that I no longer believe in God ~ that strength left me and I couldn't do it any more. I lost my motivation. I … [Read more...]

It's about a VISION

Vyckie's family 2007An important consideration that's obviously on everyone's mind here can be summed up this way: All those years that I published a "pro-life, pro-family" newspaper and I was writing articles for home school magazines encouraging others to live a QF/patriarchal lifestyle ~ we seemed to have a really nice, happy family. The Bennett Family was a role model for other Christian families ~ we were even honored by the governor of Nebraska in 2003 as "Family of the Year." I've shared many testimonies of God obviously working in our lives. (Be sure to click that link.) Now I've set up a blog and I'm writing a book saying this lifestyle ~ and the Christian worldview which … [Read more...]